Originally Posted by SarahJaner
I am so glad I found this thread. My 15 month old dear heart has not accomodated me with two consecutive hours of sleep since she was 4 months old and began teething. She is up half a dozen or more times at night, and really only sleeps while she is nursing. All the time. If she is tired and needs a nap, we have to nurse to sleep. Sad, hurt, bored, glad all equall nurse. The sleeping thing is the most difficult, though. She will not tolerate my husband's brand of comfort, and will just screech in his arms, for HOURS until I come with the milk. I feel for all the ladies mentioning that although isolation is no way to live life its better than buddying up with mama's who have less demanding children. I had to sever all ties with a friend of mine because not only does she get rest, she gets to knit, sew, eat and even have dates with her husband.
If I don't get time for dinner or a shower (angry baby) I definately don't run the risk of creating any siblings.
It's not just me. In this house, we're all suffering. What gives? My husband and I thought we had it all figured out. Home birth, exclusive breastfeeding, aversion to 'crying it out'...
glad you found this community and thread, it's a great way to vent and get ideas and support from other mamas- my son too is a constant nurser, whether for comfort or closeness or alleviating teething pain/pressure by remaining latched, it is all the time, and he also wakes frequently at night, or lately, won't allow me to even put him down so that i too can lay down next to him to sleep- tonight, i haven't even been able to get him to lay next to me, attached to the breast, he just squirms and cries and flails. so i am sitting all contorted at the computer with him passed out in a bizarre position on my lap/arm because i don't know what else to do.
judging from my past experiences, it is so important to get breaks and to try to head off the worst of it before your mental and physical health and well being start to suffer. it is much easier (well not easy, but easier..) to head it off than to try to get back to a state of normalcy once you have crossed that line to sleep deprivation insanity. it can get so hard. do you have support? i never thought i would do this before my son was at least verbal, but i had to take him to my mom's for an overnight one night at 8 mos old for my own health and sanity- having a sleep disorder doesn't help in my case, since i feel sleep deprivation even moreso and have a greater need for sleep and stability of schedule, but i was getting to a place where it was the best option. i hope that you have or can find resources to utilize- a pp doula or mother's helper, your partner, extended family, friends, etc. even having a friend or relative come over to play with kiddo or take him on a walk while i napped for a couple hours was a lifesaver, but again, it can be so hard once that sleep deficit builds up to think things through clearly and figure out how to accurately assess the situation and make sure everyone's needs are met. i find that my immune system really suffers and i get sick all the time when i am not sleeping well, also recently found out i had a thyroid condition and got medication for that which seems to be helping a bit, and resumed seeing my counselor more often for the time being, got a massage, etc. the little things add up-- but i know it is not easy and sometimes you wonder when it will ever end.
i have read the no cry sleep solution, i just feel like it takes so much work/persistence/motivation to implement and when you are already so busy and sleep deprived and stressed it can be hard to find your inner reserves to follow through.. like, when i know the second i set my son down on the bed (we generally cosleep) he will in all likelihood wake up and get upset and have to start all over, some nights i just say screw it and stay up late wearing him in the sling or bouncing him while nursing and wasting time.. not ideal at all, strains my back which is already bad and reinforces bad habits, but i just don't know if i have it in me to start trying to implement all these things- even the basic sleep logs were so unorganized and hard to keep together when i was doing it; but i do intend and hope to give it another go around- have you read or tried NCSS?
keep us posted and hang in there mama!
hope this makes sense somewhat, i am exhausted..
eta: ok nvm on the pp doula, i see your little one is older.. in my sleep deprivation i saw the "four months" in your post and somehow my brain interpreted that your babe was younger than really is- but still help in any form is a good thing! other than that no words of wisdom, just