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post #1 of 27
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So, I used to think I had a high level of pain tolerance. Now, I just think I'm a wimp. I'm almost 31 weeks and all I can do is try to survive. The house is a disaster, no one is eating good meals anymore and my dd is becoming a movie buff. I have the SPD, which used to only ache, but now my hips need a reminder how to work each time I get out of bed. The babes are moving around, so they're either high and restricting my breathing, or low and dancing on the bladder. I've had off and on again recurring yeast issues and hemmorroids. Now I'm trying to deal with a cold on top of it all. If I could only sleep, I think I could regain some mental strength to deal with everything. However, I'm in that awful point where I can only lay on one side for an hour before the aches start. Then comes the olympic feat of getting out of bed just to flip to the other side for an hour.

Tell me, does it get easier, or at least stay the same? How did you ladies do it? How did you keep motivated to fight for the birth you wanted, while dealing with the pregnancy woes? How do you care for newborns when the pregnancy has already taxed out your system?

Oh, and I'm still planning on working until Thanksgiving (37 weeks). I figure that if I'm going to be miserable, might as well be at work where I'm getting paid than at home, staring at the mess that I have no energy to deal with.
post #2 of 27
I hope it gets better for you soon dear.

I am doing ok right now. Well, today is an awful day but overall I am ok. I got three hours sleep last night between being uncomfortable and my son tossing/ turning. He has a stuffy nose so that means little sleep.

Other than that, I am dealing with some body image issues right now. I am finding it so hard to find my body attractive. But on the flip side of that, I am slightly worried that I have only gained 17lbs and I am 27 weeks pregnant. Thankfully the last ultrasound showed big babies who were measuring ahead.

*sigh* This twin pregnancy stuff is hard.
post #3 of 27
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*sigh* This twin pregnancy stuff is hard.
Ain't that the truth. So much harder than I thought. :

Yeah, my dd still sleeps with us half the night. I wouldn't have a problem with it, except she has this old nursing habit where she needs to play with my belly button to relax and fall asleep. That is getting old. :

I bet you look like a beautiful, fertile mama. However, I do understand the difficulty. It goes against everything society has taught us to want to gain weight. The one time I did manage to gain significantly, my ob told me to be careful to not do that every time. Now I'm worried because I haven't gained more than a couple pounds over the last 6-8 weeks. Next week is my growth u/s, so hopefully that will be reassuring.
post #4 of 27
From about 32-33 weeks on it was about as bad as it got. Well, the swelling got way worse at the end and the SPD got more painful. But the sleeping/pee/exhaustion peaked and the plateaued. Gah, it was horrible. The numbness in my hands and arms was the WORST part. Always there, nothing I could do, and so, so annoying.

