Does your SO go to the Dr./midwife with you?

[kbcain]

DH wants to go today for my first appointment. I told him it was very sweet of him, but I really just want to go by myself. He went to almost every appointment with my DS. I went to the Dr. by myself when I found out I miscarried in 2006 and I told him I'd never go alone again....but now I really just want to be by myself while I'm there.

Thoughts?

[Sihaya]

DH went to every mw appt with me except one with DS. This time I plan on having him at the first appt (at 20 weeks), but I'd like the rest of my appts during the day during the week and I don't want him to take off of work for them. It's just not as important to me to have him there with me this time.

[notjustmamie]

Not in your DDC, but DH always goes with me (as does DD this time). In our case, he wants to go as much as I want him to be there. Does your DH really want to come, or is he just doing it because you've said you want him there?

[Red Sonja]

No, he doesn't. He went to the ultrasound with DS, and with DD1 he was at the home visit with my midwife. He didn't make it to any appointments with DD2, and I doubt he will this time either. (He's in the Navy and was gone for large parts of my other pregnancies.)

[Burnindinner]

The mw we had last time did all our prenatal visits at our house, so we scheduled them for his lunch break. This time around I would probably want him to come to as many as he could make, but it would be OK to miss some too. The "boring" ones where we don't do much.

[cormama]

My DH is going to the first one for the nurse consultation, the 12 week to hear the heart, and to the 9 and 20 week ultrasounds. He has a crazy work schedule so it's next to impossible to make them all when he can come. I think for all of the 'checks' it's not so important for him to come.
Is your DH just not quite as excited as you are right now?

[Sonnet]

H was great about this during the ill-fated pregnancy, and has been just as involved and attentive this time around. I really appreciate that.

[preciousstone]

ddc crashing - my dh has gone to all of my appts so far. i like it bc it establishes a relationship w/ my docs betw dh and doc; i feel that will be useful during the birth.

[SeattleRain]

My DH is going to our first prenatal appt at 8wks where they do the first ultrasound but I don't think he'll go to the rest. There's one once a month you know? That's a lot of time for him to take off work. He has kind of a stressful office situation and I don't know that he can take off as much as I might like. Afterall, I want to save that time for when I have the baby!

[Pinoikoi]

With my first pregnancy he was there every time. Second, he was there most of the time.. but now, he hates going... I think part of it is we have had losses, so he would rather not get too attached early.

When I wanted to switch from an OB to a midwife, though he wanted to meet her and question her before he was ok with it.

[jasonswife06]

He will go to the first one (esp. b/c no one knows & we have no one to watch dd) and the 20 week one for the u/s. But other than that probably not. Too hard for him to get off & my midwife's office is an hour away Plus after we tell the family my mom can watch dd in the waiting room.

[Milk8shake]

Nope, didn't come to any appts with my last pg, which kind of sucked as it turned out. I really wish he could have been with me to see that little heart beating away before we lost bub.
This time round, I don't expect much different. His work schedule is hectic, and his boss is a loser, who won't make it easy. But I will try my best to drag him along at least once

[mountainsun]

Yes, my dh has been to every prenatal for both pregnancies He really likes going, likes our midwife. This time, we'll see - I am sure he will be at most of them.

[Gypsy.Momma]

My Dh works out of town is home 1 week out of each month. He makes it to whatever appointments/ultrasounds he can though. I like him to come to the first heartbeat one and the 20 week ultrasound other then that I prefer to go on my own.

[SaraMum]

DP came to one appointment last time but he didn;'t see thepoint (neither did I with an OB lol) He came to both ultrasounds though. This time he will be coming to a few more appts as we have a midwife and I feel it will be beneficial for him especially as we take the plunge and plan a homebirth

[Traceround]

He has been to every appointment but one every step of the way through our fertility treatments.

Now my problem is that everyone else and their grandmother wants to come too.

[bananabee]

My DH doesn't want anything to do w/my "lady" appts, but he'll want to go for the U/S when they'll try to identify the gender. I'll have to be transported by stretcher to my doc's office, so maybe I won't have that many appts. This is going to be such a weird pregnancy for me. Totally not how I expected things to go. DH is still kinda in denial about how bad my back condition is, and is just barely comprehending that I'm truly pregnant.

[caro113]

DP goes to every appt. He may not go to every appt this time, simply because of work, but I can't go alone since we only have one car. We'll either go together this time, or I'll go with a friend of mine who already agreed to go with me I need her to drive me, but that's only if we absolutely have to go when he's working.

DP really enjoys going to the appts. He more or less annoys me mainly because he cried at our first ultrasound, cried at hearing the heartbeat, cried when we found out she was girl, cried when she born. The man cried over everything. I realize he was just excited and his main reason for crying when she was born (and thus when he held her) was because he lost his first daughter and never held her. But I still enjoy teasing him about being overly sensitive, especially since I never cried over any of that. But at least I know he cares.

[maybemom05]

DH came to most appointment for our first pregnancy. For our second, he came to the ultrasounds and the last few appointments before my due date. His work schedule is really crazy, and it's hard for him to get away. I'm planning to schedule for Fridays or Mondays if I can, since those are slightly better days. I know he'll be there this time for the ultrasound visits, other than that, I'll just keep my fingers crossed - I know he likes hearing the heartbeat, etc. and he'll do the best he can.