what would you do?

[anomaly13]

DH has a super sweet tooth and wants what he calls "crack" candy and sweets every night (he calls it crack because it's so sweet like skittles, oreos, baby ruth's and "wedding" cake with tons of frosting - really unhealthy stuff). I also have a sweet tooth but would rather not have sweets around otherwise I eat too much of it. Anyways, when I bake I prefer to make "healthy" things with whole wheat flour and less unrefined sugar or honey and a healthy fat, but he always complains thats it's "health cake" and then he won't finish it. I do this mostly for the kids and then myself and for DH too thinking of his health, although he is in really good health and does eat a pretty healthy diet otherwise.

So I have found myself making 2 versions of things or just making his version and then eating it myself and even letting ds eat it. (I have seriously made 2 different pancakes batters in the mornings and even 2 different kinds of fried rice for dinner, one with white rice one with brown - I don't do that anymore he just eats the brown rice)

Does anyone else have a picky eater in the house who won't eat "healthy" foods, sweets/desserts in particular? If it were one of the kids I would say too bad but I feel, and so does DH, that he deserves at least that much I mean he is working away from home all day and he's an adult who is educated enough to make his own choices. (before we met he was a microbiotic vegan for 7 years and when we met he was and still does eat just about everything but pork and cow's milk) I have considered buying him cookies from the store just for him but they are a rip off and gone in a few days and sometimes I will eat them too just because they are there, even when I know I shouldn't, I guess I'm in need of some self control.

so what would you do?

[cristeen]

Originally Posted by anomaly13

If it were one of the kids I would say too bad but I feel, and so does DH, that he deserves at least that much I mean he is working away from home all day and he's an adult who is educated enough to make his own choices.
so what would you do?

Yes, he is an adult, and therefore you can't make those choices for him. But, he is an adult and is perfectly capable of stopping at the store and buying something if he wants it. The simple fact that he WOH does not give him the right to dictate to you that you need to make 2 versions of each dish, one healthy and one not. That's a waste of your time and effort, and sends an entirely bad message to your kids, IMO.

You also do not need to buy the stuff at the store for him and keep it in the house. Since you know that you have self-control issues around these things, make it very clear to him that he is welcome to eat what he wants but that you'd appreciate it if he didn't eat it around the kids, and he didn't keep it in the house for you to eat either. Ask for his support in making better choices for your own health, and ask him to eat that stuff at the office, or in the car or at a restaurant, etc. If you approach it as making these things about your own health, and asking him to support you in being healthier, rather than about dictating his choices to him, many men will be more accommodating.