Just tell me how I'm supossed to survive this.

[Valrock]

At what point does feeling this way hop the line from a normal reaction to a stressful situation and flat out depression. I don't know if I can deal with one more thing right now.

We are moving to Japan in 3 weeks. My son was diagnosed with Lyme disease 2 weeks ago. My grandfather died last week and we spent the weekend driving 9 hours each way for the funeral. I need to figure out how to either pay off my car or sell it in the next 2 weeks. I need to have a garage sale because we're over the weight limit for our military move. We JUST moved in June... I'm not even all unpacked from that move. My 21 month old refuses to sleep. ever. My husband works long days and doesn't help at home... just comes home and complains about how little I've accomplished. I'm stuck at home all day without a car. My 5 year old probably has ADHD but my husband is not supportive of the diet I'm trying to keep him on or getting him evaluated. There are ants all over the house and I can't figure out why or where they're getting in. I'm PMSy and exhausted... I just want to take a blanket into the closet and cry for 6 hours.... and I can't tell anyone how I feel because it'll void our military overseas clearance. I'm not allowed to be depressed if we're going to go to Japan....

Just tell me how to get through this.. someone... anyone... I can't take one more thing.....

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

I wish I had the magic words to help you but all I can offer is a

[ZoshaMosha]

I'm so sorry you're dealing with all of this. We almost had a move too (not military) but cancelled it because of everything you're going through. It's hard. Also, my deepest condolences for your grandfather. Losing a grandparent is never easy.

I just did a 6 hour trip each way with my 2 kids and it took me a week to recover. You need to get yourself some sleep and time alone, woman! Who can you call to watch your kids while you rest? Do you have a sitter you can call? A friend or family member? A drop-in daycare center? Childcare at the gym as a last resort?

Can you leave the kids with Dh for a night while you crash at a friends house or a hotel for a long, uninterrupted night of sleep?

It's not cool your DH is not helping with all of this. It's honestly too much for one person to do. How has he responded when you've asked him to pitch in more with the move and the kids?

[Bokonon]

Oh goodness, how overwhelming!

How do you get through it? One challenge at a time. One hour, one minute at a time if you have to. And vent here when you need to.

[Valrock]

Originally Posted by MCatLvrMom2A&X

I wish I had the magic words to help you but all I can offer is a

Thank you so much

Originally Posted by ZoshaMosha

I'm so sorry you're dealing with all of this. We almost had a move too (not military) but cancelled it because of everything you're going through. It's hard. Also, my deepest condolences for your grandfather. Losing a grandparent is never easy.

I just did a 6 hour trip each way with my 2 kids and it took me a week to recover. You need to get yourself some sleep and time alone, woman! Who can you call to watch your kids while you rest? Do you have a sitter you can call? A friend or family member? A drop-in daycare center? Childcare at the gym as a last resort?

Can you leave the kids with Dh for a night while you crash at a friends house or a hotel for a long, uninterrupted night of sleep?

It's not cool your DH is not helping with all of this. It's honestly too much for one person to do. How has he responded when you've asked him to pitch in more with the move and the kids?

I am so tempted to tell them to call it all off... it's just so much to deal with . Unfortunately I am paranoid and don't trust anyone to watch my kids . I don't know anyone here well enough to trust them with it. I'm usually okay with not having help but all this right now is just SO MUCH. I don't have any friends out here, either... We've only been here like 4 months and I haven't had time to settle and make friends. I don't really want to, considering the short time we'll be here.... I moved from Maryland to California in June and from Hawaii to Maryland a couple years before that! So everyone is very far away.

Dh... *sigh* I tried talking to him tonight and he made dinner, because frankly I'm not hungry. But, he made a huge mess and refuses to clean it up. So that almost made more work for me. He's upstairs with DS right now trying to get him to bed for me. I don't think there's any hope of sleep in my future with this little one... I don't know what's going on with her! Growth spurt, maybe? She's been eating/nursing/drinking CONSTANTLY and when I finally got her down for a nap today she slept for 23 minutes! Yes, I timed it. That only gave me enough time to go to the bathroom and do the dishes.

