Anxiety

[Phantaja]

I've had a few HUGE problems in my life. Basically, the last year of my life has been one horrible, horrible surprise after another (several miscarriages, big marital issues, money issues, my children leaving the state) and it's been pretty bad.

As a result, I've been suffering from really bad anxiety and anxiety attacks. I get itchy, and short of breath sometimes, and a knot forms in my chest. Sometimes I can't eat for days at a time.

I found two things that help: Valium and vodka. Not together, of course. Half a valium and I'm ok, or a drink (or two) in the evening, usually about three times a week. I've also been smoking about 12 cigarettes a day, which is a LOT for me.

I know that none of those are good for me. I don't crave any of them (except for a cigarette now and then) but I'll have one or the other if I feel anxious occassionally.

I'm wondering if there's something that I can do to get rid of this horrible anxiety. I've tried therapy, which helped a little, but talking to someone once a week doesn't make the chest tightening misery go away.

[BakerALM]

What is working for me (well I just started) is talking to anyone who will listen and being REALLY really honest. Like almost shockingly honest, it seems to calm me when I actually state the deep down real truth verses some mentally convoluted version of what is going on in my head. I think I am talking for somewhere around 2hrs a day right now with friends and I have less crazienss going on inside. It really does not matter what they say just that I am truly honest with myself. I feel like I can think clearer, I am a better listener and I feel less of the heart thumping.

[Labbemama]

I have anxiety too. Just wanted to let you both know I read your threads.

I pace with my dog. I mean I walk my dog. I have panic attacks at stressful times in my life. I practice deep breathing and I have rx anxiety meds.

[LynnS6]

Have you tried an SSRI for anxiety? I was prescribed paxil for anxiety (PPD -related) and it does wonders for me. Right now you're self-medicating with valium or vodka. So, you're taking meds, just not ones that are terribly effective for you.

The most effective combination, long term, is usually meds of some sort and cognitive behavioral therapy. Your brain needs time to heal, and the SSRIs can help with that. You also need to learn new ways of dealing with stress.

I was in short term therapy, but learned a number of good things to help: meditation and guided imagery. If I add exercise to the mix, I can really reduce my anxiety. But, I've also needed the SSRIs for the last 5 years. I am slowly weaning off because I think I'm ready. But honestly, I'm completely prepared to go back on when I hit menopause (anywhere from 2-10 years away). I know hormones really mess with my mind. You've had a TON of hormonal shifts that may well be adding to your otherwise stressful likfe.

[maciascl]

I haven't tried it yet, but I know that accupuncture, massage & hypnosis can be helpful. I have been dealing with a lot of anxiety as well & have now started having panic attacks. I want to try these things because I am desperate & I don't like the side effects from medications, plus I don't have insurance now anyway.