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post #1 of 22
Thread Starter 
My apologies for way TMI but I just have to vent. I'm 4 weeks pp; no hemorrhoids, one little stitch; seemed like easy healing. But my body is nowhere near back to normal.

I'm terribly constipated. 4 weeks on stool softeners and no "normalcy" in sight. Why does stool softener have to be... no action for 3 days and then an emergency trip to the restroom?

I had nearly a week of bleeding gone, but apparently going to the grocery store and hanging out at a home-inspection was enough to bring back heavy bright red blood. Day 2 of back to hefty pads. This one actually worries my OB a bit that I'm still so quick to bring back heavy blood, but they said I didn't have to come in unless I passed a clot. I feel so badly for my uterus! I have really tried to be as lazy as possible.

Insult to injury, I have a urinary tract infection. Awesome - just what I needed. I'm trying not to be "scared", and going to the restroom every time I feel the urge -- with combined with the constipation is Often. But OWIE. I've been taking sitz baths for the past few days, but no relief yet.

And I'm still having Pressure Pains - or that's what I call them - when I stand up for too long, it feels like something's going to "fall out". I don't see anything that would be considered a prolapse, but the pains are sharp and worrisome that they're still going on 4 weeks out.

Two more weeks before my pp checkup. I wonder if I should go in early. I love being a woman and the miracle that I was able to create and deliver this beautiful life. I just wish my body would get back to normal. Bathroom frustration and difficulty sitting down (which makes for an awkward busy parking lot experience) seem to be my life these days.

How are you ladies healing? Any words of wisdom?
post #2 of 22
I'd love to see what others have to day about this. I'm almost 2 weeks PP. I have one stitch and no roids, just like you! I posted about that "fall out" feeling, too. I have e-mailed my midwife who delivered, asking if I could get checked out. I have a 4-week PP check-up, but I'd rather not wait. I finally felt comfortable checking things out down there on my own last night. I didn't see a prolapse, but I did feel around, and everything is SO LOW. It feels so weird.

I can go a couple days with minimal bleeding and then have it start up again with what I consider light activity. It stinks so badly not being able to do anything!

I pushed for 3.5 hours. Did you have a long labor/pushing phase?
post #3 of 22
Thread Starter 
30 hours with 3 hrs pushing. Wow - and neither of us had more tearing or hemorrhoids! I guess that's something to be thankful for!
post #4 of 22
10 days PP here. "Skid marks" only, no roids at time of delivery, but I seem to have developed one in the last couple day I was also doing fine with the #2s until the past couple days also--obviously the roids and this issue are related. Guess I'll be starting some psyllium husk. Its been like passing glass the past couple times and I get weird flaskbacks to my pushing phase when I "go". . .I didn't push for all that long (2 hours of grunty pushing and only 26 min or real active, hard pushing), but it was really intense and painful for me.

And the perinium is still sore. Still hard to sit for too long, still very heavy feeling. Bleeding has slowed way down, but when I go for a walk it picks back up for a little while.

