So frustrated with DP right now

[Serenyd]

So he informs me that he "done nothing but take care of my sh*t" the past few days. Excuse me??? Taking care of the family and getting ready for the new baby is my sh*t? And taking early vacation when he just told me last week he was going to work up until the baby is born, without consulting me? WTH? Not to mention that he's left and gone to his buddies' houses twice since he's been off (sun/mon). And now he's informed me that I've been "waking him up" and messing up his sleep. But he has no trouble sleeping until noon every day.

[TIFF4NY]

I'm sorry you're having to deal with that. Is it possible that he's having anxiety about the new LO coming and this is how he's "dealing" with it? I hope he shapes up ASAP.

[gumby74]

I wondered too if it was anxiety about the new baby? I can't remember if it was you who said he was taking a long time to clean out his apartment? When I am really stressed about somehting, I tend to take it out on those that I know won't walk away and leave me. Not that it makes it ok to treat you that way, but maybe it's just a sign that he is trying to process all of the changes to come. I'm sorry.....you really don't need this right now! Hang in there!

[MamatoPeach]

That is so frustrating.

Can he go back to work? Its a stressful time for everyone, hopefully baby will come soon and things will work out!!

[Serenyd]

He's refusing to go back to work. Says he needs to take his vacation time now. Refuses to discuss it. Oh well. There's nothing I can do about it at this point.

[Nature]

I know my husband has dealt with new baby stress in different ways than I have. Frustrating ways to be sure! Hopefully your dh will come around. I'm sorry he said that to you, it was very insensitive.

[Pookietooth]

Men are weird. Mine has been pretty resentful and useless and I know it's his way of dealing with it, but it sure annoys the heck out of me, especially with so much left to do. to you.
Ask him if he wants you to hire some help to do what he doesn't want to do? Like a maid, cook, handyman, etc.?

[pjs]

How annoying! My DH remarked about 3 months ago how he hardly even remembered I was pregnant because he didn't have to do anything "extra". Now with 2.5 weeks to go and my BP is on the verge of PIH and I need him to STEP the f*** up (just for 2.5 weeks), I can't get him to get it. Um, you can make dinner, you can put laundry away, you can sweep the floors. I'm not having him do any nesting projects, just keeping the rest of us fed and clothed- IS THAT TOO MUCH TO ASK?!!!

[lil_stinkyfeet]

Sorry that he is being a pain!

[MandyB]

Sorry he's being annoying! If it makes you feel ANY better at all, about a week before Evan was born, one night when I was SURE I would go into labor and was trying to get DH to help me with all the last minute stuff I needed done before his birth, he made the comment to me that HE was tired and "when the baby comes, all you have to do is lay there. I'm the one who has to run around and get you stuff and DO everything"

Um, yeah...you didn't read that wrong, he ACTUALLY said that! LOL I gave him an evil look of disbelief and I think he tried to pretend it didn't come out of his mouth the second after he said it! For what it's worth, he's been extremely helpful and wonderful since the moment Evan was born, so yours too will be I'm sure! I think I was a little nuerotic (not sure how to spell today) at the end of pregnancy and I really don't know how my DH survived me, so I'm willing to forgive him for his "comment", but it still really pissed me off at the time!

[fyrebloom]

OMG. I thought my partner was being a douche! Glad he's being forced back to work though! Sounds like he needs a little time back at work to get his head on straight!