Dealing with Fear

[novasmom08]

I have Researched and Researched UC...I feel it is a great option and most of the time I am VARY confidant in my choice. Yet Sometimes I get myself so freaked out that I start to panic!...
It only happens when I have been under extra stress (Or thats how it seems)....
I have an answer to my "what ifs"...I know what to do, should something go wrong...Yet I get these "Panic attacks".

Did anyone go through this? I am nervous this will happen while I am giving birth....
and does anyone have advice????

[poiyt]

what are your fears? Are you fears your what ifs? Or does it go beyond that? I know the fear I had to get over most was if something happened, could I handle all the judgment from everyone. I knew people would blame me, even though no matter where I birthed if something happened I would blame me...my family and some friends would be less than supportive....it was a very real fear...

I had to address it straight on. visualize it, work through it, accept it, and let it go.

any fears i had were gone during my birth...it was a wonderfully blissful birth..

[fyrebloom]

I find the best way for me to work through fears is through knowlage. This unfortunately only works with birth complication fears and not my fears that DPs might miss the birth or that the neighbors might call CPS on me or whatever. Like Poiyt said

address it straight on. visualize it, work through it, accept it, and let it go.

[lia_joy]

I'm sure I went through this process for my UCs, though my fears were more specific complications I felt the need to understand (cord prolapse, for instance)

I actually had more of a panic kind of fear surrounding my sister's hospital birth (with MW) which i was invited to. She went to 41 weeks and they were giving her things to start labor. I was so anxious for her (having had 3 amazing unmanaged UCs) I woke up at 3am with a dream that my niece was stillborn. I knew I needed to figure out if it was intuition or Fears because I wasn't about to freak my sister out for no reason, but I thought, 'god, what if something Does happen and I could have said something but I didn't?' It was a horrible dilemma. But I just had to lay there and really focus inward, meditate, and sort of pray for the clarity to separate my fear from my intuition... I told my higher self that I needed more information if this was intuition and asked for the dream to continue if that was the case, But by the time I fell asleep, a sense of peace had come over me and i was confident that the dream was about me, not my niece (though I'd be lying if i said i never gave it another thought during the labor the next night) She's now a healthy happy 6mo old playing on my carpet

I think part of the reason I was so freaked out about my sisters pregnancy/birth is because I wasn't as connected with it... I didn't have the 'inside scoop' I had with my own pregnancies.

So what I'm suggesting is looking inward to find clarity, and from there you can figure out what/if there are areas you feel you need more information/planning on to feel prepared...