I was going to call my mom and ask her to come up and help me... but considering she just lost her father and she's down there trying to work out his house and estate the timing is just BAD for that. *sigh*

Just a lot heavy on my mind... DH is making it sound like all military wives do this stuff without batting an eye and I'm a total basket case for not being able to handle it. It's not like I'm new to the military life... I've been doing this stuff for 7 years. It just seems like my pile is especially big right now!

Thank you for the encouragement... I will keep on trucking and try to find a moment of peace, somewhere! Maybe I'll go walk the mall with dd tomorrow. At least I can put her in the stroller and won't have to chase her for a while and retail therapy never hurts .

[Valrock]

Originally Posted by Bokonon

Oh goodness, how overwhelming!

How do you get through it? One challenge at a time. One hour, one minute at a time if you have to. And vent here when you need to.

Thank you. Venting got me through today... not much accomplished but we've all survived . Tomorrow I'm going to try to drag everything I want to sell into the garage. I might have to strap DD into her highchair with a whole box of Cheerios to do it.... but you gotta do what you gotta do, right?

[K-Mom3]

I have, on those awful weeks where you have to get a million things done and my kid won't sleep, put the kid in the car (or stroller or whatever) and put them to sleep and then done work around the car (or stroller) or moved the monitor there. Usually if they're that far behind on sleep they'll sleep when in the car and if you don't have to move them they'll usually sleep longer.

I have several times been rescued in the last weeks before a move by wonderful family members, friends, neighbors, and members of my church. Is the stuff your mom is doing for her dad time sensitive? It seems like maybe you could ask her to come for 3 days or a week if it is not time sensitive. You obviously need some help!

For dh--Maybe make a list of a lot of things that need to be done and try to prioritize it by importance or deadline. Does dh ever have a day off? Maybe take one day running errands away from home or working in the garage or whatever and leave dh with dd and the LIST and see how much he can get done. Maybe then he'll be more understanding about helping with the list when he's at home. Or really, just explain to him--these are the million things that have to be done. It is not realistic for me to be in charge of them all. Which things will you be in charge of?

I think you have the right idea, just getting through one day at a time. Good luck!

[DebraStorm]

I am so sorry, momma! I wish I had some advice for you!

Where at in Japan are you heading? We are stationed in Yokosuka. PM me if you need anything!

[Valrock]

Originally Posted by K-Mom3

I have, on those awful weeks where you have to get a million things done and my kid won't sleep, put the kid in the car (or stroller or whatever) and put them to sleep and then done work around the car (or stroller) or moved the monitor there. Usually if they're that far behind on sleep they'll sleep when in the car and if you don't have to move them they'll usually sleep longer.

I have several times been rescued in the last weeks before a move by wonderful family members, friends, neighbors, and members of my church. Is the stuff your mom is doing for her dad time sensitive? It seems like maybe you could ask her to come for 3 days or a week if it is not time sensitive. You obviously need some help!

For dh--Maybe make a list of a lot of things that need to be done and try to prioritize it by importance or deadline. Does dh ever have a day off? Maybe take one day running errands away from home or working in the garage or whatever and leave dh with dd and the LIST and see how much he can get done. Maybe then he'll be more understanding about helping with the list when he's at home. Or really, just explain to him--these are the million things that have to be done. It is not realistic for me to be in charge of them all. Which things will you be in charge of?

I think you have the right idea, just getting through one day at a time. Good luck!

I called my mom today and she told me she wasn't in the frame of mind to be able to "deal" with my kids right now . I guess I am the only person in the world that can "deal" with them... I'm barely doing it. I will try to get DH to help more but fighting with him takes more energy than I have. Thank you for your advice.

Originally Posted by DebraStorm

I am so sorry, momma! I wish I had some advice for you!

Where at in Japan are you heading? We are stationed in Yokosuka. PM me if you need anything!

We're going to Atsugi. I have to go get my oldest from school but I will try and PM you when we get home if I can get Autumn to take a nap. Thank you!

[luv2sewgrrl]

That's terrible, I don't know how I would deal with that situation.