Originally Posted by lilyka
I really want to date and get married and have more kids etc but at the same time I wouldn't say I am looking. I have never ever dated before....My xh and I started dating in high school then got married. So I really have no clue what I am doing. BUt there is a part of me that just figures it will happen when it happens and that it will be really natrual.
ditto here. though my kid bearing days are almost over. however i met my ex when i was older.
i do go out on dates and have been out. but i have too much going on in my life where dating is not the only thing. and because i am having so much fun doing my stuff that i dont have time to date.
i am way way waaaaaaaay tooooo picky. i am an oddball.
i have been single 6 years. i went on my first date a year and half after separation.
right now my career - rather calling for life is more important. i would love to hook up someone who 'speaks my language' in my language which is v. v. rare. the ones i am interested in are all taken. plus in a few years i will be moving all over the place.
so while i am looking forward to getting hooked up, i am also sure i dont want getting hooked up changes my future career plans.
so in a sense my situation is a quite a bit different.
however i am v. v. v hopeful. i know things will work out when the time is right. all my proff. friends who were totally into their calling - some single moms too - all met their new partners while they were in school for their field.
however i have never really been interested in dating. hanging out yes. but not in dating. i didnt date much when i was young. i found men to be terribly immature (hah!!! even married one of them) and they just did not interest me.