Anyway to you ladies. I thought the end result was more than worth it but those last six weeks were total hell. I probably would have happily signed up for an induction if I'd been seeing an OB. But as it was I was having a home birth and had a midwife who lectured me every chance she got that we needed to let the babies bake. I was MORE than ready at 36 weeks. They came at 39.
post #5 of 27
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Originally Posted by Julia'sMom View Post
So, I used to think I had a high level of pain tolerance. Now, I just think I'm a wimp. I'm almost 31 weeks and all I can do is try to survive. The house is a disaster, no one is eating good meals anymore and my dd is becoming a movie buff. I have the SPD, which used to only ache, but now my hips need a reminder how to work each time I get out of bed. The babes are moving around, so they're either high and restricting my breathing, or low and dancing on the bladder. I've had off and on again recurring yeast issues and hemmorroids. Now I'm trying to deal with a cold on top of it all. If I could only sleep, I think I could regain some mental strength to deal with everything. However, I'm in that awful point where I can only lay on one side for an hour before the aches start. Then comes the olympic feat of getting out of bed just to flip to the other side for an hour.
I have to say...they whole laying on one side before it aches happens to me about every 20 minutes now, and then it is really excruciating to try to roll to the other side, at which point THAT only lasts for another 20 minutes. I am 36 1/2 weeks. I have also been having HORRIBLE carpal tunnel problems. I even have to have my husband open my bottle of Tylenol. I thought I had a high tolerance of pain too, until about 2 days ago. I was wondering the same thing..."How am I supposed to let this go on it's own and have the energy to go through a natural labor when I am THIS exhausted both mentally and physically." I seriously think I'm gonna die. The last two days has felt like a million years. Sorry I don't have much advice for you...but I do know how you feel. I am just gonna say a lot of prayers
post #6 of 27
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I have to say...they whole laying on one side before it aches happens to me about every 20 minutes now, and then it is really excruciating to try to roll to the other side, at which point THAT only lasts for another 20 minutes. I am 36 1/2 weeks. I have also been having HORRIBLE carpal tunnel problems. I even have to have my husband open my bottle of Tylenol. I thought I had a high tolerance of pain too, until about 2 days ago. I was wondering the same thing..."How am I supposed to let this go on it's own and have the energy to go through a natural labor when I am THIS exhausted both mentally and physically." I seriously think I'm gonna die. The last two days has felt like a million years. Sorry I don't have much advice for you...but I do know how you feel. I am just gonna say a lot of prayers
When those contractions start to gear up you'll catch your second wind. I remember just being SO INCREDIBLY THANKFUL that one way or another those babies were coming OUT! I made it through my toughest labor of the six because I was just so so so so so happy that I was going to be able to SLEEP again. And while having newborn twins is no picnic it's just nothing compared to how little sleep I was getting while end pregnant with them. I wasn't sleeping a bunch but at least I was RESTING when I was asleep!
post #7 of 27
I feel ya Momma...

Up until this week, I thought it was going pretty good. It seems as though everything is pretty much hitting me at once. I am still sleeping quite a bit but it is not as restful, and rolling over is quite the chore. I have hip pain and SPD on a regular basis and it only gets magnified by pregnancy, especially this pregnancy. My calves cramp up at night from the circulation being cut off and I am just now having to get up during the night to pee. I still nap every afternoon with my 18 mo old so that helps with some of the tiredness.

I woke up 2 days ago with a horrible kink behind my shoulder so I thought a nice hot bath would be good. It would probably been pretty hysterical watching me try to get down into the tub and then the water only really covered about 1/2 my body. Getting out was quite the feat as well. I'll stick to hot showers and hope that the next time I can reach my legs, I won't have a foot of hair to shave off...I think it's been a month already since I shaved my legs.

I feel famished all the time but nothing is really ever very appealing. We are having a movie night at our church tonight and there are serving chili-dogs and I think that I might eat a dozen For some reason, they sound so good when normally I wouldn't want to tough a hotdog.

Dh and I have not been intimate in nearly a month already. He says he doesn't mind and I believe him, he is pretty sympathetic, but I wish I didn't feel so crappy by bed time. I think it would be good for my own sanity as well.

I wear my PJ's all the time unless I'm going somewhere or expecting company. They are all getting pretty tight and have to be worn under my belly. To top off the ensemble, most of my shirts (even my maternity tops) are all too short so the bottom of my belly hangs out. DH usually has to let out a giggle the first time he sees me and I know it looks ridiculous but what the hell...not much I can do about it without spending a fortune on a new wardrobe that I don't plan on wearing for all that much longer. And now my undies are all too tight as well and I hate wearing them rolled down under my belly.

I'm really feeling like having 36 wk twins at this point but deep down want to bake them as long as possible. Even my full term babies are small so I want them to have as much bulk as possible.
post #8 of 27
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Well...at least we're all in the same boat. I think just knowing I'm not alone helps me feel better. Rachel, I too am wishing for 36 weekers, although I know it's better to go longer. Actually, what I'd really like now is to be put in a coma for the next 8 weeks, until labor begins.

and for all of you ladies. :

Mom_of_Steele - You are almost there! : You've done a tremendous job, as I've been following your constant contractions thread. I'll rejoice with you when those healthy babes come out. :
post #9 of 27


I'm barely 20 weeks and I don't really have anything to vent about.....yet. People asking me when I am going to go on bedrest (like every MOM just HAS to go on bedrest or something) is getting pretty annoying, though.
post #10 of 27
Cheering for you ladies! Bake those babies! You are doing wonderful work!


