Weekly thread, Oct 18-25 - Page 12

[sew_crafty_girl]

Originally Posted by Robbins0614

Maternity Pants and Underwear Issue-This is my one big complaint. My underwear, until I switched to my maternity jeans, used to stay up. The day I switched to maternity pants my underwear started falling down all the time. What's up with this?!?!?! It is kinda embarrassing to realize your underwear is falling off when you're out in public and you have to pull it up or be terribly uncomfortable and I don't like being underwear uncomfortable. I want underwear that stays in place!

I'm having this problem too. My size large panties that come up on my belly a bit, with a lacy top band, were getting tight so I switched to XL bikinis and they fall down and drive me nuts, so I'm back to tightish undies for a while.

With my daughter I totally got into the full belly maternity undies, but I couldn't do it with my son. Now I'm just too cheap and don't think it's sexy, to break down and buy special maternity undies.

My pants are constantly falling down on me too. I hate below the belly mat pants, so I wear the panel ones, but I'm always hiking them up.

[sehbub]

I'm so trying to avoid maternity undies 'cause let's face it, there isn't much that's LESS attractive. However, all my regular ones feel weird now. Not tight, just off somehow. It's bizarre. I've never had this before.

Also can't wait for the belly to really be out there to hold up my maternity pants which are falling off. So annoying.

[GreenTeaGinger61]

I can't deal with anything around my stomach right now. I mean anything. I have lots of elastic waist non-maternity skirts that fit fine but something about the way they feel on my stomach drives me mad. I can deal with maternity panels thankful because I really can't stand the low rise ones. I got some at Mother Maternity on sale for 12 (normally $70) and I can barely stand them but I forced myself to wear them because they were ON SALE!

[Dena]

Goodness y'all have been busy!!

Originally Posted by ivymae

If the universe has a sense of humor, it will be these people who buy the place, not the 30 others who have walked through it after I have spend days cleaning the baseboards. I don't care who buys it though, I just want to be DONE.

Sweetie, they have FOUR teenagers. Your house probably looked fabulous to them!!

Originally Posted by rhiOrion

We're going to look at another house on Saturday. Fingers crossed.

Hoping you find the perfect house soon!!

Originally Posted by MaterPrimaePuellae

Now that it's all over, though, I wish that they *had* been there and backed out because of my dirty dishes, because a least then we wouldn't have had to go through the rest of that experience .

Ha! Sounds like our last house sale. Between the realtor (who drove around in a car with a "save a horse, ride a cowboy" bumper sticker - real professional) and the princess wife who had to have everything she wanted and had to have it NOW, no compromises, the whole sale/move was a disaster. They actually called us after they moved in and asked us to come pick up a load of SEASONED MAPLE we left in the garage for the double fireplace. And were mad we left it.

Originally Posted by erickalynne

anyone else not sleeping, sleeping bad, tossing and turning and up and down?

My sleep is getting progressively worse. Last night it was horrible.

Originally Posted by rhiOrion

I have no problem getting to sleep, and when I wake up I have no problem getting back to sleep, so in that, I'm lucky. But I wake up all the time.

Part of it is that I have a hard time finding a comfy position.

This. I use a body pillow, but flipping over is NOT the easy project it used to be. Between my belly and my hips I have to fully sit up and rotate. Ugh. And it is only going to get worse. Can't wait.

Originally Posted by rhiOrion

OMG! My friend and I just came up with the COOLEST idea for a nursery! I'm so freakin' excited I can't stand it.

So, my original plan had been to paint the bottom half of a room blue and the top half white, with waves on top of the blue. Then paint big fish and seaweed, etc, all over the room.

But she mentioned making felt fish, and it bloomed from there. We're going to make big felt fish, seaweed, octopus, yellow submarine, bubbles, etc, and put magnets on the back of them (big sheet magnets, so they aren't a hazard). And then under the paint in the room we're going to put a coat of magnetic paint (I just checked, it's lead free and kid's room safe)!

The sea life will be MOVABLE!

And later, when baby is older, he/she can help add to the sea life!

:

I LOVE this!! I may steal this for part of our family room!!

