What an interesting discussion! I've been noticing it too. I loved Callie's scene in Grey's Anatomy and was pleasantly surprised by the lesbian characters in FlashForward. And yes, I agree that HGTV rocks at displaying all kinds of families and has done so for many years.
Having said all that, I hear about the "homosexual agenda" from my family and my partner's family. They feel that it's in their face and blatant and way too much. Maybe that will get better with time, maybe not.
And Ellen, you gotta love Ellen and the way she just keeps on keeping on. I try to be like her (granted on a much, much smaller scale, lol). I have a lot of respect for the way she is out, everyone knows about Portia, everyone knows they got married. But it's not what Ellen is about, it doesn't define her. Heck, it hardly even factors in to her show. I'm a fan!

People who are homophobic seem much more open to this approach.
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