I don't know if this is where to post this. I am very confused about H1N1 and have not made a final decision about whether or not to vaccinate dd against it. We live in Canada, so there will be no flumist and no forced vaccination.
Still.
My MIL is a very, very controlling woman. Mostly, I can handle this. Mostly, our relationship is good. She is a wonderful grandma and she and FIL have always played a very active role in dd's life. They have never agreed with all of our "big" parenting choices; extended breastfeeding co-sleeping; delayed and minimal vaccination starting at 2.5 years; etc., etc. And they've been very vocal about it. However, it's been manageable, barely.
But today I got read the riot act about flu vaccinations for me, dh and dd. FTR, dd is a VERY healthy 5 yo. She has only ever had 3 vaccinations in her life. Never had so much as an ear infection. She is, however, at public school.
Dh has arthritis and psoriasis and is on some scary immune-modifying drugs. He also works at the hospital. I work at home and am almost never sick.
MIL asked today if we were getting our vaccinations. Apparently it wasn't really a question. I told her we hadn't made our decision yet and she went ballistic. She told me I "have to" get us vaccinated. I told her no, I didn't "have to," what I had to do was make the best decision for me and that dh and I would together make the best decision for dd.
This has the potential to completely divide our family, believe it or not. If I do decide to do the vaccine, I sure don't want it to be because my MIL told me to! I know she's scared. I have no idea what to do. Believe me, this will NOT get dropped. This is the tip of the iceberg. If I tell her it's not up for discussion, it's going to get mighty chilly around here.
Still.
My MIL is a very, very controlling woman. Mostly, I can handle this. Mostly, our relationship is good. She is a wonderful grandma and she and FIL have always played a very active role in dd's life. They have never agreed with all of our "big" parenting choices; extended breastfeeding co-sleeping; delayed and minimal vaccination starting at 2.5 years; etc., etc. And they've been very vocal about it. However, it's been manageable, barely.
But today I got read the riot act about flu vaccinations for me, dh and dd. FTR, dd is a VERY healthy 5 yo. She has only ever had 3 vaccinations in her life. Never had so much as an ear infection. She is, however, at public school.
Dh has arthritis and psoriasis and is on some scary immune-modifying drugs. He also works at the hospital. I work at home and am almost never sick.
MIL asked today if we were getting our vaccinations. Apparently it wasn't really a question. I told her we hadn't made our decision yet and she went ballistic. She told me I "have to" get us vaccinated. I told her no, I didn't "have to," what I had to do was make the best decision for me and that dh and I would together make the best decision for dd.
This has the potential to completely divide our family, believe it or not. If I do decide to do the vaccine, I sure don't want it to be because my MIL told me to! I know she's scared. I have no idea what to do. Believe me, this will NOT get dropped. This is the tip of the iceberg. If I tell her it's not up for discussion, it's going to get mighty chilly around here.
