Originally Posted by SactoMommy
This morning he told me he was scared of his boots. I think because the tag was bothering him, but he was melting down over it. Playing in the snow is a great sensory activity for him, but he can't go out there naked!
Ugh, just had to get that out.
I connect so much to what you've written!
Even though I can say that right now we seem to have a system that works pretty well here at home. I can't really put my finger on it. But ds2 is more able/willing to follow our suggestions, for instance. Not just after a 1 time offer, lol, but after a lot of suggesting/explaining, until he can get to a point where hefinds himself ready to decide to do it. I mean, the idea should totally come from within himself, but suggestions may be the first step to have him start thinking of other ways/possibilities and it needs time for him to process that 'other' information and 'decide for himself'.
As you mention above about your SPD child, ours also just LOVES sensory play like digging in the garden, playing in pools (and more specifically, needing to wipe the street when there's pools after rain, wanting to get rid of the pools, also he sometimes sweeps dust/mud from the street where previously there must have been pools
), and playing in snow/wiping it away.
The problem there was(is?) that he doesn't like winter clothes, thick jackets are very unpopular, no zippers up till the chin, no patience for having zippers closed, he hardly ever wears hats/caps or shawls, he would take of gloves after a 'struggle' to be able to put them on in the first place (or mostly just not wear them), he would only wear his 'regular winter shoes' and then get wet/cold all over to the point where I had to drag him in screaming as the only solution to keep him from freezing himself.
But now winter is approaching again, at least it appears true autumn and cooler weather finally started.
We just got him rubber boots, with pirate print, which may help since he likes the pirate theme lastely. Of course, he would resist to the 'new thing', especially when footwear (which he seems to love and hate simultaneously, always issues). I did a hell of an effort to explain him what boots could be used for (outdoor sensory play :-). We also made sure to have a larger size rubber boots for which I can make a comfortably warm filling, we just know heavy (snow)boots won't work for him at all. 2 days after the purchase, without pushing much of course, I could finally convince him to at least TRY them on (really a must for when cold rain/snow season really starts and he cannot but want to play outdoors) and ...surprise surprise he seemed to LOVE them
. The only thing is that I had to intervene early enough to take them of, so that he wouldn't decide to wear them all the time from now on
But certain things just seem to work lately. I'm so glad
Once he didn't want to get dressed. (well, not once lol but that one time I did this
I allowed him to go on the terrace, only clothed in a diaper (which was another issue all together, diapering, but he's out of diapers now, phew) to experience how it just was too cold for that. After 2 minutes he came back in and asked for clothes. Sure, it was a gamble, he could as well have decided to go the way he was (not) dressed, but then I would have wrapped him in blankets, a sleeping bag or my coat for sure :-). And still it was a hassle to dress him (also cfr. enough), but he 'understood' the need of clothes then and there, in that moment.
I truly think the 'change' here has to do a LOT with getting on a good level of understanding of what he needs and HOW he needs it, of how he needs to be addressed/approached, then there is this connection and it gives trust from both sides.
I do not think for us there is a present need for assessment/dx or any form of therapy because of this 'improvement'. Hope we can stay on track.
But my fear is that his spd may still create problems in interactions with others in later stages like (pre-)school. If so, we may search for extra help. But there's no such programs as sn class assistance where we live.
We think it's a good thing for his speech to improve enough too, before we try such a new challenge. Because it's one thing to have SPD, it's another when you can't even properly word those very different needs you have, in a way others might understand... And we're raising multi-lingually.