What is the worst/dumbest thing anyone has ever said to you about parenting stuff? IV - Page 3

[PatienceAndLove]

Originally Posted by bcblondie

I guess it could be useful if, in the middle of your day, your whole lower half got dirty some how.. like maybe a car splashed a puddle on you. But you don't need to wash your hair or face...

Or if you just got your hair/makeup done for an evening out, but still need to wash the rest of you (and don't pretend that no one's ever done this, because I have done it on more than one occasion. I was all pretty from the neck up and then realized I was smelly and dirty from the neck down)

[bcblondie]

Originally Posted by sapphire_chan

It's for people who exercise just enough to think they need a shower, but not enough to really need one.

That's funny, when I exersize the main thing I wash is my face. But tehn again I've always had sensitive skin...

[heidirk]

...or put lotion on the babe when its five minutes before you have to go to church and realise that maybe the baby should have had a bath?

[AislinCarys]

I think it is for ladies who have just had their hair permed, and shouldn't wash it for a couple of days. Or for people like my sister, who had holes in her eardrums (tubes put in as a baby, they fell out, but holes never healed), and who wasn't allowed to get water spraying anywhere near her ears. I think she went through a number of different contrapions for showers and baths, one of them did look a bit like that thing.

[mormontreehugger]

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[crabbyowl]

Originally Posted by Down2Earth

Here's a really good one from my step-mom.

We distantly know a woman who was just arrested for murdering (suffocating) her baby. Two years ago everyone thought it was SIDS. So, I was saying how I couldn't ever imagine doing anything so horrible to my DD and that I couldn't wrap my head around the idea. It was just so foreign to me! My step-mom then says:

"If you ever feel like killing DD, bring her over here. We'll take her."



I just stared at her speechless with my mouth gaping open. I don't know how many ways I can say I don't want to murder my child.

These threads have really put things in perspective for me.... My BIL's thinking that having 2 dogs is pretty much the same as having a baby () doesn't seem so outrageous anymore compared to most of the other things posted!

[AFWife]

Originally Posted by TanyaLopez

You may want to share with her that that doesn't make HFCS a health food--since it's made from a vegetable and all.

But, the commercials!!!!

[lilbsmama]

My poor friend posted on FB this morning that her dd, who is ebf, and only 4 months old, "decided" to stop sleeping through the night. Now she says she needs her out of her room at night....
The gem is one of her friends posted that her son did the same thing....and the doctor told he did not need to be fed anymore at night, so she should just put him in the bathroom and "let him go", and it worked. I don't know if I'm more annoyed or pissed off.

[lynsage]

Originally Posted by crabbyowl

These threads have really put things in perspective for me.... My BIL's thinking that having 2 dogs is pretty much the same as having a baby () doesn't seem so outrageous anymore compared to most of the other things posted!

I used to work for a woman with no kids who would routinely complain about people having to leave work on time (as in not staying late to take last-minute unscheduled appointments) to pick up kids, take care of sick kids, etc. because she had two dogs and managed to get to work on time and leave late (when she felt like it, anyway) and "it's the same as having a baby"...when one of her dogs was hit and killed by a car because she had a bad habit of letting them get out and run loose, and she cried for one day and then bought a new puppy of the same breed a couple of weeks later, it was all I could do not to ask her if she plans on doing the same when one of her kids gets run over.

It drives me insane when people compare having animals to having kids....really? Do you put kids in a crate and go to work all day? Do you throw a dish on the floor with some food in it for your kids to eat out of? Do you put your kids in the basement to sleep when they disturb you at night? Do you lie awake at night worrying about saving up enough money to send your dog to college?!

ARGH...

[Wolfcat]

Originally Posted by minkajane

People seem to think Sprite is harmless because it doesn't have caffeine. I griped at XH once for giving 3yo DS Sprite and he said "But it has no caffeine!" Yes, but it's still full of chemicals and high fructose corn syrup.

My mother couldn't get over the fact that I went totally when she gave my 3 yo DS mountain dew... :Puke

Originally Posted by PatienceAndLove

i thought the cigarette pack cigarette holder was the worst!

