You really need to be complimented on how hard you work at trying to keep your little blended family happy and healthy. That first day of school picture situation was downright rude and I don't know how it went down (did she get the picture of just the three of them?) but I used to get put through that too...every family function, my DH would get cornered and it was almost like a game....before we knew it he had his son on one side, his daughter on the other side and mommy was snapping pictures. This went on for years and it happened whenever she was in our company. He never saw those pictures, he never got copies of them and if I wasn't at the function, there was no photo session. Yes, I think there is manipulation going on in your case and please don't doubt your instincts. Trust your gut. You live with these people; you've been around DSD's mom for years and you've been exposed to her behavior. You're trying to help your dsd by getting her some help and her mother is against it, why? Are we afraid of what this little girl might say? Unless dsd gets permission to be part of her dad's family, she is always going to be torn, and will never be happy and that's sad. I hope the therapist is able to help identify what is keeping her locked in a past that she can't possibly remember.
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10/16/09 at 2:52pm