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post #21 of 33
I have 3 b/w biracial kids and 2 of them have mongolian spots, not sure about the youngest (I forget lol). My youngest has sandy blond hair and is pretty much as pale as me and I'm 75% Irish. None look particularly AA, they look racially ambiguous and I have had people ask if they are Hispanic, Filipino, Brazilian, etc.
post #22 of 33
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Originally Posted by angelbaby1788 View Post
Okay so here is the deal,
Im not sure if my baby is either mixed with asian or black.
Big mistake on my part , now its driving me crazy because i dont see either in her, and they are both dominant over white.
The only thing is the Asian boy was on my period, and i know that its very unlikely (but still possible) to get pregnant on your period. My cycle was 26 days. My daughter doesnt have dark ears, a dark private part, or mongolian spots. The skin above her nails, however, is darker than the rest of her. Its very noticeable.

For mothers of biracial babys mixed with black/white, Have any of you had a mixed baby with light brown hair, blue eyes? My family says this is NOT possible, that biracial babys are dark, and okay obviously most of them i see are, but i have seen some pretty light mixed babies. Did you go by the nails or ears, and did you baby have mongolian spots?

Do ALL biracial babies have mongolian spots?

I just watch Jon&Kate, their babys are 1/4 korean and they look Korean, my daughter doesnt look korean, but she also doesnt look black.

Im white, I think she resembles me.
The black guy is light, and his father is light.
The asian is 1/2 white, 1/2 korean.

I hate to sound mean, but your family needs a lesson in genetics. If the person you were with who is black has any slave ancestry, there is a good chance he is not 100% black and sometimes recessive genes can be overwhelming. My brother has green eyes and was born a blond with light skin and my parents are medium complected with black hair and brown eyes like me and we have the same parents. So yes it is possible for a half black baby to have blue eyes, my great grandmother had blue eyes and for all intensive purposes looked white, but was considered black.

Just FYI- There is no black "look" miscegenation got rid of that "look" a long time ago. I know dark skinned biracial people and light skinned black people. I know black people who don't look black and biracial people who if no one said anything I would have no clue they were other than black.
post #23 of 33
what are mongolian spots? I'm black and have never ever in my life heard this term.
post #24 of 33
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Originally Posted by KristaDJ View Post
Oh yeah it's totally possible for a half black baby to have blond hair and blue eyes. Her hair and eyes may change color and darken still also, that's not uncommon. My baby (1/4 black) didn't have mongolian spots, not all dark skinned babies do, just some. My son looks pretty white but he has darker nipples and genitals, white babies tend to be pink but his are more tan colored. I'd say with a light skinned African American father and a white mother it could be pretty hard to tell BUT if the Asian man was only half Korean that could be pretty well hidden too.
How was your cycle 26 days (if you were pregnant it wouldn't end)? You mean the cycle before you found out you were pregnant? How long was your period and what day did you have sex with him?
Only DNA can tell you for sure and that's a whole big decision that you need to make about how involved you want the guy to be.
When black people have babies, skin color of the parents can be irrelevant, recessive genes erases all of that. Dark skinned people have light skinned babies all the time with other dark skinned people and two light skinned black people can have a dark skinned baby. The baby could have a dark skinned father and still come out looking almost white.
post #25 of 33
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Originally Posted by Barbamama View Post
Yep. There's a whole branch of my family tree with raven hair and blue eyes. They look "black Irish." Funny, b/c they're just "black." Then there are the occasional redheads . . . just to liven things up!

Another factor to confuse things even more -- like me, some AAs have features that look a bit Asian. I constantly am asked "what I'm mixed with" because of the shape of my eyes. That's another branch of my wacky family tree.

Here's an AA mom (me) and her biracial child (N. Euopean blue eyed father).

In sum, the sky's the limit. Genetics are funny that way.
Yes the skin tone or even hair tone of the father can be completely irrelevant in how the child comes out. You have to look at the whole family, otherwise folks will get confused.

People assume I am mixed because I don't have "kinky" hair and it is waist length (no relaxer, no weave, just curly). They also assume I am mixed because of my eyes, they look asian or native american. When I flat iron my hair people assume Indian (asian) because I guess I look like a dark skinned Indian.

My dad was born a red head, but now his hair is dark and he is dark skinned.