Originally Posted by CherryBomb

So I was up till after 1am with one puking kid, then got woken up before 7am by another puking kid. Blah. They must have some kind of stomach virus, it's coming out of both ends :/ Weird thing is no fevers and when they're aren't at the toilet, they seem perfectly normal! Praying it passes soon, we had to miss our homeschool co-op and dd2's therapy today.

I think there is something going around. My mom was throwing up and had chills, no fever today. Went into the assisted living residence where she is living and they had signs posted that all activities for the day were cancelled due to illness.

Originally Posted by smeisnotapirate

today is DH's birthday!

Happy birthday to him! Today is dd2's birthday too!

Originally Posted by shantiani

Ugh, speaking of sleep... I had a dream last night that dh and I were at a party and I went into the bathroom and found that I was bleeding. OMG it was awful. Such a helpless and desperate feeling of "how can I make this not be true?!" But I was so agitated that I actually pulled myself out of sleep enough to realize that I was dreaming and that everything was ok. What a relief.

. I have had bleeding dreams before. I hate them. Chalk it up to stress and worry. The other night I had a dream I was being shot at.

Originally Posted by Carley

My kid is a HOLY TERROR right now! I am totally trying to get a 5 minute perspective here... sometimes just reading the titles in the threads in the Parenting & Gentle Discipline forums help keep me from ejecting myself from my house What excellent practice! Just a few months from now I should have desensitized myself to Holy Terror enough to add another one to the mix! Ohhhh boy!

Nah, you never quite get desensitized, because just when you get used to one behavior, they find something new and even more annoying. Dd1 finally figured out the backtalk doesn't fly. Now she just ignores us and claims she didn't hear us. And yet if we are talking about a fun outing in whispers across the house, she can hear THAT.

Originally Posted by Robbins0614

I have a lot of catching up to do-this thread is moving fast! And DH is home for several days for fall break so naturally I have less time than usual.

Maternity Pants and Underwear Issue-This is my one big complaint. My underwear, until I switched to my maternity jeans, used to stay up. The day I switched to maternity pants my underwear started falling down all the time. What's up with this?!?!?! It is kinda embarrassing to realize your underwear is falling off when you're out in public and you have to pull it up or be terribly uncomfortable and I don't like being underwear uncomfortable. I want underwear that stays in place!

Isn't it funny how having dh home when he usually isn't just makes this harder and busier somehow?

Underwear - I have maternity underwear. Yes, it is horrible looking, but regular underwear is just too binding for me. But it STILL falls down. What is up with that? Same for my maternity jeans. It is not because they are too big, because even the ones that are getting tight fall down. I'm gonna have to dig out my Mork rainbow suspenders.

to all of the stuffy/head cold mamas. My head is a little stuffy in the morning, but it seems to clear as the day goes on. I can't imagine full time with the creeping crud.

AFM, today is dd2's second birthday! In fact two years ago at this time I was cursing like a sailor and muttering about how this pain better be leading to something! Funny, I never dreamed that just two years later I would be pg again, with two more! So, she had presents from us and sissy and tortellini dinner (one of her faves) and leftover cake from her party last weekend. I stuck a candle in it and the little bugger actually blew it out! And me without the video camera! Of course, I spent some time today missing her twin sister who should be here with us today (and being pg again, and with twins, only conspired to add to that) but all in all it was a pretty good day.

Oh, and over dinner I mentioned the (new) twins, and dd1 looked at me and said, "TWINS? We're having TWINS?" We had been talking about babies - plural - for weeks and I showed her pictures of both babies, pointing out #1 and #2, so I thought she had figured it out. Ooops. She was very happy, though. She was the one hoping for twins in the first place. Which really should have been my first clue, as that child has quite a way of manifesting what she wants.

[crazyeight]

Originally Posted by rhiOrion

is anybody else suddenly annoyed at having to do things like... hygiene?

For some reason I've really been dreading showers recently. I think it's because the cat box is in my bathroom, and though I keep it clean, the smell of the litter itself is driving me crazy. Plus the shower is pretty gross and I keep putting off putting up the new shower curtain liner because I hope we're moving sooner rather than later.

