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A life lesson I learned on MDC! How about you?

post #1 of 16
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I pay zero attention to screen names from one thread to another. I could be in a bitter battle with someone on a particular thread where mean and insulting comments are made toward me (ok, ok, OR by me) then 5 minutes later wander to another unrelated thread where I'm agreeing with, joking with, or complimenting the very same person from the previous thread.

In forums I don't hold grudges or carry ill thoughts along to other threads based on an experience in one thread. I don't discount someone automatically if they pop up in another thread based on their manner in a previous thread, or by their moods or post content on another day. Maybe I do this because I'm uninvested or maybe it's because I don't have any physical attachment to concrete a mental image of dislike on. Either way, I realized today that I perhaps need to take advice from online me and bring along IRL.

Nothing wrong with avoiding people who treat you baddly... probably a smart thing to do in most cases but, theres no reason you have to drag the associated feelings and bad views of that person into the next thread of your life.

Online I don't expect so-and-so to come wandering in just to make a rude or judgemental comment because I don't keep tabs on ANY of the so-and-sos. Sure, on occasion the same person probably does commit repeat rudeness but, I'm not spending my time looking out for them or lurking in wait for them to say something nasty so I can go on the defence.

Who said you can't learn anything about real life communication through online interaction!

What life lessons have you learned here on MDC?
post #2 of 16
I feel the same way, although I do look at the names of posters since I feel like it helps me to 'personalize' my responses. I do my best not to hold grudges in real life, but there are times when I need to, in order to save myself from making the same mistakes- such as trusting someone who has shown me time and time again that they are unable to be trustworthy.

I try to give people some slack (on here and irl) but, honestly, sometimes I get to the point where I would rather just move on and avoid that person

MDC has also taught me a lot about compassion, and understanding that we are all the same even if we have differing views..
post #3 of 16
Circumcision is completely unnecessary and immunizations should be approached with caution....
post #4 of 16
ditto Houdini.

And maybe they really ARE out to get me. (or more seriously, I can't fix other people and should focus on myself and hug my kids more)

And that it's NORMAL for my kids to nurse past the age of 2 and cosleep. I am NOT ruining them or spoiling them.

and sometimes the right answer really is "suck it"
post #5 of 16
I have learned a lot from MDC. Although I guess I have never sat down to just ponder the specifics of it.

(Seems like I may have missed something, or this thread has veared off into another direction.)
post #6 of 16
We have more in common than we are different.

Pass the bean dip....pass the bean dip...pass the bean dip. Sometimes you really aren't going to change someone's mind, no matter how much you believe in something and want to engage in thoughtful conversation about it. So, pass the bean dip, please!

In the end, only kindness matters.
...but like neetling just said, sometimes the only good answer truly is 'suck it.'

I'm not the only one in the world who needs a break/wants a good strong cup of coffee/would climb heaven and earth for a good night's sleep, etc. So maybe I should just get over myself.

And...if I need the advice of sage, wise women or just need a virtual hug -- MDC is a great place to get these things.
post #7 of 16
ive learned something about a service chicken.....



post #8 of 16
I guess I've learned that sometimes it's good to speak up and raise a fuss, and sometimes it's not worth the effort. I don't mean that in a negative way.
post #9 of 16
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Originally Posted by FondestBianca View Post
I pay zero attention to screen names from one thread to another. I could be in a bitter battle with someone on a particular thread where mean and insulting comments are made toward me (ok, ok, OR by me) then 5 minutes later wander to another unrelated thread where I'm agreeing with, joking with, or complimenting the very same person from the previous thread.
I do this too. That being said, every now and then someone will stick out to me that I see around alot and agree with on a consistent basis and I might remember them. Maybe. But the ones I disagree with? For some reason later I never can recall who exactly it was I was dukin' it out with.
post #10 of 16
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Originally Posted by MysteryMama View Post
But the ones I disagree with? For some reason later I never can recall who exactly it was I was dukin' it out with.
yup. thats me exactly
post #11 of 16
I don't hold grudges (and hope others don't as well ) plus I also am not likely to remember a screen name after the fact.

I have learned from MDC that some words are offensive to others, such as: crap, suck, yeah, and butt. Is that a life lesson?
post #12 of 16
I have learned to broaden my world view. The way I was raised and the way I live is not a universal- there are many people with varied ways of living and thinking. I must've grown up in a bubble because I didn't realize until I grew up (and came here) that people live so many different kinds of lives.
Everyone has a different normal. And that's okay.
post #13 of 16
I've learned that sometimes (oftentimes?) a conflict is really nothing more than a misunderstanding.
post #14 of 16
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Originally Posted by hopefulfaith View Post
We have more in common than we are different.

Pass the bean dip....pass the bean dip...pass the bean dip. Sometimes you really aren't going to change someone's mind, no matter how much you believe in something and want to engage in thoughtful conversation about it. So, pass the bean dip, please!

In the end, only kindness matters.
...but like neetling just said, sometimes the only good answer truly is 'suck it.'

I'm not the only one in the world who needs a break/wants a good strong cup of coffee/would climb heaven and earth for a good night's sleep, etc. So maybe I should just get over myself.

And...if I need the advice of sage, wise women or just need a virtual hug -- MDC is a great place to get these things.

post #15 of 16
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Originally Posted by Amandamanda View Post
ive learned something about a service chicken.....





I have learned that MDC is often more appealing than sleep!

Also, I love how communicating with people from all over helps me keep perspective. I live pretty far away--literally and figuratively--from most of America. I have to leave my little utopian bubble once in a while to keep my head on straight. Coming here reminds me about different kinds of people even when I am not traveling.
post #16 of 16
I was just noticing that, re: the OP, the other day.

The few people I've decided to ignore are because I stopped being surprised by their usernames when I was irked by a post.

I mostly only notice continuously 'good' posters, so it takes a lot for someone to stand out as aggravating.
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