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post #161 of 201
Don't feel too bad. I tried to sell DS on Facebook once. It was a bad day. I even offered a two-for-one: DS AND my car. You could only have the car if you took the baby.

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Luckily, nobody called me out for it. I was pretty mortified once I came to my senses. We all have rough days.
post #162 of 201
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Originally Posted by smeisnotapirate View Post
Don't feel too bad. I tried to sell DS on Facebook once. It was a bad day. I even offered a two-for-one: DS AND my car. You could only have the car if you took the baby.

:

Luckily, nobody called me out for it. I was pretty mortified once I came to my senses. We all have rough days.
Don't feel bad! I've seen people do this before, on my facebook. "free, bratty toddler. Comes complete with noisy toys" lol. That kinda thing. I'm sure no one took it like you'd really give away your child. Just that you're having a hard day.
post #163 of 201
My dh has an uncle who likes to insist that dd needs a little brother. He brings it up every time I see him. It infuriates me. Once we went to dinner at his house and he brought it up again, but then he added that dh and I would need to have another child after that because, apparently, three is the perfect number of children.

So I said, well, don't you think it depends on the family? Maybe some families are ideal with less than three, others with more?

Uncle: Oh, no, three is always the perfect number of children!

I told him that I knew lots of families with fewer or more than three kids that also happened to be very happy, to work really well together, etc.

Uncle: But three is the perfect number. (Said in a very condescending manner.)

The conversation went on like that for a few minutes. He didn't even offer a reason why he thought that, I guess he felt he thought it was self-evident

Just in case you're wondering he has one son.

This one's funnier, I promise:

My dh's aunt (the sister of that uncle) asked me a week or so ago if dd understands me when I speak to her. This aunt has said a few really stupid things about dd's language development (I think I mentioned the best in one of the earlier threads- "If you speak English to her, how will she learn Italian?" My response, "Um, we live in Italy?!") so I knew what she was really asking but I wanted to point out how absurd it was by pretending not to understand her.

Pear-shaped: What do mean, does she understand me?

AIL (aunt-in-law, hehe): Does she understand you when you talk?

Pear-shaped: Obviously. Why wouldn't she understand?

AIL: Because you speak English to her.

Pear-shaped: DD speaks English!

Maybe the bilingual thing is hard for monolingual people to get sometimes? (Or maybe AIL is a bit of a dim bulb. )
post #164 of 201
After my daughter was born, my best friend INSISTED that I have another child right away. I told him I couldn't handle two at once with no one to help me (husband works like mad and we have no family here). I wanted to wait until the first was old enough to take care of herself before having another.

He told me it wasn't "fair" for me to have them so far apart, that I had to have them one after another so "they can be friends."

As if being close in age is the only way siblings can be friends or that it would even guarantee friendship

The best part is he's an only child.
post #165 of 201
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Originally Posted by bcblondie View Post
Ugh I have another one. (proof of how dumb I am)

I was in a wedding and stayed wit SILfor a few days. Before this, I had only met her and her family once or twice. I forget exactly how the topic came up... Her DD was 10 years old and we started talking about my wedding rings, I think. I made a joke about "that's the reason you get married, so the man buys you a nice ring" ... or something stupid like that.
I guess with adults it would have been a perfectly fine joke, but a 10 year old might not understand it's a joke... anyways. SIL was made it clear immediately that it wasn't funny. I felt like crap.
I talked to her DD later that day and tried to clarify that I was kidding, but that it wasn't funny, and it definately isn't the reason we get married.
OT: Sweet story. Years ago, I was with my mom, showing the jeweler my old wedding ring, but looking at new rings, as DH had just proposed. The jeweler said something like "do you want something about the same size and color" and my mother answered "no, smaller ring, better husband."
post #166 of 201
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Originally Posted by smeisnotapirate View Post
Don't feel too bad. I tried to sell DS on Facebook once. It was a bad day. I even offered a two-for-one: DS AND my car. You could only have the car if you took the baby.

:

Luckily, nobody called me out for it. I was pretty mortified once I came to my senses. We all have rough days.

I bet no one believed you for a second!
post #167 of 201
My sister once offered me a can of formula for 12 month olds, when my dd was only about 6 months. I respectfully declined saying that I wouldn't need it since I bf. She looked at me like I had 3 heads and said "You're going to keep bf'ing her even after she's one". Why is that so hard to understand?

I also got grief from the same sister for not wanting to leave my 1 yr old dd overnight to have a sleepover at her house (which is only 5 minutes away). Apparently, I'm CRAZY!!!
post #168 of 201
Today in the library I overheard "If you don't stop running around the police will come and take you away."

And 5 minutes later they walked past me and the child said something I didn't hear to which the mother responded "Yes, that's right, the police will come and take you away."

On a product review website when I was reviewing carseats some one had posted this comment "I really like this seat because my child is very comfortable in it and that's the most important thing to me. Oh, and I've heard it's pretty safe as well." I guess everyone has different priorities.
post #169 of 201
oh my MIL is a gem for spilling this stuff out

"you will have to take her to the doctor and they will cut her gums to let her teeth out" regarding my 13 month old toothless toddler (yes she is finally about to break her first tooth!)

"women in my family dont make breastmilk" then proceded to tell me about the hormone shot and binding she had to do to help with her engorgment after she had DH.

