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post #1 of 33
Thread Starter 
Okay so here is the deal,
Im not sure if my baby is either mixed with asian or black.
Big mistake on my part , now its driving me crazy because i dont see either in her, and they are both dominant over white.
The only thing is the Asian boy was on my period, and i know that its very unlikely (but still possible) to get pregnant on your period. My cycle was 26 days. My daughter doesnt have dark ears, a dark private part, or mongolian spots. The skin above her nails, however, is darker than the rest of her. Its very noticeable.

For mothers of biracial babys mixed with black/white, Have any of you had a mixed baby with light brown hair, blue eyes? My family says this is NOT possible, that biracial babys are dark, and okay obviously most of them i see are, but i have seen some pretty light mixed babies. Did you go by the nails or ears, and did you baby have mongolian spots?

Do ALL biracial babies have mongolian spots?

I just watch Jon&Kate, their babys are 1/4 korean and they look Korean, my daughter doesnt look korean, but she also doesnt look black.

Im white, I think she resembles me.
The black guy is light, and his father is light.
The asian is 1/2 white, 1/2 korean.
post #2 of 33
I certainly know a mixed-race girl with blue eyes. I would suggest if you want to know who your baby's father is, no matter what races the contenders might be, a DNA test is the only way to be sure.
post #3 of 33
I agree with GoBecGo, a DNA test is probably your best bet. Both of my half-asian children have light brown hair, dark eyes and mongolian marks, but neither of them looks as Asian as the Gosselin kids. My youngest is nearly as fair as I am and I'm mostly Irish. Given the fact that both fathers are probably mixed, the child could be pretty much any combination. However, the fact that she doesn't have any mongolian marks lends me to think she belongs to the African American man. That being said, my nephew is blond haired, blue eyed, fair skinned, looks as caucasian as Swede and is 1/4 black. People are shocked when they meet his grandfather. So, again, go with the DNA test.
post #4 of 33
First, I have a friend whos mixed race (black/white) son has light blonde hair, light blue eyes. This is confirmed by DNA test because everyone thought he was a white guys. There wasn't a question until they did the test for support because of his looks.
That is absolutely possible!



No, no spots. He looks like a tanned totally white kid would and gets a darker tan in the summer.
post #5 of 33
I have a biracial kid with blue eyes and blond hair. Only one of my kids had Mongolian spots.
post #6 of 33
Oh yeah it's totally possible for a half black baby to have blond hair and blue eyes. Her hair and eyes may change color and darken still also, that's not uncommon. My baby (1/4 black) didn't have mongolian spots, not all dark skinned babies do, just some. My son looks pretty white but he has darker nipples and genitals, white babies tend to be pink but his are more tan colored. I'd say with a light skinned African American father and a white mother it could be pretty hard to tell BUT if the Asian man was only half Korean that could be pretty well hidden too.
How was your cycle 26 days (if you were pregnant it wouldn't end)? You mean the cycle before you found out you were pregnant? How long was your period and what day did you have sex with him?
Only DNA can tell you for sure and that's a whole big decision that you need to make about how involved you want the guy to be.
post #7 of 33
Totally possible either way honestly. As others have said, her hair/eyes/skin may get darker over time, but maybe not. Genetics are a tricky business. My brother had blond hair as a baby/toddler and my mother is a rather dark-skinned AA woman, my father a freckly red-headed Caucasian man. I was fair enough as a newborn that the hospital actually tried to give my mother another baby. Now I'm pretty ambiguously brown, my features don't betray any particular ethnicity apparently.
post #8 of 33
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Originally Posted by KristaDJ View Post
Oh yeah it's totally possible for a half black baby to have blond hair and blue eyes. Her hair and eyes may change color and darken still also, that's not uncommon. My baby (1/4 black) didn't have mongolian spots, not all dark skinned babies do, just some. My son looks pretty white but he has darker nipples and genitals, white babies tend to be pink but his are more tan colored. I'd say with a light skinned African American father and a white mother it could be pretty hard to tell BUT if the Asian man was only half Korean that could be pretty well hidden too.
How was your cycle 26 days (if you were pregnant it wouldn't end)? You mean the cycle before you found out you were pregnant? How long was your period and what day did you have sex with him?
Only DNA can tell you for sure and that's a whole big decision that you need to make about how involved you want the guy to be.


Yes, the cycle before i got pregnant.
July 11, 2008 and then again on August 6, 2008.
I had sex with the Asian on the 8th or 9th of August.
I had sex with the black guy (my boyfriend now) August 14th + everyday after that. I took a pregnacy test about two and half weeks after my period, it was negative. Then after i missed my period in September it was positive.
post #9 of 33
It sounds to me like your current bf is probably the father. If you'd been with the other man later in your cycle then it could be more likely that you conceived with him but two to three days into your cycle is really early to ovulate and you were with your bf at the exact time that normal ovulation would've occurred.
post #10 of 33
I have a coworker that is 50/50 Japanese and White American. Even though she had a Japanese name I did not realize she was 50/50.....We had an OH WOW momment when she looked at my niece and nephew photos. She realized then why I did not recognize her ethnicity--she looks white to me. Other people she looks Asian but since I was comparing her to my niece and nephew that have very dominate Asian make up. One had a mongolian spot at birth the other didn't....don't remember which one it was though.