"For those pack-a-day smokers who never have time for more than one smoke break!"

[Wolfcat]

Originally Posted by stealthmode

I normally consider my MIL to be wise in all things baby-related, but the other day she gave me the "crying develops their lungs" line. I just sort of changed the subject.

Since we'll be living with them for a bit after the baby's born, I'm wondering how to put a stop to that particular piece of advice--anyone know of any studies or something that I could show her? I want to be prepared if it comes up again.

I can't wait until we buy a house. Cripes.

I like the: "really? and I thought it was adequate gestational time that developed the lungs... silly me!"

Originally Posted by frontierpsych

My best friend (who is young, not a parent, and has no plans on becoming one anytime soon!) was worried that someone might call CPS on me for my son not being circumcised. He was pretty baffled when I told him that nearly half the males born in America the past few years have remained intact, and that the circ rate in my area is only about 25% (I live in the southwest). He said "Well, my mom's a nurse, so I'll probably have my kids circ'ed, just to be on the safe side."

Safe side? of what?

Originally Posted by Katico

Not bad advice, just creepy: This lady on the bus was getting all up in my space one day. DD was about 3 wks old and in the sling. Lady was leaning all over me trying to see the baby. And then she says....
"Wow, she is so little...look at her little hands..........the bones are so thin, like toothpicks, you could just snap them...."

Dude....you just imagined snapping my baby's bones......

The other creepy/annoying thing is how often people say something on the theme of "oh, I could just steal you!" or "oh, I could just squeeze you to death"....................yeah, perfect thing to say to that super-protective new mother.....

Respond using the same tone of voice they used: "Oh, I could just rip your throat out with my bare hands!"

Originally Posted by mamakah

I used to take ds to a very pro vax, pro FDA, pro everything mainstream medicine pedi. She asked me if he had any ailments lately and I told her that he caught pink eye from his cousin, and that I had treated the eye with breast milk. Her lips pursed and she said:
"Well, breastmilk for the eye is not FDA approved."

Crap!! I need an FDA approved warning label for my boobs! "This product has not been approved for pregnant or nursing women..."

I'm such a

[lisavark]

So I was at the playground the other day nursing DD on the bench. A woman was sitting next to me...I found out later she was young, like 18. She started asking me about breastfeeding. Apparently she had NO IDEA that it was even a possibility, and she had no understanding whatsoever of how it works. There were a LOT of gems in that conversation, but I'll just share the best:

"So, how does it, you know, start? Does the doctor do something to you to make the milk come? Because my boobs are all, like, uh, dry!"



I was like, um, do you have kids? No? Ok. Yeah. You'll get milk when you have a baby.

Gee. I can't believe she'd never seen a baby breastfeeding, though. THAT, ladies, is why I NIP. Teenage girls need to see how babies are fed.

[Belia]

Originally Posted by lisavark

So I was at the playground the other day nursing DD on the bench. A woman was sitting next to me...I found out later she was young, like 18. She started asking me about breastfeeding. Apparently she had NO IDEA that it was even a possibility, and she had no understanding whatsoever of how it works. There were a LOT of gems in that conversation, but I'll just share the best:

"So, how does it, you know, start? Does the doctor do something to you to make the milk come? Because my boobs are all, like, uh, dry!"



I was like, um, do you have kids? No? Ok. Yeah. You'll get milk when you have a baby.

Gee. I can't believe she'd never seen a baby breastfeeding, though. THAT, ladies, is why I NIP. Teenage girls need to see how babies are fed.

See, now, I think that's kind of sweet. No one I knew growing up (aunts, etc) ever BF their kids, so I never saw it either. And while I knew the basics of BF (milk comes out of boobs), that was about it. Good for that girl for being brave enough to ask questions. Breastfeeding is kind of a miracle when you really think about it.

[netgyks]

Originally Posted by lisavark

Gee. I can't believe she'd never seen a baby breastfeeding, though. THAT, ladies, is why I NIP. Teenage girls need to see how babies are fed.