And then brushing my teeth makes me gag every damn time.

Argh. Times like this I wish I was a dirty hippie.

if it's the plastic liner you can throw that in the wash! yes really! i never heard of that before cause you just have to buy a new one right? i actually heard of someone doing it on mdc and decided to try it and low and behold it worked! it didn't disintegrate or anything. too cool! am i weird for being so excited over that?

i will never ever buy maternity underwear. no thanks! i just wear the ones i've got and stretch them all to heck...then i have a wonderful excuse after i stopped bleeding to buy new sexy underwear and give myself a little boost....course it helps if i actually go and buy them...i've actually waited like a year before i bought new ones before...

i love showers. i sit in my shower and let the water run down my back for a little mini massage then of course the kids are yelling through the door about whatever disaster is happening now

i am aspiring to be a better preggo nester....and get my crocheting out...i've been really weird and wanting the cold weather and snow and a fire and just being in my living room with some crocheting and a movie on...just sounds like heaven....alas..no snow in az.

[OneWithTwo]

ok this is my reminder that tomorrow I need some HEAVY DUTY urgent advice. I have to go to sleep while I am tired or I won't sleep at all...but tomorrow AM I will type the situation out and NEED advice....very worried and scared now (has to do with the baby daddy-as awkward as that sounds)

[Peace+Hope]

oh my goodness, i guess i'm just totally clueless about maternity underwear. i keep seeing it when shopping for mat clothes (which sucks), and laughing to myself. "that is so stupid," i scoff! "that underwear looks just like mine - whatev!"

sooo... how is it different? i mean, the lower cut kind? i figure my regular low cut panties will be just fine. am i deluding myself?

greentea, i really thought i would hate the panel pants, but they are all i can seem to find (that aren't $70) right now! i bought some on sale, and hate them now that i have them home... they are all bunched in the front - almost looks like i have pleated pants on - the HORROR!

erickalynne, i hope you were able to sleep

[Carita]

p&h - i never had maternity underwear - i just did bikini cut as well - the extra spandexy kind

hygiene - i can't remember to brush my teeth for the freakin life of me!

[rhiOrion]

I bought some of the motherhood maternity low rise hipster underwear and I actually really like them. They're not really that much different than some of my regular underwear, but they're extra stretchy.

I can still wear my old underwear, but the ones with tighter elastic are starting to become uncomfortable. I won't buy anymore maternity underwear (my mom bought these for me), but I do see myself buying some new underwear in general... some that are nice and not tight.

[Robbins0614]

While I'm not glad that so many of us are suffering from underwear discomfort I am glad to know I'm not alone!

I do have some maternity underwear from last time-I don't really remember what they were like since it's been awhile. I haven't tried any on yet to see if they're any better. I guess I'm in denial that I'm big enough that they might fit since I didn't use them until 7-8 months last time.

Erika.

[GreenTeaGinger61]

Originally Posted by Peace+Hope

greentea, i really thought i would hate the panel pants, but they are all i can seem to find (that aren't $70) right now! i bought some on sale, and hate them now that i have them home... they are all bunched in the front - almost looks like i have pleated pants on - the HORROR!

I wasn't clear:P They're actually pants without the panel. I like the panel. For some reason it just feels more secure plus it smooths out my fat bumps which is so nice: The sale pants are skinny black jeans but they don't have the panel. I always feel like they're about to slip off my body. Very unpleasant. But they're cool and I would never pay 70 for jeans so to own some that only cost me 12 gives me a thrill. Lame I know. I need a life.

Have you tried the Motherhood Maternity's secret panel pants? Those are seriously the best panel pants I've ever owned. They have a very smooth look, and everytime I've worn the pants people have commented on cute my bump is instead of just assuming I'm fat. I'm a big fan of dresses while pregnant! Esp. since I know my dress wearing days will be over for the next three years (nursing in dresses is not fun).

I think your underwear will be fine. I've never been a wear of bikini underwear because I have a huge gut. I don't like the way the always end riding under my stomach. Not hot:P When I'm pregnant I hate that feeling even more but I just buy bigger underwear and wear it over my belly.