DNA will only be the way to solve it.
post #11 of 33
both my dds are half peruvian (mostly indigenous blood) and both have mongolian spots, one is lighter skin like me and the other is a little browner. both with brown hair and black eyes.
my neice is 1/4 japanese 3/4 generic white american and she has blue eyes and blond hair and very fair skin.

my friend is half black and is tan with curly (but not kinky) hair, her hair is lighter than mine.

it is totally possible to have blue eyes even when both parents are black (as many AA have some white in them thanks to slavery).
post #12 of 33
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Originally Posted by KristaDJ View Post
It sounds to me like your current bf is probably the father. If you'd been with the other man later in your cycle then it could be more likely that you conceived with him but two to three days into your cycle is really early to ovulate and you were with your bf at the exact time that normal ovulation would've occurred.
This.
It is the most probable that your bf is the bio dad with that info.
post #13 of 33
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it is totally possible to have blue eyes even when both parents are black (as many AA have some white in them thanks to slavery).
Yep. There's a whole branch of my family tree with raven hair and blue eyes. They look "black Irish." Funny, b/c they're just "black." Then there are the occasional redheads . . . just to liven things up!

Another factor to confuse things even more -- like me, some AAs have features that look a bit Asian. I constantly am asked "what I'm mixed with" because of the shape of my eyes. That's another branch of my wacky family tree.

Here's an AA mom (me) and her biracial child (N. Euopean blue eyed father).

In sum, the sky's the limit. Genetics are funny that way.
post #14 of 33
I think your current bf is the father, but anything is possible with children of mixed race. My DH is Asian, and our DS2 has dark red hair from my side of the family. Our DS1 has brown hair/brown eyes, but does not look Asian. Neither of my children ever had Mongolian spots, not even a trace, but their 100% Asian cousins all had Mongolian spots. I also have a friend with 3 red-haired, green-eyed kids who have an Asian grandparent.
post #15 of 33
Really only a DNA test can tell for sure.

My mom is half asian / half white - no mongolian spot
I'm 1/4 white 3/4 asian - no mongolian spot
My daughter - her father is 100% white blond hair/blue eyes but she has red brown hair, brown eyes and no mongolian spot. So not all asians have mongolian spots.

A friend's daughter half asian / half white - she has a mongolian spot and she had blue eyes up until she was about 4 years old and then they changed to hazel. Her brother had brown eyes and mongolian spot.

Another friend's daughter half black / half white - blue eyes and light brown skin.

Barbamama said it, the sky really is the limit when it comes to genetics
post #16 of 33
My DS is biracial(I am white, dad is black) and has light brown hair and blue eyes. This is him as a baby....

http://i3.photobucket.com/albums/y95...in10months.jpg

And here is one of his bio dad and him now and his baby sister with another white woman.

http://i3.photobucket.com/albums/y95...tyandlayla.jpg

So, yes, your baby could be half black. Biracial kids get darker as they get older.

Marsha
post #17 of 33
from a genetics point of view, since blue eyes are recessive, a baby with one white and one non white parent is very unlikely to have blue eyes. However, since African Americans tend to be genetically quite mixed, it is quite possible for a "black" parent to carry some recessive white genes, resulting in a baby with light coloured eyes. Asians in America are less likely to be (unknowingly) mixed race.
post #18 of 33
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Originally Posted by angelbaby1788 View Post
For mothers of biracial babys mixed with black/white, Have any of you had a mixed baby with light brown hair, blue eyes? My family says this is NOT possible, that biracial babys are dark, and okay obviously most of them i see are, but i have seen some pretty light mixed babies. Did you go by the nails or ears, and did you baby have mongolian spots? .
when you are mixing races the child can favor the lightest complexion of family A to the darkest member of family B or a mix in the middle. you never know what you will get. a child will change and can darken as they get older or lighten. the only way to know is having one of the men take a dna test.

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Do ALL biracial babies have mongolian spots?.
no

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Originally Posted by angelbaby1788 View Post
Im white, I think she resembles me.
The black guy is light, and his father is light.
The asian is 1/2 white, 1/2 korean.
yes mixed black guy and a white girl can make a very very light child. i have known a few who you would never even think they have one drop of black in them.
post #19 of 33
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Originally Posted by Calidris View Post
from a genetics point of view, since blue eyes are recessive, a baby with one white and one non white parent is very unlikely to have blue eyes. However, since African Americans tend to be genetically quite mixed, it is quite possible for a "black" parent to carry some recessive white genes, resulting in a baby with light coloured eyes. Asians in America are less likely to be (unknowingly) mixed race.
Blue eyes can also skip several generations without anyone showing up with them. Noone in my ex's immediate family has blue eyes, but both his kids do. He also has several siblings with biracial kids and they all are much darker than my ex's two kids, even though he and all his siblings are the same complexion. Genetics are just weird.

Marsha
post #20 of 33
Just saying that I had two babies with my Hispanic DH. He is adopted and although we met his bio mom (who is very dark Hispanic) we don't know who his father was. His mom said he was Hispanic and Portuguese mixed but we've never seen him. DH has black hair, dark brown eyes, darkish skin. I am Eurasian with VERY white skin and blue eyes.

DS looks like DH with the facial features but my light coloring and general body shape. He had Mongolian spots. ETA: His "privates" and nipples are not dark at all - but then again neither are DH's. (Sorry if that's TMI but it was being discussed in the thread!)

DD looks VERY Hispanic in her facial features, has darkish skin, has a squat and round little solid body, NO hair even at 2 except a few strands which are super super super fine and look golden. She has bushy eyebrows but next to no hair - we're hoping this is an ugly duckling stage, she's adorable but certainly no baby beauty queen. She looks absolutely NOTHING like me, in facial features, coloring, hair, body type, anything. She doesn't have anything that connects her to me visibly, if you put us in a lineup there is no way you could ever tell I was her mama. (Ironically she's a total mama's girl. Go figure.) Her eyes, though, while shaped like DH's (very distinctive, almond shaped) are light blue.

So... there you have it. Genetics can do odd stuff!
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