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help me help my developmentally delayed 2 yo be diaper free

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OK amazing Mommas. I need your guidance.

DS just turned 2 and is showing signs that he wants to be diaper free. He is dry for long stretches, almost always all night. He has started to wet and take off his diaper and give it to me (he'll find me during the day). He has become aware of where the pee is coming from. He is starting to to take off his clothes independently.

Here is a twist though, he is not yet walking. He has down syndrome so has some physical delays. I bought a potty chair for him this week and he can scoot over to it and sit on it, no problem. He is pretty excited about his potty too. So far he has only played with it while clothed.

I also bought him some training underpants. He's pretty jazzed about putting them on and taking them off all on his own.

All of this behavior is very similar to DD's when she was 2. She was diaper free by 2.5, all on her own. All we did was supply the panties and the potty chair. She played with it for a few months while clothed. Then started experimenting with it bare bottomed. Then she wanted to be on the regular toilet with a stool for her feet. Soon after that she just told us she wanted to be in undies and never looked back. It was almost shocking how easy it was for her.

DS has always, since birth, hated being wet. In fact I stopped using cloth diapers with him because they just made him miserable. Even in disposables he would/does let me know that he had wet. After doing minimal reading here I realized that I should have been looking for pre pee cues and just taken the diaper off.

I have noticed that he squirms a bit before he pees and poops. He definitely has other body language before he poops.

So what do you suggest I do next with him? I feel a little like I am on this precipice. Once we take the leap forward I feel like we will be all right, I'm just at a loss on what the first step should be. I'm also a little intimidated by the fact that he is a boy too. Silly, I know, but true.
post #2 of 4
The only advice i can think of is choose one thing for him to be in charge of at first. Do you want him telling you when he has to go, do you want him pulling up and down his pants, do you want him putting his pee in the potty.

i just scored a few pairs of split crotch pants and they are great for taking my 6 mo old potty frequently and i could see they may be useful when he is more mobile but can't yet manage his clothing.

And the only suggestion i have for you is "go for it" It sounds like he is ready and you guys have a nice communication already set up. you will not regret the few puddles for the look on his face when knows he has done this on his own.
post #3 of 4
So he can take off his clothes already?

Does he pull up to stand? Could you make a frame for a potty so he could get onto the potty himself? I'm picturing even something as simple as a wall-mounted bar, or a step stool next to the potty.

My inclination is split-crotch pants or nakey-butt time and a potty he can get onto by himself, followed by putting more clothes on as he's better able to get to the potty in time.

The potty should be in a room with a hard floor because reading suggests that most kids go through a period of peeing *next* to the potty as it can take awhile to get over there in time.

Meanwhile, continue watching for his cues and use timing to tell you when to help him with public toilets and when to suggest he try his potty.
post #4 of 4
Thread Starter 
Oh, thank you.

Yes he can take off his clothes (and pee on me). That's what gave me the kick in the butt to go get the potty! I must be a little thick, DD had to practically hit me over the head with her readiness too. He has been taking off his wet diaper and handing it to me. He's also started patting his hip around the time he pees.

He can sit on his potty all by himself.

Thanks for the floor tip. I guess he will be hanging out in the kitchen. My mom is coming for a visit and aught to love that.
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