Okay, here are my biggest worries about getting a divorce:
1. The debt will not go away. No matter where we go or how long we live, we will still have to pay that debt. Our problems will always be with us as long as we have that debt. Once that debt is gone, we are home free and can live like normal people again. Prolonging paying that debt is only prolonging our problems, really. I want to get it over with as soon as possible, especially since I want more children and plan to have the next one as soon as this whole mess is over.
2. If we were to do anything and I mean ANYTHING at all to change the amount of money my husband's ex gets every month, she will be livid. No, beyond livid. There is nothing she will not do and she has always been amazing at coming up with the most horrible punishments. I would be worried that if we did this, she would come back with something bad. Really bad. Like telling the state that my husband molests his daughter bad. She would say anything she has to say to make sure he never sees her again.
Getting the divorce would make things much worse. It seems like an out, but it really isn't. It would only make our lives more difficult. I know we can do things some other way!