Originally Posted by mamaeliz
My twins were and are "easy" in comparison to a lot of things, but no, I don't really think it's "easy".
I pretty much agree with this and the others who've said things along the lines of "these babies are easy, but 'it' is not easy." I actually couldn't tell if you meant finding the individual multiples to be "easy babies" or finding it easy to have multiples....finding having twins to be "easy."
I have, generally speaking, two easy babies. Easy-ish babies?
They can challenge my patience and all, but they are cheerful, pretty self-directed, good sleepers (again, typically.) They get into these jags when they don't nap at the same time (and when it gets completely opposite, then NOTHING seems easy!) but in general, when things are going normally, they are pretty easy babies.
But....there are two of them. Even easy babies take a lot of care, and take a lot out of you. You don't have colic or excessive fussiness, you may not have reflux issues and long periods with them fighting sleep or waking frequently, but you still have to care for two babies and it takes a lot of work, time, energy. And mine are toddlers and that's a whole new thing, where having two can really make moments feel impossible.
Even though they still are "easy" kids.
In conversation, I qualify with what wonderful, easygoing babies they are. But that there are two of them, and it can be exhausting to care for them.
I do, at random times in almost every day, feel crazy-joyful about how great they are, how funny and sweet, how they are wonderfully easy and really just princes. I look at my husband and gush about how lucky we are, how it's so amazing to have them both, and how they really are just the kinds of babies you'd pick if you could
pick. And a lot of what I am loving is the twin experience, as well as just the fact of who these babies are, personally. Yes, the "easy" thing comes up a lot and I very much appreciate their flexibility and resilience. But even so, I constantly feel overwhelmed, taxed beyond my resources, frustrated, etc. I couldn't say it's really easy.