I'm not entirely sure where to post this, but thought the mamas here would be thinking more along my own lines. We're not necessarily UC-ing (DH is very uncomfortable with it), but it's something that could happen depending on how labour goes. I think DH's discomfort stems from the fact DD was posterior and the labour was very long and painful. My placenta seems to be positioned better this time and he has agreed we will wait to call the midwife until much longer this time. So I'm preparing as if we might UC, in case she ends up not making it in time. We've done very minimal prenatal care so far (I've only had one appointment, at around 17 weeks), and we declined all testing and told her if she is at the birth we basically want her in the background making tea and keeping DH calm. 
I've been really at peace with not having an ultrasound. We weren't going to have one with DD, except we were highly suspicious there might be two in there. That doesn't seem to be a possibility this time. We didn't find out her gender, and I liked the surprise and not knowing and was pretty insistent we not find out.
The last few weeks though, as the baby moves more and we discuss names, I'm really feeling a strong desire to find out the gender. Like, almost overwhelming. Some days I don't think about much else. I think it's mostly because I have three sisters, and DH only has sisters, and we have a girl, and I really would love for her to have a sister. All the kids her age around here are boys, the other pregnant women are having boys, and I'd really really love for this baby to be a girl. I know girls! I love having sisters myself and this is our last baby so I'd feel sad if she never got that relationship. I would love a boy too, but I almost feel like I might be disappointed if it's a boy, which I then feel guilty about because it shouldn't matter, and I feel like if I have an u/s and find out the gender now, I can go out and buy some cute boy's clothes and get myself really excited about having a baby boy.
Is that a really silly reason to get an ultrasound? I've always thought finding out the gender was not a good reason to get one, but now I'm really wanting one and I'm not sure. I'm well aware of potential risks, though to be honest the potential risks of one ultrasound at 20-something weeks don't concern me so much as the potential that they find something that makes them needlessly want to repeat the u/s or what if the baby has his/her legs crossed and we don't find out anyway. I do think if we got one, DH would feel better about waiting longer to call the midwife and potentially UC-ing though, so I guess that would be a plus for it too.
Anyway, sorry, I'm rambling. I blame pregnancy. Am I just being silly or is that a vaild reason to go out and get an ultrasound?
I've been really at peace with not having an ultrasound. We weren't going to have one with DD, except we were highly suspicious there might be two in there. That doesn't seem to be a possibility this time. We didn't find out her gender, and I liked the surprise and not knowing and was pretty insistent we not find out.
The last few weeks though, as the baby moves more and we discuss names, I'm really feeling a strong desire to find out the gender. Like, almost overwhelming. Some days I don't think about much else.
I think it's mostly because I have three sisters, and DH only has sisters, and we have a girl, and I really would love for her to have a sister. All the kids her age around here are boys, the other pregnant women are having boys, and I'd really really love for this baby to be a girl. I know girls! I love having sisters myself and this is our last baby so I'd feel sad if she never got that relationship. I would love a boy too, but I almost feel like I might be disappointed if it's a boy, which I then feel guilty about because it shouldn't matter, and I feel like if I have an u/s and find out the gender now, I can go out and buy some cute boy's clothes and get myself really excited about having a baby boy.Is that a really silly reason to get an ultrasound? I've always thought finding out the gender was not a good reason to get one, but now I'm really wanting one and I'm not sure. I'm well aware of potential risks, though to be honest the potential risks of one ultrasound at 20-something weeks don't concern me so much as the potential that they find something that makes them needlessly want to repeat the u/s or what if the baby has his/her legs crossed and we don't find out anyway. I do think if we got one, DH would feel better about waiting longer to call the midwife and potentially UC-ing though, so I guess that would be a plus for it too.
Anyway, sorry, I'm rambling. I blame pregnancy. Am I just being silly or is that a vaild reason to go out and get an ultrasound?