I am part native american, but that is a couple of generations back, like everything else in my family and I like to say all the mixture reversed itself back to black.
post #26 of 33
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Originally Posted by joates View Post
what are mongolian spots? I'm black and have never ever in my life heard this term.
Joates,

Mongolian spots are dark markings that some babies get on their rear end. They usually go away by the kids second birthday. They are common amongst children of Asian, Latino, and American Indian ancestry as they are a trait that has been passed down by the Mongolian people. I have never heard of black people, except those with native american blood, having Mongolian marks, but I don't know a whole lot of African American children either.
post #27 of 33
Hungarian too, because apparently Hungarians originated in Asia right around Mongolia. WAAAY back when. You'd think it'd be all gone from the genes by now but apparently it still happens.
post #28 of 33
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Originally Posted by heidi526 View Post
Joates,

Mongolian spots are dark markings that some babies get on their rear end. They usually go away by the kids second birthday. They are common amongst children of Asian, Latino, and American Indian ancestry as they are a trait that has been passed down by the Mongolian people. I have never heard of black people, except those with native american blood, having Mongolian marks, but I don't know a whole lot of African American children either.
My son is half black and has a mongolian spot.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mongolian_spot

"A Mongolian spot (also called a Mongolian fleck, Mongolian blue spot or congenital dermal melanocytosis) is a benign flat congenital birthmark with wavy borders and irregular shape, most common among East Asians and named after Mongolians. It is also extremely prevalent among East Africans, Polynesians, and Native Americans.[1][2] It normally disappears three to five years after birth and almost always by puberty.[3] The most common color is blue, although they can be blue-gray, blue-black or even deep brown."
post #29 of 33
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Originally Posted by heidi526 View Post
Joates,

Mongolian spots are dark markings that some babies get on their rear end. They usually go away by the kids second birthday. They are common amongst children of Asian, Latino, and American Indian ancestry as they are a trait that has been passed down by the Mongolian people. I have never heard of black people, except those with native american blood, having Mongolian marks, but I don't know a whole lot of African American children either.
Thank you, I was confused for a second
post #30 of 33
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Originally Posted by joates View Post
I hate to sound mean, but your family needs a lesson in genetics. If the person you were with who is black has any slave ancestry, there is a good chance he is not 100% black and sometimes recessive genes can be overwhelming.
Not to mention that the OP's "Asian boy" is only half Asian.

My sibs and I are 1/2 Asian, 1/2 white. I married an Asian man, and my sister married a brown haired, brown eyed Caucasian.

My kids are all brown haired and brown eyed. My sister (whose coloring is quite similar to mine... brown hair and hazel eyes), has little boys who are red heads with blue or gray eyes. When we were newborns, this sister and I were both blonde with blue eyes.

There are a lot of red-heads and blondes on my dad's side of the family. Dad's a red-head, his sister is a red-head, and my grandfather was a redhead. My grandmother was blonde, and all have blue eyes.
post #31 of 33
I have 3 50/50 white/black. I'm white, blue eyes, brown hair. DH is from Africa, very dark, brown eyes, African hair.

All 3 kids are various shades of tan, brown eyes, dark brown (but not BLACK) curly hair. 2 have mongolian spots, one has two brown birthmarks that are darker than the rest of him.

DNA is theonly way to be sure though.
And I do know one half-half b/w child that is blond w/blue eyes like the mom but kinky curls--that is the only way really you can tell. Maybe a little in the face if you know.
post #32 of 33
It could definitely be either man's baby especially since you said that the asian half asian which may indicate he could carry a blue-eyed recessive gene, same with your aa bf, he is light skinned which *may mean he has some caucasian in his lineage somewhere. My ds is half asian indian and i've seen many half aa children at parks,etc that have a father darker than my dh and a mother caucasian like me and their lo's are way whiter than ds and have blue eyes, so it is very possible. And since your lo is mixed it is hard to say in the beginning as the skin normally darkens with age. like some pp said, if you really want to know, the best thing is to get a dna test.
post #33 of 33
If your baby's nail bed is darker than her other skin, she is most likely going to get darker. My DS is black/white and he looked white for the longest. He now matches his nail bed color, at least in the summer(he "fades" in the winter) He also has blue eyes.

Your child's eyes could also change colors in the first few years. Many babies are born with blue eyes, but they don't all stay that way.

Just enjoy your baby. I'd get a DNA test as well, in case you need to know medical information.

Marsha
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