Between these issues and my nipple trauma I feel like a train wreck. I am so in love with my LO, but I'd really like my normal body back already!
post #5 of 22
There was a related thread not too long ago... In terms of constipation, someone had said to make sure you are drinking A LOT of water and taking vit. c. Another said Earth Mama Angel Baby Mama bottom Balm is fantastic for roids and fissures. Having had fissures for three weeks, I used the balm and it made my bum very happy and comfortable. It seemed to make the fissures heal within hours. Also, b/c it has mint in it, the balm felt so nice and tingly... I know, tmi...
post #6 of 22
I had stitches and a tear and have pretty bad hemroids (I used to be an excellent speller - I can't spell anything these days) - only pushed for about 10 minutes. I also have flashbacks about pushing the baby out whenever I have a bowel movement! So crazy!! I am very far from normal and can't wait to get normal! I agree that the earth mama bottom stuff is really effective - I like it the best of anything I have tried!
post #7 of 22
So, I think I just discovered 5 minutes ago I have a prolapse. I'm freaked out. I'm only 23 and this is already happening?!?! I don't want to have to decide *now* if I ever want more kids! I do, just not for a while, and I can't walk around with my uterus almost falling out for 5-10 years
I'm having abdominal pain, it almost feels like I'm constipated but I am managing to poop, it's just getting very difficult. Then today I feel something in my vagina, so I'm finally brave enough to feel for my cervix and it's *right there*
Ohmy god, this sucks. I'm going to try and get DS down for his nap and then call my midwife. Sorry this is kind of random. I'm just in shock. OMG, I could cry
post #8 of 22
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Originally Posted by BekahMomToOliver View Post
So, I think I just discovered 5 minutes ago I have a prolapse. I'm freaked out. I'm only 23 and this is already happening?!?! I don't want to have to decide *now* if I ever want more kids! I do, just not for a while, and I can't walk around with my uterus almost falling out for 5-10 years
I'm having abdominal pain, it almost feels like I'm constipated but I am managing to poop, it's just getting very difficult. Then today I feel something in my vagina, so I'm finally brave enough to feel for my cervix and it's *right there*
Ohmy god, this sucks. I'm going to try and get DS down for his nap and then call my midwife. Sorry this is kind of random. I'm just in shock. OMG, I could cry
Oh, I am so sorry! I know how you feel, though. When I finally got up the nerve and checked things out, it was all "right there" - I couldn't even tell where my cervix was. I'm going to keep doing Kegels and pray things shift back up!!!
post #9 of 22
WOW i am so with you here! I am 3weeks pp and seem to have a bladder prolapse. Can feel a HUGE anterior bulge when I feel around 'down there' and from all my online research that indicates a bladder prolapse <sigh>. I did get awful roids from the birth (had some before the birth) and ended up with fissures probably due to constipation. It seems like a really cruel joke to have a woman slow down with bm's after childbirth, I would rather things stay the way they were right before birth!! Every time I went #2 it felt like broken glass was coming out. I tried metamucil but for some reason that made me MORE constipated and caused more damage. So I went and got the stool softeners and was taking two per day, they really seemed to help. BM's are still painful but only during, not for hours afterwards now! I think things are starting to heal, slowly. As for the prolapse, I have been 'trying' to stay off my feet. It is really hard with 5 kids to take care of and take places. Laundry still needs to be done and I haven't vacuumed since Soleil was born ...........it is getting really bad!! I HAVE to do it today, but with a prolapse that is a no no as well. Stay off stairs if you can, work on your kegels, don't lift anything heavy (I still need to left my 3 yr old occasionally, it's hard to tell him no), kegel, rest with your feet up whenever possible and KEGEL!! I think in a few months things should hopefully go back to 'normal' or a new normal.
Soleil is calling.
post #10 of 22
Ladies, we are falling apart!!!
post #11 of 22
Thread Starter 
I am SO sorry for starting a negative thread! But... I was at my wits end yesterday not being able to sit down. It sucks when you're scared (for numerous reasons) of going to the bathroom. These are definitely on my list of "things I wish someone had told me". Your experiences are telling me I need to feel around; see if I feel a prolapse. I'm scared! I'm so sorry for you ladies who aren't healing well!! I know we'll get through this, but the process is Not Fun.
post #12 of 22
I'm 3 weeks PP. I have a bladder prolapse too, and I only pushed for like 10 minutes! Sigh. The anterior wall is just bulging down and blocking the entrance to my vagina. This is #3 for me, and I had this prolapse last time too, but it got better... hoping it will go back at least to where it was before this birth. It wasn't in its right place, but I could have sex comfortably. Right now it's so bulgy that I feel it all the time, and sometimes it feels like it's getting pinched when I sit down.

What's scaring me now is that my cervix is so low down now too! I never checked it after my second birth, so I don't know if it was way down there and went back up... I sure hope so! This time I accidentally felt it. I was just gingerly feeling this bladder prolapse, and went about half an inch up, and suddenly put my finger in my cervix! It was bizarre and really freaked me out. My bladder is keeping my cervix in there. Yikes.

I am kegeling lots, but my tone is just awful. Practically nonexistent.
post #13 of 22
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Originally Posted by Lula's Mom View Post

I am kegeling lots, but my tone is just awful. Practically nonexistent.
NAK.
Same. It feels so strange to kegel now because to me it feels like the muscles are in the wrong places, so they don't do anything except make it all feel like it's going to fall out the front.
There's a great thread about pelvic organ prolapse on the Birth Trauma board. I learned alot and some of it was reassuring. I haven't spoken to my midwives yet (I lost the sheet with their pager numbers on it, and to top it off it's Thanksgiving weekend up here so they won't be available until Tuesday, go figure!) Soooo I'm doing NO lifting (so tough with a 35 lb 21 month old! I can't even get him out of the bathtub without help ) and I'm trying to stay off my feet. If it gets painful I'll head to the ER but hopefully that doesn't happen.
It just feels like there's a tampon or something in my vagina all the time. It's freaky, and I'm scared to go to the bathroom in case I strain and it gets worse. This sucks!
post #14 of 22
Congrats ladies on the birth of your lo's. I too am almost 6 weeks pp with my 4th child. I have been extremely gentle with my body/pelvic floor during this pp period but still have the feeling of something "falling out".

Here are some things that I have found helpful:

* Eat Applesauce and drink plenty of water to help with moving your bowels. I've found the more regular I am, the better my pelvic floor feels.

* Do kegels regularly.

* Try not to lift anything heavier than your baby. This is easier said than done.

* Watch how you are lifting things.

* I avoid doing any squatting.