In other news, I guess this is 14 weeks today (I get utterly confused). I was feeling very unsick but then this stupid congestion/allergy/cold thing hit, and I'm back to feeling sick to my stomach all the time. I'm supposed to go to a reading group at noon but I'm feeling pretty miserable and think I just need to sleep. I'm feeling more movement now...actual nudges as opposed to that fluttering feeling.

I'm also adding more stress to my life by seriously considering homeschooling again. My plan is to use this year to plan things out, get my house organized, and have materials ready to go. I'm hoping the year in school will help my son (whom I believe has a pretty severe LD) read. He's nine and still struggling. My six year old reads better than he does which has been very hard for him.


Erika! Thinking about you! Worried. Hope you're okay.

[Peace+Hope]

!!! one of my midwives came by just for a dopler check, since they had to postpone my appointment, and we heard the little one again!

whoooooo, 15 weeks and still pregnant! honestly, i really do feel i can relax now.

re underwear, i guess i'll be fine w/ mine b/c i always get the kind with wide elastic, or the whole thing stretchy.

greentea, these are motherhood jeans... or pea in a pod - they are all owned by the same company anyway i found out. i think i just have to keep looking, trying stuff on... i did get some really comfy cords there that i love already, i think part of it is the over-belly band kind are slipping down for now - maybe they won't later.

[rhiOrion]

I like Motherhood's secret fit belly because sometimes I want it over the belly and sometimes under. Like, when I'm sitting at my desk for a long time the under the belly gets less comfy, so I tend to pull it up. But it does itch a bit, I've noticed.

I bought a pair of MM pants that ended up with a big hole in the seam the SECOND time I wore them. That pissed me off.

[CherryBomb]

Originally Posted by Dena

I think there is something going around. My mom was throwing up and had chills, no fever today. Went into the assisted living residence where she is living and they had signs posted that all activities for the day were cancelled due to illness.

Yeah, dh said a guy at work and his daughter were sick with the same thing, too. The baby didn't throw up last night but dd2 did again (and, of course, ALL OVER herself, so I had to give her a bath at 1am). I'm hoping to avoid the barfing, I'll take diarrhea instead, please. Dd1 hasn't gotten sick at all yet, so I'm hoping last night was the last of it!!! I need some sleep!!

[CherryBomb]

And happy birthday to smeisnotpirate's dh and Dena's dd!

[OneWithTwo]

ok so yesterday I received a message on facebook from someone. I reconized the name but wasn't sure. I open the message and it's the "sperm donors" or "TBD" ex wife.
My thing is private, but I guess my pictures weren't?
Anyways she visited my profile(who knows why?) and noticed the pictures of the u/s and belly pics. She said "the belly looks about 4-5, maybe 6 months along....is that J's baby?"...She wants to know because if it is she wants their daughter to have the ability to know her sister/brother.
My heart dropped into my stomach.
He knows, I txtd him about and he saw me once. It obvious. I am HAPPY he has chosen to ignore it as things were VERY bad an abusive(mentally and verbally) and he is a heavy drunk and smokes pot...while I have friends who do it..I never have and I don't want it around my children.
Oy. So I messaged back explaining that I want nothing to do with him and explained the situation. Well she didn't read the message and she called him asking why he didn't talk to her about the possibility of their daughter having a sibling? He of course claims I am a liar and he doesn't know anything which is a crock.
She still wants their daughter to know...but if I allow that, maybe he would take action at that point? I think it was a silent agreement we would just move on in seperate ways (me texting him and him ignoring it"...
what do I tell her? WHY IN THE H*LL WAS SHE LOOKING AT MY PROFILE???
what do I do? She said after she read my message she dropped the subject with him and let it be....I know he has to be wondering how she knows? I DO NOT want to deal with him...I don't want him involved, but if his 6yr old daughter comes back saying "i met my baby brother today" um...yeah.
I just don't know what to do......on one hand, he made the decision to not have anything to do with this(so far atleast), which makes me think he made the decision for her to not know and his family to not know. He is a ok father to her being her age...but from what I know when she was a baby, it was horrible. On the other hand, it's not fair for her to not have the chance to know her sibling...AHHHHH