If you can get to a pool, GO! Swimming (or just floating) feels so GOOOOD when you are carrying so much extra weight around all day & night. Check into your local Ys or health clubs or high schools - it will be worth it!
post #11 of 27
I just found out on Wednesday that I'm expecting twins. I'm 20 weeks and it seems like just knowing that there are two in there has made things more uncomfortable. But honestly, I think it's the shock of it all!

My name is Valerie, I have two kids, they're almost 4 & 2. So I'll definitely have my hands full. When I agreed to #3 I sooooo was not expecting this!

Is anyone feeling good? I know this is a vent thread but now I'm a bit scared of what is to come.
post #12 of 27
Wow mamas! Sounds awful! I am officially terrified.

I carried my DS to 40w5d and while I was a bit uncomfortable I was in no rush to birth. I am scared to think about how different it will be this time around.
post #13 of 27
Don't throw daggers my way, but someone asked if anyone was feeling good so I thought I should speak up. I'm 32 weeks along and feeling good overall. I'm fortunate in that I don't work outside the house and these are our first children, so I can take naps whenever I need to. I'm also able to see a chiropractor twice a week, which helps with the hip pain.

There are definitely days and weeks that test my stamina. And there have been several times when the groin pain or numbness in my hands made me wonder how I could possibly make it another month, let alone to 40 weeks. Then I see how carefree our arthritic old dog is as he limps around the yard and I scold myself for letting these pains get me down. I have been warned by experienced twin mamas to do as much as I can while I still feel good. Obviously that point comes at different times for each of us. Hang in there, you are doing a wonderful thing carrying those babies as long as you can! Just picture how big, fat and healthy they're growing!
post #14 of 27
You know...I carried my daughter to 42 weeks and 1 day. So, honestly I thought I could handle the whole twin thing, but this is so much worse (not to be negative). But even at 35 weeks I was feeling relatively good, people couldn't believe I "wasn't on bed rest" and that I was walking through the corn maze and pumpkin patch with my daughter, lol. I pretty much didn't have to change anything I had been doing or bail out on anything until just recently. I have to say though...the last two days I laid around because I was in so much pain from baby a sitting on my pubic bone. I seriously thought each day would never end and I thought I was going to die and was getting really depressed...but even though I was still in a lot of pain and discomfort today, I decided to sanitize both of my bathrooms, sweep and mop, and do some laundry. I plugged in my pumpkin spice candle (so yummy) and went out to dinner with my hubby, mom and sister and I actually feel a lot better. It's so totally a mental thing...like I know that "physically" I'm not really feeling better, but I just feel like I can handle it. You HAVE to do things to keep you busy! So, everything will take you five times as long, haha...but at least it gives you something to do. The one nice thing I have been able to do since about 25 weeks is physical therapy. I get to lay on the table with these pregnancy pillow things while I get moist heat packs on my back, then a massage, and then I have an hour or so in the pool of strengthening workouts on the under water treadmill, etc. Then I get to just "hang" in the deep end with a noodle. Those days I usually feel a lot better. So if you ladies could get into anything like that, it's totally worth it. I decided it's all a mind game though...I'm just gonna pretend like I feel great and keep myself as busy as I can and hope I just go into labor on my own soon. Good luck girls!
post #15 of 27
Mom_of_steele, your PT treatments sound delicious! And all that cleaning sounds suspiciously like nesting. Keep up the good work !
post #16 of 27
valerieg - welcome and congrats mama

by 31 weeks my little body was crashing. i couldn't walk or move without extreme pain and had horrendous varicose veins in my pelvic area.
but then i went into labour at 32 weeks so wrt to work; you really need to listen to your body. looking at the messy home will be worth it for bigger babies. honest!!

