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post #1 of 10
Thread Starter 
My ds is 15 1/2 now & has struggled with symptoms of ADD all his life -I have read the Fussy Baby,Raising your Spirited Child ,Indigo Children ,Myth of the ADD Child,etc-
He is artsy ,writes,plays piano-etc

We tried to use natural & diet approaches-
Dad will not let him be homeschooled -he has failed 2 classes that he will take through a homeschool program though -

He is going through some rough hormone times & suggested a counselor to talk to -I am getting to think I should have put him on meds a long time ago-(or unschooled him --but no option there )
Anyway-is anyones child doing better with med use???
post #2 of 10
you might to post this question in the special needs forum (subforum of parenting issues) also, there are probably moms there that could answer that may not see your thread here.
post #3 of 10
Jazmommie: I'm going to go out on a limb here and state that as a course-correction, ADD meds can be used effectively under a strict time-frame and with additional work to train the child's mind to focus when the going gets tough.

So yes, I'd say there is a positive to using them. Plenty of negatives, though, which you must consider. Let me know if you'd like the "been there, done that" list of negatives. I'll be happy to post them.

My own ds used them for a period of time. They allowed him to sit through his school day and do his studies. Once he understood what it was like to be able to focus, we removed the meds and continued the fish-oil, magnesium/calcium, and chromium supplements he takes.

He struggles with focus still, but it's a world away from what we had before. With age he's improved as well.

My caveat is that ds's behavioral pediatrician took my lead on his treatment. She would have prescribed, increase dosage, etc. till the cows came home. In short, it is important for you as a parent to be very, very clear on what you want to do and find a doctor who will follow your lead. Our doc is terrific and I like her a lot, but as I said, she would happily continue to up ds's dosage if I wanted her to. Conversely, she is very understanding that I hated the idea of him being on ADD meds.
post #4 of 10
Thread Starter 
Thanks for the reply--
I am afraid that the meds might make him lose the creative urges he has in drawing & piano playing & writing --
he has been saying that he starts thinking of scenarios that might happen & he thinks philosophical questions a lot & is way off base to me --does not seem to keep with the main idea ,etc.
He has always had difficulty finishing tasks -even paintings & stories--seemed to be hyper when younger -talked a lot!

I just want what is best for him & wish I knew what that was!


He seems happier -more sleep-more sunshine & exercise-better food & vitamins.

list the side effects you saw-thanks
post #5 of 10
Jazmommie: Side effects that I saw with our ds:

Very quiet. Very, very. . . quiet. (He's a kind of guy by nature.)

He became very emotional and not in a good way. Particularly when he was "rebounding" or "coming down" from the meds, around five in the afternoon. Giving him a high-protein snack helped. It had to be ready for him to eat right at five o'clock. The meds have a sort of upside, in that if the doc says it has a six-hour window, that's exactly how long the meds work.

Appetite? What appetite? He lost interest in food after eating a few mouthfuls. That was even after the meds wore off at night. He maintained a normal body weight because the doc checked him, but I really don't know how.

He had problems sleeping for the first few months. That's a drag because I don't know about you, but when ds goes to bed, I'm ready to be DONE mommying for the day.

We had to try out different meds, which is what you have to do. Be prepared. This is the schedule we had: Start them over a weekend, stay with them for around a week, report back to the doc about the effectiveness, etc. Anyway, on one memorable occasion, my son was so tweaked out by the new med that I called the doc in the middle of the day and said, "This is like being trapped in my house with someone using heavy amounts of really good cocaine." My ds was so friggin' intense and chatty I was hard pressed to deal with him for that day.

Those are some of the negatives. Lots of trips to the doc, you have to get your new prescriptions mailed to you monthly because the pharmacy has to have a triplicate script (unless you try Strattera, which is a new, non-triplicate script ADD med), oftentimes the pharmacy doesn't have the med in the correct formulation and has to order it --- other negatives.

All in all, as I stated before, as a course-correction it's okay as long as you are an informed parent, and advocate for your child and YOU set the time limit on using the meds -- not that the docs would force you into anything; just that if you let it go, your ds could stay on it forever. .. .

About the creativity -- meds may allow him to finish what he's started. We didn't find any lessening of ds's creativity (he's an artist who works in clay) but it was less forthcoming. Still, he's done some very good work while on his meds. Also has done very good work NOT on meds. Go figure. . .

Oh, Jazmommie, I hope some of this helps you. I know from deep inside how very very hard this is for you. Let me know if you want any other information from me.
post #6 of 10
calgal007, I couldn't have said it better. Those are the exact topics I would cover...but you did...so DITTO>

My son has been on meds for a couple of years now (he's 9). I hate them...I fought them. But since being on them, he IS succeeding. He is able to control his behaviour enough to not ostrasize himself and he has friends (still not as many as other kids...but he's able to be social). He is having successes in his learning.

It IS a challenge...in so many ways (with or without meds, actually...the meds do not fix it all!!! Not by a long shot!), but I do believe we are doing the best for our son by giving him meds for now.

If I was able to homeschool (I'm unfortunately just not willing or able...call me selfish if you want to, I have been called that before...but I know what works for us...and homeschooling isn't it (we did it for a year)), maybe he would be able to me unmedicated. But unmedicated, my son's learning is slower than a snail's (he's also learning disabled).

He is having successes now. His self esteem has boosted through the sky (before meds he talked of killing himself!!! )

I believe, for us, we've made the right decision.

Hang in there and trust your gut.

Abby
post #7 of 10
Abby:
It's encouraging to know of others who also hate the meds but can't argue the results -- not sure if "encouraging" is the right word; perhaps "less lonely" is a better choice.

I would love to homeschool. Like you, it wouldn't work for us. My job (the one I do besides being a mom) is a WAHM position, but I have to have a certain amount of uninterupted focus time or nothing gets done. SO, like you, call me selfish or whatever, but a highly structured, very child-friendly school has worked for our ds.

Thanks again for the corraboration. . . And Jazmommie, let us know what happens with your creative ds. We care, and we know how hard this is.
post #8 of 10
Our son (now 15 1/2) has been taking concerta (time released ritalin) since the beginning of 7th grade. He is doing fine. Still has some typical teenaged boy issues but overall much better both academically and socially than without it. We did pursue homeopathic treatment with our DO prior to the meds, but it didn't seem to help. Luckily we haven't had to try more than the concerta. I'm not an advocate of med, but it sure has helped our son.
post #9 of 10
Thread Starter 
I have ordered 2 new books on ADD to look at-

MANAGING THE GIFT
NATURES ANSWER TO RITALIN---EXERCISE

Both sound like they pretty good ideas--
He is doing better at behavior --still not finishing assignments --has 17 to make up for math class!!
He went to a counselor 1 time & enjoyed it .May return 1 time every month or so.

Thank you all for the replies-I am leaving a lot up to him -he is old enough to ask me if he wants to try a med approach-He knows 1 or 2 people on meds & does not want to have to do that.
He is taking some vitamins & DHA & EPA-camomile at times & green tea .
Lavender oil for aromatherapy is nice.
post #10 of 10
The exercise component is really important. My ds was told to exercise until he sweats every day by our child psychiatrist (no problem for him).

Good luck.
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