2.5yr old wont stop kicking when he gets his diaper changed!

[simplygreen]

Help mamas, I'm at the end of my rope, my 2.5yr old will not stop kicking me while I'm trying to change his diaper, I'm seven months pregnant and he kicks quite hard in my stomach , in the face, you name it, its become such a game to him that I hate changing his diaper!!! (were attempting to potty learn, but its not going over so well) So how do I handle this?

[littlebird]

Perhaps you could try changing him in different positions. I do it standing up by that age, the trouble is they try to run away. I've always been pretty flexible about diapering positions. Otherwise he really has to get the idea that he is hurting you and that isn't OK.

Love,
Leslie

[BellinghamCrunchie]

Another vote for changing him while standing up. Get everything ready (so you can do it fast), put him someplace he doesn't usually get to be, with some interesting things to look at/hold. I changed DD in front of the kitchen cupboards while she opened them and explored inside from the time she was 1 until she PL'd.

[ksnow82]

I started changing my son standing up in the bathroom when he was around 2. The bathroom is small enough that you can position yourself in front of the door, so they can't escape, and it was good practice for my son to start associating changes with the bathroom to get him used to the idea of toilet training.

[swd12422]

I've had the same issue for months, and I'm just no good at changing him standing up....

Since kicking isn't allowed in our house anyway, I stop what I'm doing, hold his legs down til he stops kicking, and tell him, "we don't kick. That hurts." If he continues to struggle, I repeat the "no kicking" and stare calmly out the window (still firmly holding his legs so he can't kick me) and wait til he's done struggling. He usually gets it quickly b/c it makes the diaper change last even longer.

Sometimes he'll start kicking again as soon as I resume the change, and I just stop again, repeat "no kicking" and wait.

This may not go over so well if you're pg and have trouble standing for a while, but I can't imagine he'd ever continue that long!

[chfriend]

What about lots of nekkid time? Letting me know you are available to change his diaper when he's ready and not forcing the issue?

[alllyssa]

This is why I potty trained my kids way before they were two. Once they get stubborn, it's hard to get them to do what you want.

[lonegirl]

I switched Tyr to pullups by 18months. It was sooo much easier!

[NiteNicole]

Does he show any readiness for potty learning?

[lizziebits]

Another vote for standing up. I call them "standing up diapey changes" and if he's hesitant about getting his diaper changed, I say: "do you want to stand up or lay down". I think the choice helps.

You could also tell him "We don't kick people, we kick soccer balls. Do you want to kick a soccer ball when you are done the diaper change" or something.

I'm sorry, it sounds really frustrating. I hope you find something that works for you.

[Theoretica]

Originally Posted by alllyssa

This is why I potty trained my kids way before they were two. Once they get stubborn, it's hard to get them to do what you want.

Ok well the OP's kiddo is 2.5 and I can personally attest to there being plenty of kids not ready to potty train before 2 and even more that 'get stubborn' from birth. I'm not clear on how this was helpful to the OP, and honestly if I was posting out of frustration and looking for suggestions I'd be even more frustrated reading this post, even if that wasn't your intention, because it comes across as more lecturing/patronizing than supportive or constructive. Just my

Anyways OP, can you make a game out of it? I'm thinking of taking a few pieces of paper and pasting cut out pictures of diapers to one (your toddler can help), pics of wipes to another. Then you have a crawling/hopping/jumping/whatever race to get each of the items to put on 'their spot'. You could make a kid size cutout (or use painters tape on the carpet?) of them laying down to get changed too, so they can race to lay down and get changed.

You could put a mobile up on the ceiling to watch/count planets or frogs or wth ever holds their attention for the 30 seconds you need (it would be ducks here...I think we might do this one too!) and they could help make that also.

My 18month old is like this. It's soooo frustrating!! Her latest thing is she won't let Daddy change her. Ever. She screams and thrashes like she's being beaten, and it's infuriating for everyone involved.

Good luck mama! Don't forget to update if you find something that works...we need the ideas too!

[elmh23]

What we've always done is get ahold of his legs and hold them while saying "We do not kick mommy/daddy. " He stops for a little while after that so I can get him clean. For pee diapers, we do standing diaper changes but we use pullups (they fit him better.) If we used regular diapers, I don't think it'd work out as well.

[~Charlie's~Angel~]

Originally Posted by Theoretica

Ok well the OP's kiddo is 2.5 and I can personally attest to there being plenty of kids not ready to potty train before 2 and even more that 'get stubborn' from birth.

I was kinda thinkin the same thing. I was also thinking, HOLY CRAP!! I should have started a year ago!?!?!

[Jennifer Z]

Originally Posted by alllyssa

This is why I potty trained my kids way before they were two. Once they get stubborn, it's hard to get them to do what you want.

Exactly how is that even remotely helpful? If you can't offer any ACTUAL advice, maybe you should have skipped this thread and moved to one where criticizing the OP was welcome.

I was in the same position when I was pregnant and the first thing I did was change to disposable pull-ups because they were MUCH faster than prefolds, fuzzibunz or any cloth on the planet that I could find. So, if you are using cloth, that will shave some time off.

Second, I cornered him in the bathroom so there wasn't anyplace he could run and had him stand up for pee diapers, and had him lay down in the bathtub for poops. That put him in a more contained space and the bathtub side in between him and my stomach, and a much easier to clean space if it was a messy diaper. (sometimes the thrashing lead to poop all over the place, but if he was already in the tub, I could grab the showerhead and hose him and the tub down without huge extra effort extended.) Honestly, the biggest advantage of putting him in the tub was that it was right next to the toilet, which was helpful since I was throwing up all through the pregnancy and a particularly stinky poop would trigger it.

[Talula Fairie]

Originally Posted by alllyssa

This is why I potty trained my kids way before they were two. Once they get stubborn, it's hard to get them to do what you want.

That ship has sailed. How is this comment helpful?