it was physically such a HUGE relief to birth. i felt so bad that my body was ecstatic to birth them that early, as emotionally it was totally heart breaking

and get some new pretty knickers because likely you'll still have a bit of baby bulge round the hips for a while yet new knickers at 31 weeks made me feel much more comfy. you are worth it

edit:i had four older children and agree with previous poster that if you can rest it should be 'easier' than if you're having to dart around. but everybody is different and some mamas sail through multiple pregnancies. YAY. so have hope mamas if you're still feeling great!!
post #17 of 27
The other day at LLL when it came up that I gave birth early at 30 weeks the leader informed me that if SHE had a twin pregnancy she would carry them to 40 weeks because her (singleton) babies were SO comfortable in HER body until 40 and 42 weeks or something like that. I was too stunned by her insensitivity to say what I would have liked to have said, but I wish I had said that a multiple pregnancy is a whole 'nother ballgame (and that she should STFU, TYVM!)

I remember about 3 weeks before I gave birth it started to get horrible. The hip pain while trying to sleep, etc etc. You are so lucky that you have made it this far! Every single day counts. This may be morbid, but after I initially went into PTL every day I kept them in I just thought, every day in me is one more day not in the hospital. And the whole time I was in the NICU with my babies I just cried and cried that they weren't in me anymore. You are lucky women!
post #18 of 27
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The other day at LLL when it came up that I gave birth early at 30 weeks the leader informed me that if SHE had a twin pregnancy she would carry them to 40 weeks because her (singleton) babies were SO comfortable in HER body until 40 and 42 weeks or something like that. I was too stunned by her insensitivity to say what I would have liked to have said, but I wish I had said that a multiple pregnancy is a whole 'nother ballgame (and that she should STFU, TYVM!)
What an ignorant and nasty woman. I'm sorry you had to be around someone like that.
post #19 of 27
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The other day at LLL when it came up that I gave birth early at 30 weeks the leader informed me that if SHE had a twin pregnancy she would carry them to 40 weeks because her (singleton) babies were SO comfortable in HER body until 40 and 42 weeks or something like that. I was too stunned by her insensitivity to say what I would have liked to have said, but I wish I had said that a multiple pregnancy is a whole 'nother ballgame (and that she should STFU, TYVM!)

I remember about 3 weeks before I gave birth it started to get horrible. The hip pain while trying to sleep, etc etc. You are so lucky that you have made it this far! Every single day counts. This may be morbid, but after I initially went into PTL every day I kept them in I just thought, every day in me is one more day not in the hospital. And the whole time I was in the NICU with my babies I just cried and cried that they weren't in me anymore. You are lucky women!
The LEADER said that to you!? That's so nice of her, to discreetly point out that she thinks your body failed your babies. How very supportive. I'd sure like her name and phone #.
post #20 of 27
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Originally Posted by yogafeet View Post
The other day at LLL when it came up that I gave birth early at 30 weeks the leader informed me that if SHE had a twin pregnancy she would carry them to 40 weeks because her (singleton) babies were SO comfortable in HER body until 40 and 42 weeks or something like that. I was too stunned by her insensitivity to say what I would have liked to have said, but I wish I had said that a multiple pregnancy is a whole 'nother ballgame (and that she should STFU, TYVM!)

I remember about 3 weeks before I gave birth it started to get horrible. The hip pain while trying to sleep, etc etc. You are so lucky that you have made it this far! Every single day counts. This may be morbid, but after I initially went into PTL every day I kept them in I just thought, every day in me is one more day not in the hospital. And the whole time I was in the NICU with my babies I just cried and cried that they weren't in me anymore. You are lucky women!


i feel a bum now for how i phrased my comment syster. if mine'd been my first i still would have had the same experience i'm sure. it's hard to have felt the pain (physically and emotionally with preemies) and stay upbeat for mamas who come after iykwim. but there is hope for lots of the mamas to go allllll the way. but not all of us did or will, i know.
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