[crazyeight]

erika~ if the mom wants her daughter to know her sibling...then her mom can have her own kid! seriously there is NO obligation for YOU to take YOUR kid to HER kid. now yeah obviously if the TBD wants them to meet then it's totally different but i totally and completely understand the want to push him out of your life. it's not a crime to ignore him if there's no paperwork and it's certainly not a crime to ignore his own exwife! keep your mouth shut and walk the other way. there are probably billions of kids who are related through affairs and half sibs that don't even know it and they aren't falling down dead because they don't know each other so don't let the guilt trip work on you.

AFM~ same old same old i guess. i still want FRUIT! grapes, watermelon and fresh pineapple are in my fridge though so i am very happy!...if only i could get around to cutting them up into sizeable EAT ME portions. 17 weeks tomorrow. still waiting on a call for my u/s. i'm getting anxious. i have had horrible headaches lately due to neck problems. i depseratly want to go to the chiro. i slept better than i have in a while though. had a wonderful steak that had just the right amount of doneness to it (read still bleeding!) and it certainly helped me sleep and feel rested. just does WONDERS for me seriously amazing!

[OneWithTwo]

i posted an ad for another job and I joined a couple nanny sites. I know you guys are probably sick hearing about this, but today is really hard. I showed up and I noticed what toys they did have were missing a bunch. Mainly those loud leap frog annoying sing along ones. A drum and a barn thingy that sings and sings when buttons are pressed....They have a hodge podge misc small cardboard box as it is, but now it's like empty and the toys left are gross, chewed on and broken.
I guess they took them away because they were gifts and they can't stand them the kids LOVE playing them and singing and dancing. Bare bones as it is. C took it hard. Nothing is age appropriate, especially for a 3yr old. I started crying and apologizing because I feel like I am depriving her. I told her that I had to work to pay bills and take care of her and I was so sorry that she was hurting because of it. I HATE the thought of daycare...it works for some, but c is special and needs special attention. She gets sick so easily too.
I am so miserable, I hate it. I LOVE caring for children. My love and patience is a gift I have, the one thing I am REALLY good at. I brought it up and yeah..I wasn't happy with the answer. How could parents deprive their children like that and not feel guilty? It's not fair to them. It's not like they are poor....I can afford to buy things here and there and I AM POOR. I am a one income single parent house with bills too. I drive a POS car and I don't get new clothes. I struggle but I still make sure my daughter is happy. How can you claim you're happy if your kids sit in front of the tv? They questioned why I turned on the news and not cartons? BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT THEY DO ALL DAY! I am sure they will survive without a couple hours of tv...I am so unhappy and miserable. I'd quit today if I could.
I am feeling like a horrible parent and I keep apologizing to C and she says it's ok, but it's not.

[Amandamanda]

ericka that is a tough situation, i am sorry you are having to deal with it.
its tough for me because on one hand i UNDERSTAND 100% on wanting someone OUT OUT OUT of your life and unfortunately when genetics are involved can that ever be the case?? but then on the other hand can you imagine if you turned 18 or so or somehow in your life found out you had a sibling that you didnt know? you would probably be really confused and want to seek that other person out if possible. are you going to let the new baby know when he/she is older that he has another older sister? plus, it sounds like your ex's ex may be done having children herself and her dd deserves to know a sibling. idk.. in the end it is completely your call and i honestly dont even know for sure what I would do in that situation. its tough.

[OneWithTwo]

On the underwear subject. I am going to keep wearing what I have. So far they are ok, sit under my belly. I can wear them out. I can't afford to buy new underwear. After pregnancy though I should be due for some new underwear and will buy them then. Then I can justify the $.

I slept good last night. We upped my dose of my sleeping pills by one extra pill and wow, made a a huge difference. I only woke up once. The one time I did wake up, I wanted Taco Bell SO BADLY. Bean burritos to be exact with hot sauce....so I made a trip to Taco Bell at 6am before work 3 bean burritos...ick but they were good.
I have cravings, buy food and then I don't eat it (fruit, meats, and so forth at home)