Originally Posted by Momtwice
This is fascinating (and I love what you wrote about your grandmother) but can you please explain more about what you did that made some people upset but attracted others? I don't understand.
an example. 'how do you do' i hate that line if it was meant casually.
so i would ask the person do you really want to know or are you just making a social gesture. if you dont really care to know how i am doing then please dont ask me that again. or sometimes i would say what a shitty place or great place i was in. i stopped using words like nice, good. but widened my vocabulary and said exactly how i was at that moment, including something like yikes i am running coz i really wanna pee.
in grocery stores, buses, you know general public places where you have a few minutes, i bring up issues to talk about. i dont say anything mean or hurtful but i do talk about stuff. like obama winning the noble peace prize. and i was like woah - what has HE done?!!! and then i saw rachel (forget her last name) newsreport and i share how her newsreport changed my mind. made me understand more. i stand up and say i wont take the flue shot, the h1n1 is bunkum to me... blah blah blah. other times i bring up how hey you wanna lose weight just make sure you break up. you will lose it v. fast. and for quicker response throw in a nursing child and you will just DROP. however i warn them - when you get back to life and start having so much fun that you gain it all back and some more.
many dont like me being so outspoken. talking about how i am really at that moment. how even though it is a shitty cold rainy day outside - i am loving our first day of winter rain.
if someone talks in glowing terms about the caramel latte they are drinking and ask me how i feel about it, i tell them that that is the worst drink i could possibly have. that would make me so sick that i would puke. if i am out on a date and he wants to order my hated dish i tell them dont expect me to have any coz i hate it.
yesterday at the grocery store line somehow the subject of columbus's day came up and i spoke about my 'unpleasant' views on the subject - that instead of celebrating peasce or hope, people are 'celebrating' the biggest genocide in human history.
also i remember my first naked moment after being single. and he didnt have a condom. and i was like oh no. no way. zip it up. later he brought up my dd. and i told him v. honestly why no. mind you i was 40 pounds over weight, stretch marks, AND 10 years older. and he said my attitude turned him on. he even called me kali after that. and he said how he does support and understand why he could not meet my dd and why i wanted protection.
for some me not having the perfect body, and esp. being a mom was actually a huge turn on for them. they in fact admired how i had to balance a fine line to take care of dd.
in my experience the men in my life are far more attracted to the strength of character rather than the body.