Here is a link for the pelvic organ prolapse thread here on MDC & A Whole Woman Site for exercises and recommendations to help the pelvic floor.

http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=713732

http://www.wholewoman.com/
post #15 of 22
once, again, this board makes me feel sane.

i have bladder prolapse again. had it after #1. was walking around one summer day after having #1 and felt it was all going to fall out. came home and looked in a mirror and called my midwife freaking out. did physical therapy, but the best thing was getting back in total shape. easier said than done, right?

i must also have an anal fissure. it feels like i am pooping glass. i almost passed out the last big BM. i see stars, bleed, and brace. it's awful--i swear, it's harder than giving birth. i am miserable.

i get constipated by metamucil and colace...i am drinking aloe vera juice, smooth move tea...any other suggestions?

and i can't seem to stay hydrated! i can't wear my contacts b/c my eyes are so dry and my lips are bleeding and i drink water all the friggin' time.

and my hormones must be shifting (3 weeks pp tomorrow) b/c i'm super emotional and feeling a bit bummed this week. also, nico (teh babe) has horrid baby acne. and i'm so tired of wearing maternity clothes, but i'm too fat for my regular clothes. it was easier having a baby in june b/c in the summer i could bum a bit more easily than in the fall.

blah!!!!!
post #16 of 22
TMI, but I have been trying to do Kegels on the toilet, attempting to cut off the urine flow while voiding. And I CANNOT cut it off once I start voiding, no matter how hard I squeeze. Been trying this for awhile, and no progress. Ugh!

Also, I cannot imagine even thinking of attempting intercourse any time soon. There isn't even room for a tampon up there. I guess it is my bladder, and it is right there. This makes my very, very sad.

Also, I realized I have anal fissures this morning. Even with super soft stools, I bled a couple of tbsps into the toilet. I had been wiping and thinking it was coming from the middle, but this morning, I realized it is coming from my bum.

That's my little vent for the day...
post #17 of 22
I had constipation issues, too. Istill do, mildly, at 6w pp. I have been taking fiber supplements and it has helped significantly.

I had a fissure with my two pregnancies before the last. Lord, pooping glass is horrid. I would sweat, brace myself, cry, sometimes bite my lip to avoid screaming. It did healon it's own but I really had to get my bowels regular first. I paid a lot of attention to what I ate. Eat as much as you can that will loosen your stool, plus drink as much as you can choke down. Don't fall out if this rhythm. There is surgery for a fissure. They cut open the other side of your anus so the fissure can heal. No thanks!! (but have heard it's so, so good feeling after!)
post #18 of 22
I eat a bowl of Kellogg's All-Bran Bran Buds every day. It changed my life when I discovered it while pregnant with dc #2. I do not skip my daily bowl, because then I can't poop without fear. This cereal is awesome for softening; it has 13 gm of fiber in 1/3 cup. It doesn't much taste like anything so I mix it with honey nut Cheerios, or even better with Fiber One Caramel Crunch so there's extra fiber there. I go to poop like 4 times a day, which is a lot, but at least it's super easy and painless to go!
post #19 of 22
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Originally Posted by Lula's Mom View Post
I eat a bowl of Kellogg's All-Bran Bran Buds every day. It changed my life when I discovered it while pregnant with dc #2. I do not skip my daily bowl, because then I can't poop without fear. This cereal is awesome for softening; it has 13 gm of fiber in 1/3 cup. It doesn't much taste like anything so I mix it with honey nut Cheerios, or even better with Fiber One Caramel Crunch so there's extra fiber there. I go to poop like 4 times a day, which is a lot, but at least it's super easy and painless to go!
OMG, I love you.
I read this last night and went and got myself a box. Made a big ol' smoothie with frozen fruit, plain yogurt, some O.J. and just poured in a whole whack of Buds (probably about half a cup). I fiured that would get stuff moving. It was a bit gritty but pretty good

Anway, today I feel that old familiar urge. I've been quite backed up, I think at least some of it is fear because of the prolapse issue. Pooping has been scary for me. Anyway, I sat down and (TMI WARNING!) it just fell out. (no, not my uterus, don't worry! lol) No straining, barely any pushing even. And it was all out! None of that "something's left" feeling, KWIM?
Seriously. I'm officially a convert. Do they sell this stuff by the case?
So, THANK YOU Lula's Mom!!!
post #20 of 22
Yay!!! I'm so glad you tried it! I swear, I post about it every time that there's a constipation thread, but I don't think anyone really believes me about the miraculous Bran Buds, and I don't think anyone's ever tried them on my recommendation. Don't they just rule?! I know what you mean about it "just falling out"- it doesn't take any effort (but it's not like you're in danger of pooping yourself involuntarily, either!)

Good idea on the smoothie! I have also baked them in muffins and pancakes.
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