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bf says my house looks empty

post #1 of 48
Thread Starter 
My best friend came to see the house and said "youneed more furniture...your house still looks really empty" (last time she saw it it was undergoing serious construction we hadnt moved in yet)

um...we have a kitchen table, chairs, a couch, loveseat, coffee table, bookcase, bed, bureau, and rocking chair. Thats whats on my floors in the kitchen, dr, lr and br.

wht else am i supposed to have? i dont need tons of "stuff"!!
post #2 of 48
I remember when we moved into our home & said, "we'll never have enough stuff to fill it up." Out of the mouths of babes....I ishe I could go back to empty.
post #3 of 48
Does she have furniture she's trying to get rid of and she wants to palm it off on you, or something?
post #4 of 48
Is her house really cluttered so to her your house looks sparse?
post #5 of 48
Do you have pictures or art on the walls? Area rugs or Houseplants? It might not be that you have too little furniture, just that she sees open space on the walls and it tricks her into thinking it is the furniture.

Just a thought..
post #6 of 48
Sometimes it's not furniture that makes a place look lived in, it's accessories. Do you have carpet or hard floors? If hard floors, maybe consider a couple of area rugs. Are your walls bare? Definitely put up some artwork, even if it is just a "modern art" piece that you DIY with your decorating colors on some cheap canvas.
post #7 of 48
Oh, another thought-- is your friend disabled, or very skinny or very fat, or something? Might there be an issue with her finding a comfortable place to sit?

There's nothing wrong with the minimalist look, if that's your style.
post #8 of 48
Are you happy with your house??? That is ALL that matters.
post #9 of 48
Thread Starter 
nak at some of the the responses probably the accessories thing...nothing is hanging up yet on the walls, I have a few house plants, but yeah, my walls are prty bare and we have hardoods with no rugs. dp hates rugs *whine....i dont want to hang up any of my pictures or paintings...im so in love with my paint job ( busted my butt paintin this whole place 40-43 w pregnant)
post #10 of 48
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Are you happy with your house??? That is ALL that matters.
THIS!!!
post #11 of 48
Can you PLEASE PRETTY PLEASE post pictures? I'd love to see your place. Perhaps you can give some of us way-too-cluttered and every-inch-of-walls-and-floors-are-covered mamas some decluttering inspiration?

I also found this video of Oprah touring a supposedly typical Danish home very enlightening. Perhaps you can watch it, and show your friend?

http://www.oprah.com/media/20091021-...tine-home-tour
post #12 of 48
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Can you PLEASE PRETTY PLEASE post pictures? I'd love to see your place. Perhaps you can give some of us way-too-cluttered and every-inch-of-walls-and-floors-are-covered mamas some decluttering inspiration?
I been trying to do this for weeks! i never have more than 2 min at a time at the computer.....I'll get to it, I promise! I still need to write out my last birthstory!
post #13 of 48
I just wanted to say Congrats. I wish my house looked empty

My mother might die when she gets here and sees that I only have three pics on the wall. Wheras here house doesn't have an empty space to hang anything.
post #14 of 48
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Originally Posted by RiverSky View Post
Can you PLEASE PRETTY PLEASE post pictures? I'd love to see your place. Perhaps you can give some of us way-too-cluttered and every-inch-of-walls-and-floors-are-covered mamas some decluttering inspiration?

I also found this video of Oprah touring a supposedly typical Danish home very enlightening. Perhaps you can watch it, and show your friend?

http://www.oprah.com/media/20091021-...tine-home-tour
I just watched that video. I don't know if I like it that bare, she probably puts everything away right after they're done. Which sounds like a good idea, but I like the whole pillows and blankets look on the bed. Definitely something to keep in mind when I am cleaning.
post #15 of 48
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Originally Posted by RiverSky View Post
Can you PLEASE PRETTY PLEASE post pictures? I'd love to see your place. Perhaps you can give some of us way-too-cluttered and every-inch-of-walls-and-floors-are-covered mamas some decluttering inspiration?

I also found this video of Oprah touring a supposedly typical Danish home very enlightening. Perhaps you can watch it, and show your friend?

http://www.oprah.com/media/20091021-...tine-home-tour
I want to live there! The kids room is like a tree fort with that huge window!

The house is slightly more sparse than I would have it if it was my house but, Oh, it's totally my ideal.

OP, I'm jelous that you have a house that looks empty.
post #16 of 48
i'd love to see pictures too - it probably looks good! i bet our house looks emptyish to some people, but i think it's just what you like. my mil has furniture along every wall, knicknacks everywhere you look, countertops covered with stuff. literally there is something wherever there is a space. it's clean, but i would still feel really claustrophobic like that.
post #17 of 48
that was a cool video! that home was a bit sparse for me too tho--maybe it was just too much white? I am a big fan of huge artwork on the walls
post #18 of 48
My house looks a bit empty, too. We do have furniture, and plenty of "stuff" but my walls are pretty bare, and all white. I'd love to actually decorate, I just don't know where to start.
post #19 of 48
i really like the empty house feeling, but i also like a cozy house, so its a bit if a balance. i think its partly how you grew up maybe.. i grew up in a cluttery house and i have this tenancy to fall into it, but i also have this part of me that is really trying to fight that! and its hard! my mom would come visit and say, oh you need this and this and this and then bring things even when i said NO! and so im constantly trying to get rid of things. i try to keep my bedroom as decluttered and bare as possible, because with 3 kids i find it hard to keep the rest of the house that way.



i would love to see it too!

ETA: im so jealous of those of you with bare white walls.. my charming home is almost 100% wood paneled and my dear land lady will not allow me to paint. it drives me crazy!
post #20 of 48
If you value your minimalist style, take your bf's comment as a compliment! But, if part of you tends to agree with what was said, maybe add some area rugs, artwork, table lamps and candles. You certainly don't have to add very many things. Over the past couple of months, I have felt like I had to add a few things...I think I was taking my minimalist style a little too far!
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