I don't think I've ever posted in this forum before, but I just wanted to say in response to this that even as a 30-year old mother I wasn't able to eat and breastfeed my son at the same time. My breasts are just too big and unwieldly, I had to hold DS with one hand and my breast with the other hand the entire time. And early on, most of his feedings were on average 20 minutes, so adding in time to just walk from class to a daycare and then back again would probably take up a full lunch break (ours was only 30 minutes when I was in school 10+ years ago). I'm sure we all know the importance of eating a healthy diet and keeping properly hydrated when breastfeeding. It really makes me sad to see people insinuating that she should give up eating for herself if she wants to breastfeed her baby.
Also, I'm kind of curious to know what kind of difference leaving 10 minutes early will actually make to some people? From what I haven't blocked out about those awful years, I truly don't remember any new information being presented in class that late in a period. Just homework being assigned, something that she could easily find out from the teacher before class. The occasional test finishing up late, something that she would have to work around if it ever came up.
If her baby had to go to another daycare off campus, of course she wouldn't be able to breastfeed. She would have to pump, if she could. Personally, I never got a let-down with the pump and had to partially formula feed, so she might have to do that as well. But the fact is, her baby is nearby, and most WOHMs would jump at the opportunity to put their child in a daycare where they work (all other things being equal), just so they could have a chance to nurse during breaks. Why is this different?
You might be correct that they are making many other special considerations for her, and this might just be request #101 that makes them draw the line and say "enough!", but I suspect it is more of a total lack of regard for the importance of breastfeeding that is spurring on this decision. I also agree with others that "punishment" of teenage mother might have a role in it. America in general has always been a Puritanical society, more interested in punishing "the sinner" for the past, rather than helping them to do better in the future. So in a way, I can see it as a kind of "we have to make things as hard as possible on her so that she will understand just what a terrible person she has been" kind of mentality.
Originally Posted by KimberlyD0
My statements were not based on her being 14, but on her being a parent. Being a mom means you put your childs need before your own when you need to. She needs to learn the balence that will work for her and her child in the world she lives in.
She should get support for BF. No one here has told her she can't BF her child. No one is trying to stop her from BF that child. However, while leave 10 early once in a while may not be a big deal, that will make a difference in the long run. Also it would be viewed as favertism.
I am glad this highschool has a daycare on the grounds so her child can be in the same general area as her. That makes a difference, but if she wasn't able to get her into this daycare and had to use an off campus daycare, would she then be asking for more time to leave and feed the baby?
There are so many what ifs with this entire situation. I ask not because I don't support her right to BF, or am not a lactivist, but because I don't like to jump the gun. I want to know more about the entire situation on both sides. What made them come to this conclusion in the first place? Are they making amendments for her in other area's? Can she not eat while feeding the baby, or in the same room when done to make more time? Is this baby eating on a schedual, and can it be ajusted to fit whats needed (cause thats something that can be done)
What else are we not being told?
Teen or adult ALL moms who work or go to school have restrictions of some sort that they face. Some places are more flexible then others. Something need to be changed, some are in the process. Pumping time/feeding times need to be provided, who decides whats enough? as a PP mentioned some need longer to pump, however, where is the line drawn? When one is pumping more then working then there is something off balence. When your unable to pump because your working, there is something out of balence.
In THIS situation I, personally, want more details. In fact I want them from both sides. There are 2 sides to every truth, the real truth is somewhere in the middle.