3rd or 4th child?? Are you more paranoid?

[juleslane]

With my 1st, I didn't know enough to have any fears. my second, pretty much the same. With my third, I grew a little more paranoid with each sono, but all 3 of my girls were very healthy. I thank God for the everyday.

This time, with my 4th, I am so paranoid something will not be right. I am super anxious about going to my appt in 2 weeks, and want to even call and beg them to see me sooner, just to do an US to confirm! I always had scans early on with the others, cause my cycles are so irregular. They were spot on this time though with charting, so no need for an early scan

My MIL said she grew more paranoid with each kid too....almost like you are wiating for your luck to run out! Anyone else feel like this, even though they had 2, 3 or 4 healthy pregnancies? I know in my heart everything is ok...I have morning sickness, fatigue, etc...but I just want to see that heartbeat

I am so pitiful, I am taking HPT's every other day just see the line get darker! And I am 5 weeks 2 days! Even wishing my morning sickness would get worse. I can't remember if I felt worse with the others, and when it started. I know it's still early.

thanks for the vent...anyone else feel crazy like me?

[sunflower.mama]

Yes! You would think I would be used to these early days and less stressed but it's the opposite. I have had two healthy pregnancies and I do stress that my luck will run out/I will have to pay my dues. Ugggh! I got betas done today for the first time, so perhaps that will set my mind at ease. I won't have an u/s until 2 weeks from friday...how to wait that long???? I am 4 weeks and 3 days so I CLEARLY have a ways to go here.

[juleslane]

Ahh, so NICE to hear someone else has the same feelings. I was never on forums early on with my other babies, so maybe that's what makes the paranoia worse....seeing infertility and loss I am so blessed to have my 3 girls and this little bean.

Any more experiences/thoughts?? TIA!

[CatholicBFMama]

I'm 5 weeks pregnant with my third--this pregnancy is the only one that hasn't been planned--and I feel the same way. With the first 2 we told everyone right away, but we're going to wait till I'm closer to 12 weeks this time. I have my first US November 4 at 8 weeks to verify dates (since my youngest is only 6 months and my cycles aren't back to normal yet), and after I see that heartbeat I'll feel much more comfortable starting to spread the news.

[berry987]

YES! I am pregnant with my 4th and really nervous this time around. I know enough people who have had babies with serious problems that I feel like I've gotten so lucky with my three healthy boys. And I'm worried my luck has run out.

I had my last two boys at home, but suddenly feel this fear that something will go wrong and I should be in a hospital (irrational, I know). I'm hoping the fears subside as the pregnancy moves along (I'm only a little over 6 weeks right now).

I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one.

[at_the_hip]

This is #5 for me but have had 2 m/c, before #1 and before #3. With baby #3 there were serious concerns and I was monitored by a peri but all turned out well despite the stress. With #4 my husband was sick and in the hospital for much of my pregnancy culminating in surgery the day after my due date (dd was born 6 days later at home).

I worry about my odds every day and just pray this will be a healthy uneventful pg!

[Red Sonja]

I'm more relaxed than I thought I would be. During my pregnancy with #3 I remember having the fears of "what if we used up all our good luck?" when it comes to problems and stuff. This time, other than dealing with the shock of (another ) unexpected pregnancy, I'm pretty calm about the whole thing. Though of course that is subject to change at any moment!

[SarahKatN]

I'm right there with you. This is baby#3 and I'm really worried that we've used up all our luck. I feel like we've been so blessed to have two beautiful, smart, healthy girls how can I possibly expect another?

[PrairieBohemian]

I thought I was NUTSO to be feeling so anxious as this is my fourth as well, but YES YES YES I am freaking too. It has caught me off guard, but I think the reason I am scared is because I WANTED this pregnancy NOW and know this is our last child. I wanted to space as closely as possible, and really wanted to have my last at the age of 33. So, I guess I am freaking because it all seems to perfect to be getting exactly what I want. I don't even have any sickness, but am SOOOO BITCHY! Yikes! I feel my blood boiling from every little thing. I should be more concerned about my other 3 children surviving the pregnancy than the baby!
Thanks for opening the thread

[juleslane]

Well PrairieB, I could have written your post, lol. Well...except for the morning sickness part. That hit full force about an hour after I wrote this earlier! Crackers finally made it possible for me to move out of the bathroom for a bit.

Anyway, like you, I wanted it to happen NOW, before my 30th bday. My first 2 are 16 months apart and are best buds. I really want these last 2 to be close in age too, and this little peanut will make my third a big sis at 20 months. I am SO glad and SO relieved to hear other women have the same feelings. My mother in law is a really laid back person, so hearing she felt the same with #4 was nice to hear too. I was almost convincing myself that maybe my paranoia meant something....a sign. I know in my heart it is what it is....just paranoia!

[PrairieBohemian]

Originally Posted by juleslane

Well PrairieB, I could have written your post, lol. Well...except for the morning sickness part. That hit full force about an hour after I wrote this earlier! Crackers finally made it possible for me to move out of the bathroom for a bit.

Jules, it looks like you are a few weeks ahead of me too, and with my others I think morning sickness hit around 8 wks, so maybe I am jumping the gun on my symptom expectations.

One thing that works for me is that even though this is my 4th child, its my DHs second--so he's still chill

Congrats, by the way. Glad to hear I am not the only other loonie welcoming 4 kids under the age of 6!

[Pinoikoi]

This will be my fourth bio child (we adopted one son).. I am MUCH more paranoid. Ignorance is bliss.. I have had too many losses now to not know how very possible they are for me.