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post #21 of 27
I like this check-in thread.

I don't have quite so much physical complaints...mainly because I am on bed rest at home. I am 23 weeks and was put on bed rest 3 weeks ago due to a very short cervix and funneling. I will be admitted to the hospital for a few days in a week and a half for steroid shots.

So I don't get aches and pains from walking...because I'm not allowed to walk. Likewise I don't get overly tired because I'm in bed all day.

But sleeping is an issue: getting comfortable is very difficult. I have a body pillow and that is helpful. But its still hard.

I obviously want these girls to stay in me as long as possible...so I'm looking at (hopefully) another 15 weeks of bed rest, roughly. Sigh...

Oh and I have a 2 year old and feel horrible that I can't take care of him like I used to. And my poor husband is now doing 110% of everything. Sigh...

Don't even get me started on the 'pelvic rest' and lack of sexual intimacy....

post #22 of 27
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Originally Posted by shukr View Post


i feel a bum now for how i phrased my comment syster. if mine'd been my first i still would have had the same experience i'm sure. it's hard to have felt the pain (physically and emotionally with preemies) and stay upbeat for mamas who come after iykwim. but there is hope for lots of the mamas to go allllll the way. but not all of us did or will, i know.
Don't feel like a bum, Shukr-mama! My comment wasn't in reply to yours! I was just thinking out loud about how multiple pregnancies are so much more difficult and many parents of singletons don't seem to think so.

And yeah, the LLL leader made a nasty comment. But you know what? In every other circumstance I really like her and think she is a nice and good person. She probably doesn't even realize that it was a nasty comment. She just didn't GET multiple pregnancies or prematurity, y'know? You can't unless you have been through it. We have a tribe here of MoMs, which is so nice! It's true of anything... like the thread the other day about twins, preemies, and IVF. I got sad about the preemie thing b/c that's MY experience. But I was thinking later about how an IVF mama might get sad about that b/c it's HER experience.

Zevy- hugs to you. Bed rest SUCKS and I only had to do it for 12 days. I have a friend who was on bed rest from 19 weeks and gave birth at 35. She said it was so, so awful. I couldn't even imagine! We are here for you!!!!! Keep typing to us, woman!

Hope this all came out right.. dh is pestering me.
post #23 of 27
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Originally Posted by Valerieg View Post
I just found out on Wednesday that I'm expecting twins. I'm 20 weeks and it seems like just knowing that there are two in there has made things more uncomfortable. But honestly, I think it's the shock of it all!

My name is Valerie, I have two kids, they're almost 4 & 2. So I'll definitely have my hands full. When I agreed to #3 I sooooo was not expecting this!

Is anyone feeling good? I know this is a vent thread but now I'm a bit scared of what is to come.
Hi Valerie! I am feeling fine physically but, then again, I'm only 23 weeks. So, far, the only difference I've noticed between this and a singleton pregnancy is the increased/prolonged morning sickness (until about 16 weeks) and, of course, getting bigger much more quickly. I also have 2 older children and was also NOT NOT NOT expecting twins - I was on the fence about whether to have a 3rd or not... For me, the biggest struggle with this pregnancy so far has been the mental struggle of how I am going to do this when they're born, what are we in for, will I still be able to do anything that I did before, how will we afford this, how will we ever have a babysitter or go anywhere or travel, etc. You get the point! WRT the physical effects of a twin pregnancy, I try to look at it as a very short time period in the scheme of things. I am much more scared of what will happen after they are actually here!
post #24 of 27
It is good to hear that it isn't all terrible. I was pretty terrified last night! Someone told me today that carrying twins in the third trimester is sort of like the end of a singleton but for an entire three months. Sounds rough but doable. But, the end of both of my pregnancies weren't so terrible, so hopefully this won't be that bad.

I'm tiny, 5'2" 100 lbs not PG, so I'm afraid of what this huge belly will do to my hips and back. Hopefully I'm strong enough to handle it.

But, Freeman, I'm right where you are. I'm actually more terrified of how I'm going to handle all four of my kids once the twins arrive. I'm sure everything will be just fine but the thought is quite overwhelming.

And, even at 20 weeks, it'd be nice to take a nap. No naps here! If we nap my DD doesn't sleep well at night. Not a good trade-off. Though I might get a babysitter a couple days a week towards the end, naps are soooo nice!
post #25 of 27
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Valerie - Don't freak out about it yet. I remember lurking on many threads before and some women do sail thru their multiple pregnancy. I remember one mama writing about taking her other children to the water park right at the end. Everyone is different. I will concur with the previous poster who said to prepare all you can as soon as you can. I definately started nesting/seriously preparing around 20 weeks and am so glad as now I'm too exausted to physically do the work or to really care.

Thanks for the commiseration ladies! I hope we all find relief soon. In fact, I've taken tylenol the last couple of nights due to a low grade fever. Remarkably, it also took care of my aches so I was able to sleep for 2.5 to 3 hours before switching. Oh, it was heaven. Note, I'm NOT advocating meds, but I'm definately going to ask my ob about it at the next vist.
post #26 of 27
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Valerie - Don't freak out about it yet. I remember lurking on many threads before and some women do sail thru their multiple pregnancy. I remember one mama writing about taking her other children to the water park right at the end. Everyone is different. I will concur with the previous poster who said to prepare all you can as soon as you can. I definately started nesting/seriously preparing around 20 weeks and am so glad as now I'm too exausted to physically do the work or to really care.

Thanks for the commiseration ladies! I hope we all find relief soon. In fact, I've taken tylenol the last couple of nights due to a low grade fever. Remarkably, it also took care of my aches so I was able to sleep for 2.5 to 3 hours before switching. Oh, it was heaven. Note, I'm NOT advocating meds, but I'm definately going to ask my ob about it at the next vist.
I know what you mean, I started getting everything ready and organized around 15 weeks or so and I am so glad I did. It is nice to have everything like that. I just need my birth supplies now.

Oh and that is great that Tylenol helped you last night! Nothing wrong with a little relief.

My newest joy of twin pregnancy: wetting my pants. Not. fun.
post #27 of 27
I've been told to get as much as I can accomplished before the end of the second trimester. But, I didn't have the luxury of knowing the whole time, and just found out at my 20 wk u/s. I'm going to try and do what I can as soon as I can. But DS (almost 2) is still in our nursery!

I guess I'd be setting myself up for disappointment to assume I'd sail through til the end. So I'm just going to hope for the best and prepare myself for the worst. My first two pregnancies were a breeze though. So, I hope, I pray!
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