Separate beds but same room?

[Halfasianmomma]

Does anyone have an arrangement such as this: mama and LO sleep in the same bedroom, but in separate beds? How does this work for you? What made you decide on this arrangement? Do you still nurse at night?

The reason I ask is that DD (15 months old) and I currently sleep in the same "bed area". She sleeps on a double futon and I've pushed a single mattress up against hers. We've been cosleeping since her birth, but as she's gotten bigger, she seems to sleep better when I'm not near her, which is why I put her on a double futon, to give her some space. This way, when she thrashes about at night, she doesn't touch me. As soon as she does, she smells me and wants the boob. I am currently trying to nightwean her or at the very least, limit nursing to "no boob between 11 and 6.

Last night was my first attempt and save for a long 45 minute session of rocking, fussing and shushing, it went well. She didn't ask for the boob between 11 and 5:30ish. I woke her up myself at 5:45 to nurse her and she fell back asleep afterwards.

I'm wondering if the nightweaning would go better if I weren't so close physically. As things are now, I make a pillow barrier between us, and when DD doesn't see me or smell me, she goes right back to sleep after waking.

input anyone?

[farmkids42morrow]

We are currently co-sleeping with kiddo #4, but with #2 we did the same room, different bed thing once he was past the first year because he was a major mover & shaker at night and my husband and I would end up almost falling out of bed trying not to squish him. We put a twin bed at the bottom of our bed and he slept down there happily for a couple years. I was not nursing by that time though, but I don't think it would have caused a problem.

[farmkids42morrow]

Oops, just noticed that you said you're trying to wean at night...I don't know if the separation would help or not early on when she's not super sleepy, but the middle of the night, "I just barely woke up and want to nurse because you're right there"; yeah, I think it would help having a little more distance between you. Night weaning was always hardest for my kids because that's when they enjoyed nursing the most. So give it time and don't expect to stop right away.

[MilkbarMom]

We slept in separate beds, in the same room, from the time our girls were 2.5 & 5...until they were 5 and 7. Then they went into their own room together. When we were all on the same room, the girls shared a queen bed, and my husband and I had a queen as well.

[tanyam926]

As my boys have gotten older I have moved them to their beds in the same rm as ours. So for a while we had a row of beds all up against ea other. Ds1 in a twin, ds2 in a toddler bed, and ds3 in queen w/me and dh.

The toddler bed would be level w/our bed and right up against our bed bc whoever was in it (first ds1, now ds2) was still nursing at night.

A couple of wks ago my boys started sleeping in thier own rm! So now our arrangement is bunkbeds in boys rm, I nurse ds2 to sleep and he comes into our rm about 3 a.m. and sleeps the rest of the night in his toddler bed still next to our bed. (He is still nursing too). Baby is still in bed w/us but when he is older he will moving to the toddler bed right next to us.