"she needs a bottle, drinking milk from the breast makes babies gassy, thats why she's crying" said while dd was 6 weeks old and sick with a cold.

"oh she cant actually see you, babies cant see anything until at least 4 weeks old and then its just faint shadows" i dont even remember the context to this one i was just so flabbergasted!

i have no idea how DH lived. no idea.
post #170 of 201
I suppose this is as good a place as any to do my first post

I have two:

1. When I was first pregnant with DD I was talking with a friend about circumcision and I told her that if the baby was a boy I didn't think I was going to circumcise (I have since become a much more ardent intactivist but at the time I just felt kind of uncomfortable with the idea) she said

"Well, you might wanna think about circumcising because some boys feel so embarrassed about it they do it themselves"

The funny thing is that as ridiculous as this sounds now I was actually worried about it for a long time until my DH pointed out to me that few men would willing cut off part of their penis (thus the reason we will not circ any of our future babies).

2. The second one was when I was at the hospital getting ready to be induced the resident was doing a cervical check when I wasn't having any noticeable contractions and said

"Wow, you're dilated 5 cms are you sure this is your first baby? Wait, I need to make sure that's your cervix"

Needless to say this did not give me confidence in the ability of the staff.
post #171 of 201
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Originally Posted by gypsymama2008 View Post
"Wow, you're dilated 5 cms are you sure this is your first baby? Wait, I need to make sure that's your cervix"
you should submit that to myobsaidwhat.com!
post #172 of 201
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Originally Posted by gypsymama2008 View Post
I suppose this is as good a place as any to do my first post

I have two:

1. When I was first pregnant with DD I was talking with a friend about circumcision and I told her that if the baby was a boy I didn't think I was going to circumcise (I have since become a much more ardent intactivist but at the time I just felt kind of uncomfortable with the idea) she said

"Well, you might wanna think about circumcising because some boys feel so embarrassed about it they do it themselves"

The funny thing is that as ridiculous as this sounds now I was actually worried about it for a long time until my DH pointed out to me that few men would willing cut off part of their penis (thus the reason we will not circ any of our future babies).

2. The second one was when I was at the hospital getting ready to be induced the resident was doing a cervical check when I wasn't having any noticeable contractions and said

"Wow, you're dilated 5 cms are you sure this is your first baby? Wait, I need to make sure that's your cervix"

Needless to say this did not give me confidence in the ability of the staff.
Oh man. Both of those left me chuckling for quite a while. Hopefully the resident wised up or switched to being, oh I don't know, a gas station attendant or something.
post #173 of 201
My sister just was told some weird things.

Her MIL: What, you don't leave the baby alone? How can you go shopping? You can go shopping for half an hour and leave him in the crib, he'll be fine! (her DS is 5 months old. 5 months. sheesh.)

Her friend: Oh no, you should stop breastfeeding at 6 months cause then there are toxic fats in breastmilk. You have to stop!

Her SIL: I had to stop breastfeeding cause I got mastitis and had to take antibiotics, then you cannot nurse anymore. (her DS is 2 weeks old).
post #174 of 201
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Originally Posted by gypsymama2008 View Post
2. The second one was when I was at the hospital getting ready to be induced the resident was doing a cervical check when I wasn't having any noticeable contractions and said

"Wow, you're dilated 5 cms are you sure this is your first baby? Wait, I need to make sure that's your cervix"

Needless to say this did not give me confidence in the ability of the staff.
I actually saw a TV show one time where this couple in labor went to a hospital in the area that did not have a maternity ward. And the ER doc had never delivered a baby, and he was re-telling the story of how he didn't know if he was feeling her cervix or not. He finally had to tell her "ok I think you're ready to push" lol.
post #175 of 201
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Originally Posted by nia82 View Post
My sister just was told some weird things.

Her MIL: What, you don't leave the baby alone? How can you go shopping? You can go shopping for half an hour and leave him in the crib, he'll be fine! (her DS is 5 months old. 5 months. sheesh.)


As if it were hard to take a baby shopping?

Especially when they're snuggled up in a sling

It's the 3-4 year olds I wish I didn't have to take shopping :
post #176 of 201
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Originally Posted by ramlita View Post


As if it were hard to take a baby shopping?

Especially when they're snuggled up in a sling
Well, until you want to shop for shirts.
post #177 of 201
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Originally Posted by sapphire_chan View Post
Well, until you want to shop for shirts.
So true. Lol.
post #178 of 201
Well this isn't something someone said, but a baby product I saw an ad for. Because you wouldn't want to actually HOLD your baby while feeding him

http://bottlegenieinc.com/
post #179 of 201
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Originally Posted by OperaDiva View Post
Well this isn't something someone said, but a baby product I saw an ad for. Because you wouldn't want to actually HOLD your baby while feeding him

http://bottlegenieinc.com/
Thats not only sad, but dangerous
post #180 of 201
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Originally Posted by OperaDiva View Post
Well this isn't something someone said, but a baby product I saw an ad for. Because you wouldn't want to actually HOLD your baby while feeding him

http://bottlegenieinc.com/
The instruction page says "NEVER LEAVE CHILD UNATTENDED" yet the entire purpose of the thing is so you don't have to "attend" to your baby.

And on the front page...."In fact, most early bonding takes place during the feeding routine each day." What kind of "bonding" do you get when a piece of felt covered plastic is doing the feeding?
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