Random thoughts of a pregnant mind

[caro113]

Since we've told so few people, I feel the need to post this here instead of facebook

MIL and GMIL were just here for a few days, and against all odds, the trip was a HUGE success!! We really had a great time and I actually had a a wonderful night bonding with my MIL last night while DP was at work and DD slept. It was pretty awesome.

We told MIL on Friday that we were pregnant and she was very excited. She hugged me (which was incredibly awkward for me, but when she left this morning, I was more than happy to give her a hug so we've come a long way in the past few days) and called her husband immediately. (FIL but DP's step dad)

When GMIL showed up on Saturday, she asked MIL (her daughter) if I was pregnant. MIL said "I don't know" but apparently sucks at keep secrets and GMIL knew right away. (I later found out that GMIL knew MIL was pregnant with DP before she ever told her .. and DP is the first grandchild on that side) Then she asked DP and then we finally told her we were.

Anyhow, DP is at work. DD is sleeping and I fell pretty disgusting . I took a long nap with DD today and woke up in sweat and just feel gross from not showering for a few days. I'm also getting horrible motion sickness and showers were terrible while I was pregnant with DD so I've been a bit leery of taking one, but I'm going to now. I have the time and I really need it lol

I'm wondering though, before I go, does anyone else not really feel pregnant yet? I'm not sure what it is, but I just don't feel pregnant. I know I am but I really just don't feel like this real. Anyone else in the same boat?

[Traceround]

I'm not sure yet what feeling pregnant is like beyond amazingly sore boobs, inability to enjoy chocolate and tiredness that rivals when I had mono in college.

I keep thinking though that I am going to wake up from this dream. This has been a dream for so long for us that it really doesn't seem real yet. Does that make sense?

[*mama moose*]

I also feel lost not being able to complain on FB
I'm glad your visit went well though, thats awesome
And aside from the constant sickness I'm having a hard time "feeling" pregnant too. I just feel like I have some mysterious illness or something......

[icy02]

I also don't really feel pregnant.... I'm wondering if the bean is really there?!?!? Hoping to convince my DR to give me an ultrasound on Wednesday. Ill be 5 wks 2 days

[Sihaya]

I'm not feeling pregnant yet either. Symptoms are subsiding and I'm wondering if I could have imagined all those positive tests (about 10 of them!)

And you guys that can't complain on facebook yet aren't missing much. I did over the weekend and got trounced: "At least you can get pregnant! At least you don't have a dead baby!" Very supportive

[Traceround]

Originally Posted by Sihaya

I'm not feeling pregnant yet either. Symptoms are subsiding and I'm wondering if I could have imagined all those positive tests (about 10 of them!)

And you guys that can't complain on facebook yet aren't missing much. I did over the weekend and got trounced: "At least you can get pregnant! At least you don't have a dead baby!" Very supportive

Oh thats charming.

Although I do understand where those feelings came from. I've suffered seven years of infertility and cancer making it impossible for me to conceive naturally. It drove me bonkers to hear people kvetch about how their boobs hurt or how the baby kicked them in the bladder.

I wanted to scream at them, "Do you realize that I would literally KILL to be able to complain about my boobs hurting because of that?"

However, there are just some things you do NOT say. That is one of them. I had no right to snatch the joy of their pregnancy from them just because I couldn't get pregnant.

You also never ever bring up dead babies to a pregnant woman.

[Sihaya]

Originally Posted by Traceround

Although I do understand where those feelings came from. I've suffered seven years of infertility and cancer making it impossible for me to conceive naturally. It drove me bonkers to hear people kvetch about how their boobs hurt or how the baby kicked them in the bladder.

Oh, I completely get the feelings. I just don't get the sharing them on my FB page. If I had gone to their turf and started b*tching about m/s, I'd be fair game, no doubt

Originally Posted by Traceround

However, there are just some things you do NOT say. That is one of them. I had no right to snatch the joy of their pregnancy from them just because I couldn't get pregnant.

You also never ever bring up dead babies to a pregnant woman.

When can this memo go out? It is refreshing to hear you say that. My heart breaks for my friends who have experienced infertility and/or loss, and I will never understand what they've been through. But, it's hard to be supportive to people who openly and frequently let me know that I don't deserve or appreciate what I have enough.

Anyway, I totally didn't mean to derail this thread. Sorry

[Milk8shake]

Gosh, it's tough hey?
After my loss, I swore to heaven and back that I would not be one of those complaing pregnant women... Won't bitch about m/s or needing to pee or anything. I know how painful it can be to hear it...

Anyway.. I'm doing well so far, but it's a long road ahead (MONTHS!!)... I imagine it's going to happen eventually. Because, well it's kind of like a rite of passage isn't it?

By the way, I totally don't mean to upset anyone... You're all within your rights to bitch all you want.... I think it's just one of those bargains you make with God to get you through. That's how it was for me anyway.

[Milk8shake]

Originally Posted by Traceround

You also never ever bring up dead babies to a pregnant woman.

Oh, and I agree!!! Last pg, I had a women at work give me a full, in depth description of her m/c..... ARGH

[bananabee]

Oh my gosh. I can't believe how horrible some people can be.

On the other end of the spectrum, recently an aquantaince of mine who is a devout Christian lady told me she'd just miscarried twin girls. *sigh* I told her I was so sorry for her loss, but she said it is her and her DH's greatest desire to see their children make it to heaven, so they are not sad at all. It was the 2nd time she'd miscarried twins. Wow. A Christian myself, I don't think I could be so quickly at peace over it.