My MIL (obsessed with her kids and grandchild, PUSHY, nosy, and vocal) was very, very difficult about our DS's sleep habits. He learned to STTN at around 2 and between 4m and 2 she suggested we CIO *almost every single day.* It caused a lot of strain on our marriage and seriously damaged my relationship with her. We discussed it many, many times. I tried to refrain from using words like "disgusting" with her but didn't always suceed.
That is what children need of course, especially when your live in nanny and live in housekeeper do it...at four months.
So she recently move to our side of the coast so she can be more obsessed with our lives and has watched DS (27m) a few times. She *wants* to put him to bed and I am very leery of it because of CIO. Usually I come home and they are watching CNN on the couch hours past his bedtime. (He doesn't watch tv.)
So this morning I get an email from her promising to let him CIO next time because she knew he would sleep and what it was what we would want but it was so hard.
ARGH.
So I write her back and say, no, I don't believe in CIO and we don't do it and I don't want Wolfie crying. ARGH.
And I get this response: "I cannot let him cry and I'm glad that you are of the same mind. He knows that I love him and that I am an additional source of hugs and comfort and I don't want to take away that bond... Building trust with DSand now I hope soon with DD is as important as anything else I do with them. When he walks down the street with me his hand stays in mine comfortably and with great trust. I never want to lose that!"
So, I win right? Or is just okay from grandmothers to want the trust of their children.
Banging my head on the ground.
Then she then went on to suggest that I pinch my children really hard when they get shots to distract them from the shots. Her 70s era lamaze teacher taught her this wonder. Very modern.
That is what children need of course, especially when your live in nanny and live in housekeeper do it...at four months.
So she recently move to our side of the coast so she can be more obsessed with our lives and has watched DS (27m) a few times. She *wants* to put him to bed and I am very leery of it because of CIO. Usually I come home and they are watching CNN on the couch hours past his bedtime. (He doesn't watch tv.)
So this morning I get an email from her promising to let him CIO next time because she knew he would sleep and what it was what we would want but it was so hard.
ARGH.
So I write her back and say, no, I don't believe in CIO and we don't do it and I don't want Wolfie crying. ARGH.
And I get this response: "I cannot let him cry and I'm glad that you are of the same mind. He knows that I love him and that I am an additional source of hugs and comfort and I don't want to take away that bond... Building trust with DSand now I hope soon with DD is as important as anything else I do with them. When he walks down the street with me his hand stays in mine comfortably and with great trust. I never want to lose that!"
So, I win right? Or is just okay from grandmothers to want the trust of their children.
Banging my head on the ground.
Then she then went on to suggest that I pinch my children really hard when they get shots to distract them from the shots. Her 70s era lamaze teacher taught her this wonder. Very modern.
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