My 5-week old has been diagnosed with a ureterocele that needs to be incised, and the surgery involved will be passing a scope and laser into his bladder. They are also recommending tests which involve a catheter. The NP that we saw (who was a total pro-circ UAV, but that's a whole different story) was adamant that they would have to "loosen" the skin around the opening, use a steroid cream, and then lyse any adhesions. She refused to admit that this was in fact RETRACTING. And she kept insisting that they would NOT be retracting his foreskin in any way. She was a Urology specialist, btw. Not to mention that she did pull back on his foreskin during the exam, though only slightly.
We are meeting with the actual Urologist on Monday and I want to be prepared. I am hoping he'll be a little more...informed. I definitely plan on being very insistent that NO retraction is to be done for any of the procedures, but I am worried that my concerns will be poo-poo'ed or blown off because HE is the doctor and HE knows better than I. I am under the impression that none of the procedures that need to be done actually require any retraction, but this is NOT what the NP seemed to be saying. I am worried that since he is in the same practice as she, he will have the same philosophy. I can only demand so much of someone who's been taught the exact opposite, yk? And unfortunately these people are like the ONLY pediatric urologists in the entire area. This guy comes highly recommended, but I have no idea if he is actually foreskin-friendly.
So, how likely is it that my requests will be honored (even if I come in stacked with research and stuff) if I flat out refuse his foreskin to be manipulated? What happens if they say that they cannot do the procedures without "loosening" the skin? I don't really have many other options as far as other practitioners!
Thanks
We are meeting with the actual Urologist on Monday and I want to be prepared. I am hoping he'll be a little more...informed. I definitely plan on being very insistent that NO retraction is to be done for any of the procedures, but I am worried that my concerns will be poo-poo'ed or blown off because HE is the doctor and HE knows better than I. I am under the impression that none of the procedures that need to be done actually require any retraction, but this is NOT what the NP seemed to be saying. I am worried that since he is in the same practice as she, he will have the same philosophy. I can only demand so much of someone who's been taught the exact opposite, yk? And unfortunately these people are like the ONLY pediatric urologists in the entire area. This guy comes highly recommended, but I have no idea if he is actually foreskin-friendly.
So, how likely is it that my requests will be honored (even if I come in stacked with research and stuff) if I flat out refuse his foreskin to be manipulated? What happens if they say that they cannot do the procedures without "loosening" the skin? I don't really have many other options as far as other practitioners!
Thanks
