Originally Posted by MariaMadly
First off, I'm pro-legalization. I think it's vital that the girl be aware of all the possible systemic consequences regarding a criminal record, impact on school admissions or hiring, etc. But I also think the part about knowing who you're with is important on many levels. "Good company" doesn't just mean people who won't touch the stuff, or merely won't rat you out if you do. It matters more that she's among friends, or in a safe situation herself, when she's in a vulnerable state -- maybe even with one person not using depending on the circumstances. Looking after one another is never a bad idea, and it looks as though the mom's approach (from what I read) seems to omit concern for her daughter in this regard completely.
I agree with this entire post. I think because the mom in the OP came down so hard on her daughter, the next time the daughter smokes ('cuz more likely than not, she will) the only lesson the daughter will have learned is to cover it up better. That makes me think of shady people and shady circumstances.
My parents were open and honest with me about their drug experiences, and the biggest lesson I learned was to make smart decisions. Be in a safe place. Be with people who will take care of you, and people you will take care of. Make sure someone is aware enough to make good choices. Be aware of the benefits versus the risks. (Yeah it would be fun to be high right now, but I'm in a public place/with people I don't know/not sure where this weed came from/have a test tomorrow/etc.)
Just for giggles, I called and asked my mom about it. Her quote, "You were a good kid. You were in the IB program, in sports, in clubs. You were respectful, and kept your room clean. You visited your grandparents several times a week. You volunteered. Man, I would have needed a joint or two to relax from all that. Now, if you were some little smart a-- who was failing out of school and in general being a big jerk, it would have been totally different."
Hmm. No wonder that I could/did/and still do talk to my mom about everything in an open and honest manner.