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[WeasleyMum]

to the above. Mine insisted that I use the ($30 a box) ovulation predictor kits every month, ignored everything else.

[Tear78]

My OB recommended a fertility specialist who is covered by my insurance. I checked. But she also recommended that I take Clomid again this cycle. I called back and left a message to please let me know if you think I need to double the progesterone dose this month. I'm not sure about the Clomid. I feel like I don't want to without being monitored. I had terrible, awful, almost-call-the-emergency-OB-number cramps after my period the cycle I took clomid. I think it was probably a cyst. I don't want to mess around. I'll call the fertility specialist tomorrow, since they're only open during school hours. I guess I'll have to call in my planning time . The other clinic never called back, but my insurance company thinks they're not covered anyway. sigh...I hate feeling so helpless. Thanks for reading!!!

[Tear78]

I made an appointment: november 9th. That'll be around 11dpo for me, so probably good timing for testing and such the following cycle. Of course I hope I don't need it, but I just expect af more than anything else at this point.

ps - I didn't take the Clomid. Chart day 6 now. I feel like it was a smart move.

[WeasleyMum]

Originally Posted by Tear78

I made an appointment: november 9th. That'll be around 11dpo for me, so probably good timing for testing and such the following cycle. Of course I hope I don't need it, but I just expect af more than anything else at this point.

ps - I didn't take the Clomid. Chart day 6 now. I feel like it was a smart move.

Good luck at your appointment! I remember the relief of finally seeing someone and feeling like we were "getting somewhere". I hope that's how it makes you feel, too.

for you and your sis!

[Tear78]

Thank you, WeasleyMum! I'm getting nervous and excited, so I hope this helps me feel like there's hope in this yet. I actually just saw my physician (for a sore throat), and I mentioned our TTC struggles, and she is giving me bloodwork to check my thyroid as well as to make sure I don't have anemia or vitamin D deficiency. So that's a good step, too. But she said something that bugged me: she said that for infertility to even be considered we need to have sex every day after my period until day 14 (she asked if I have a 28 day cycle, at least, and that is usually around when I ovulate...if I can believe my charts). I guess DH and I are trying to enjoy sex again, and here I'm getting advice to do it no matter what. Do you guys believe in this? Thanks

ps - WeasleyMum, is your name a Harry Potter reference...or was that annoying to ask?

[Carlyle]

Originally Posted by Tear78

But she said something that bugged me: she said that for infertility to even be considered we need to have sex every day after my period until day 14

Okay, buncha hooey in my opinion. That just sounds like a recipe for being raw and sore (and cranky). "Prescribed sex" just doesn't do it for me. (I remember last month after I o'd I was so much more in the mood because I didn't feel like it was "something I should be doing." Okay, so I'm a bit or a rebel...) Besides, I've heard that you're supposed to do every OTHER day to let the sperm build up or something...

[Tear78]

Originally Posted by Carlyle

Okay, buncha hooey in my opinion. That just sounds like a recipe for being raw and sore (and cranky). "Prescribed sex" just doesn't do it for me. (I remember last month after I o'd I was so much more in the mood because I didn't feel like it was "something I should be doing." Okay, so I'm a bit or a rebel...) Besides, I've heard that you're supposed to do every OTHER day to let the sperm build up or something...

I know, right? I need to remember that each doctor has their strength. She's giving me thyroid testing, etc, and I'm thankful. But she also so lovingly said "so you actually haven't miscarried, just the late period and the blighted ovum? Well that's good news, it means you're not having repeated loss" um...if you mean it's good news I've never carried a living baby, then yeah. Thanks. I guess it was JUST a blighted ovum at 9 weeks. No broken dreams and hearts here.

[newmommy7-08]

I'd keep in mind that the physician you saw who gave you that advice is not an RE... and if an RE ever does give you that advice RUN FAST in the other direction. That is probably one of the silliest things I've ever heard. good luck at your appt on the 9th. but don't be surprised if they wait till the next cycle for any tests. I think usually they start w/ CD 3 blood work, u/s and glucose test. However they may do mid cycle levels around day 14 just because that's around where you'll be.

Also, you can get OPK's at the dollar store for a buck a piece... and they all work the same IMO.

[Carlyle]

Originally Posted by Tear78

I know, right? I need to remember that each doctor has their strength. She's giving me thyroid testing, etc, and I'm thankful. But she also so lovingly said "so you actually haven't miscarried, just the late period and the blighted ovum? Well that's good news, it means you're not having repeated loss" um...if you mean it's good news I've never carried a living baby, then yeah. Thanks. I guess it was JUST a blighted ovum at 9 weeks. No broken dreams and hearts here.