[bcblondie]

Originally Posted by lisavark

Apparently she had NO IDEA that it was even a possibility, and she had no understanding whatsoever of how it works. There were a LOT of gems in that conversation, but I'll just share the best:

"So, how does it, you know, start? Does the doctor do something to you to make the milk come? Because my boobs are all, like, uh, dry!"

So does she not watch TV or anything then? I find it hard to believe....

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[HappyFox05]

Last night in church, I noticed Anna playing with a toy I hadn't seen before. Ppl are always donating old toys to the nursery, so I didn't think anything of it. Then, an older, childless, gentleman came up to me & said, "Yeah, I saw that in the trash can on Sunday and figured it had come from the nursery, so I rescued it & put it back in there (the nursery)." Hmmm, trash toy - thanks, pal. *Starts rooting in bag for hand sanitizer.*

[heidirk]

Originally Posted by Belia

See, now, I think that's kind of sweet. No one I knew growing up (aunts, etc) ever BF their kids, so I never saw it either. And while I knew the basics of BF (milk comes out of boobs), that was about it. Good for that girl for being brave enough to ask questions. Breastfeeding is kind of a miracle when you really think about it.

This made me remember a conversation from when I was a kid...

This took place at a family campground, where a group of ladies were standing around quizzing what had to be the only BF'ing momma they had ever encountered (which is just sad)...

"But, doesn't she always have diarhea?"

(shaking her head 'no' with an unreadable look on her face) "No! not unless 'Mama' is upset, or eats something that is irritating"

(all ladies...) "Wow!"

[mamakah]

Originally Posted by lynsage

I used to work for a woman with no kids who would routinely complain about people having to leave work on time (as in not staying late to take last-minute unscheduled appointments) to pick up kids, take care of sick kids, etc. because she had two dogs and managed to get to work on time and leave late (when she felt like it, anyway) and "it's the same as having a baby"...when one of her dogs was hit and killed by a car because she had a bad habit of letting them get out and run loose, and she cried for one day and then bought a new puppy of the same breed a couple of weeks later, it was all I could do not to ask her if she plans on doing the same when one of her kids gets run over.

It drives me insane when people compare having animals to having kids....really? Do you put kids in a crate and go to work all day? Do you throw a dish on the floor with some food in it for your kids to eat out of? Do you put your kids in the basement to sleep when they disturb you at night? Do you lie awake at night worrying about saving up enough money to send your dog to college?!

ARGH...

[bandgeek]

I had to take DD to children's the other day to get her feeding tube changed out. She has a J tube so they have to do it in radiology. I was sitting there waiting and her nurse was suctioning her and this lady sitting across from us said, "They've been feeding her formula haven't they?"

I was like "whaaaat?" What the hell does formula have to do with my child's medical condition? I'm not loving formula...I'm a total bf'ing supporter, and I do recognize there are risks to formula feeding. But uh...formula doesn't cause CP, feeding disorders, dysphagia, ect.

I explained that DD wasn't on ANYTHING because her gut stopped working and we were changing out her tube as a last resort and then she goes on to tell me that her DD has CP and she's 22 and blah, blah, blah. Ok so wouldn't she recognize that my DD had similar issues and formula isn't the cause? Or maybe she just thought milk=mucous production, but not all formula has milk in it.

Then she starts telling me that I should be glad she still so small and not to look forward to when she's bigger because they are so hard to move around and I should be doing this, this, and this in the future to keep her healthy.

HELLO!? Do you not see my child in respiratory distress and a has non-functioning gut!? I'm just trying to get her through the day alive...I don't think I have to worry about those things! I know there are different severities of CP and maybe she didn't realize my DD is quite severe and her predicted lifespan is not very long...still I TOLD her that her gut stopped functioning...you'd think she'd get the hint that the only plans I'm worried about are whether or not to put in a line or let her starve to death (neither a long-term option, but whatever).

Probably a rant best saved for the SN board, but I figured it wouldn't hurt to put it here. Lesson: Even if you think you know about someone's condition...you probably don't. Don't assume and make comments. I've got a child possibly going to hospice in the next few weeks. Her formula has nothing to do with it.