Apparently this doctor's strength is NOT bedside manner...

[Court]

Hey Tear, I just wanted to pop in and say I'm so glad you made an appointment with an RE. I think about you a lot, and am very hopeful for you. So sorry you had doctors say stupid things, adding insult to injury. It's going to feel great to talk to an RE, I promise And this whole infertility thing is so hard on our psyche, especially if prior to this, you believed that "everything happens for a reason." I'm pretty sure I don't believe that anymore. I think life happens, you're dealt a certain hand, and it's how you play it that matters. You're meant to be a mother, I know it. I'm sure it's been recommended at some point, but a little therapy never hurt. They might know of ways to help manage the monthly grief, and the waiting. I dunno. anyways, (((hugs))) to you and your dh.

[WeasleyMum]

Originally Posted by Tear78

Thank you, WeasleyMum! I'm getting nervous and excited, so I hope this helps me feel like there's hope in this yet. I actually just saw my physician (for a sore throat), and I mentioned our TTC struggles, and she is giving me bloodwork to check my thyroid as well as to make sure I don't have anemia or vitamin D deficiency. So that's a good step, too. But she said something that bugged me: she said that for infertility to even be considered we need to have sex every day after my period until day 14 (she asked if I have a 28 day cycle, at least, and that is usually around when I ovulate...if I can believe my charts). I guess DH and I are trying to enjoy sex again, and here I'm getting advice to do it no matter what. Do you guys believe in this? Thanks

ps - WeasleyMum, is your name a Harry Potter reference...or was that annoying to ask?

Good grief. My RE never said anything like that, just to do the deed when I was ovulating. Period. Of course, conceiving wasn't part of our issue, but still. Every day would be way overkill, it only takes once! OTOH, the thyroid test is a must. I had mine tested *several* times because I have a strong family history of hypothyroidism.

And yes, Weasleymum is totally a Harry Potter reference! And no, it's not annoying to ask! I could talk about HP all day. (I say "could", I guess I mean "I have". )

Originally Posted by Tear78

I know, right? I need to remember that each doctor has their strength. She's giving me thyroid testing, etc, and I'm thankful. But she also so lovingly said "so you actually haven't miscarried, just the late period and the blighted ovum? Well that's good news, it means you're not having repeated loss" um...if you mean it's good news I've never carried a living baby, then yeah. Thanks. I guess it was JUST a blighted ovum at 9 weeks. No broken dreams and hearts here.

WTF? A blighted ovum IS a miscarriage! And I should know. What a dimwit.

[Tear78]

Originally Posted by Court

Hey Tear, I just wanted to pop in and say I'm so glad you made an appointment with an RE. I think about you a lot, and am very hopeful for you. So sorry you had doctors say stupid things, adding insult to injury. It's going to feel great to talk to an RE, I promise And this whole infertility thing is so hard on our psyche, especially if prior to this, you believed that "everything happens for a reason." I'm pretty sure I don't believe that anymore. I think life happens, you're dealt a certain hand, and it's how you play it that matters. You're meant to be a mother, I know it. I'm sure it's been recommended at some point, but a little therapy never hurt. They might know of ways to help manage the monthly grief, and the waiting. I dunno. anyways, (((hugs))) to you and your dh.

Hi Court! I think about you lots, too. You always remind me that I need to take it easy on myself. Thank you for that. I feel positive about going to the RE, too, though I of course hope I won't need it. I tend to try to find the reason behind everything, too. I think I agree with you about life, and yet I still try to find the positive (I know it doesn't sound like it on here). Sometimes I lose it, too. But this has brought me closer to my sister and my parents, and of course to my DH. I imagine if we had gotten pregnant right away, or before we were officially TTC and were being risky. I maybe wouldn't have known for sure how much he wants to be a dad. That's a powerful thing to have. So I guess there is positive to focus on in all of this. But there's also tons of sadness and grief, and I know it's shaping me a bit as a person. I hope that I come out of this with the bouncy, optimistic, cheerful side of me still intact.

WeasleyMum, thanks for the validation! It certainly FELT like a miscarriage when I had the D&C and then nearly hemorrhaged the following week. I go in for my thryoid, etc bloodwork tomorrow morning. No breakfast for me! REMEMBER, REMEMBER, REMEMBER! Oh, and I could talk Harry Potter all day too. um..er...ok I admit I'm reading it right now.

[Tear78]

I ordered Pre-Seed Is it a load of hooey?