Hello...I am Alicia. I have been a member of MDC for years and had left for quite awhile as I have been so busy with the kiddos. I am not actively trying to conceive again and am really struggling with what I would like to do once I get pregnant. I have "planned" 4 homebirths....none of them have happened. I have have given birth vaginally 5 times and I had an emergency C-section with another. Since my C-section I have had a successful VBAC. All of the times I have wanted to birth at home some complication has taken it away. My 1st attempt was squashed about a month after the decision because I found out I was GD and ended up on insulin. Same problem occured with the 2nd time we planned for a HB. My 3rd planned homebirth was canned at 36 weeks when my BP was high and I had an induction the ended in an emergency C-section. My last one was the closest I got and the only reason it did not happen was because per my midwife I had to be 37 weeks and my water broke at 36 weeks and 2 or 3 days.
I seem to deliver around 36 weeks....at this point. My first birth was a 39 wk, 2nd 38wk, 3rd 36, 4th 35, 5th 36, and 6th 36. All of them have been great sizes with no complications after the birth....minus the sectioned baby who was in the nursery for about 2 hours. My last baby I even left the hospital when she was 4 hours old with her and she was perfect. I think honestly maybe my "term" is just a little shorter then others.
My other homebirths have been planned with midwives and it has been a challenge to find someone. I have PCOS so I have issues with insulin resistance. I have to follow a VERY strict (very boring) diet and take Glucophage and Glyburide to keep my numbers tight. None of the babies have ever had any effects from these medications. Midwives though are nervous here in OH and it is a risk to help what the medical community sees as a higher risk mom. I get that and totally respect it.
Dealing with MDs and midwives seems to put my pregnancy emotionally into a place where I really do not want to be. I hate the fight with the OBs, I hate being "managed" and labeled as "high risk". I want to proceed through my pregnancy and my birth on my own terms.
My husband and I have had conversations about doing a UC, and a UP for the 2nd half of the pregnancy. His biggest concern is that we have a 20 week ultrasound to ensure that the baby is "ok" as far as they can see by ultrasound.
I am very comfortable birthing at home as I am a ER RN and my husband is a paramedic so we both are trained to handle emergencies and to be honest I trust him with my life.
I guess I am just curious on how you as an individual really came to the decsion to UC and what questions you had to ask yourself to ensure that you were making the best possible choice for not only yourself, but your family.
I am sorry if this is a rant, or confusing....I just am in the beginning stages of trying to really process this and find out if I can make it work. I am so scared of feeling defeted again at the end and planning again for something that just might not happen, but I am trying to not let my fears of failure effect my decision making.
Alicia
I seem to deliver around 36 weeks....at this point. My first birth was a 39 wk, 2nd 38wk, 3rd 36, 4th 35, 5th 36, and 6th 36. All of them have been great sizes with no complications after the birth....minus the sectioned baby who was in the nursery for about 2 hours. My last baby I even left the hospital when she was 4 hours old with her and she was perfect. I think honestly maybe my "term" is just a little shorter then others.
My other homebirths have been planned with midwives and it has been a challenge to find someone. I have PCOS so I have issues with insulin resistance. I have to follow a VERY strict (very boring) diet and take Glucophage and Glyburide to keep my numbers tight. None of the babies have ever had any effects from these medications. Midwives though are nervous here in OH and it is a risk to help what the medical community sees as a higher risk mom. I get that and totally respect it.
Dealing with MDs and midwives seems to put my pregnancy emotionally into a place where I really do not want to be. I hate the fight with the OBs, I hate being "managed" and labeled as "high risk". I want to proceed through my pregnancy and my birth on my own terms.
My husband and I have had conversations about doing a UC, and a UP for the 2nd half of the pregnancy. His biggest concern is that we have a 20 week ultrasound to ensure that the baby is "ok" as far as they can see by ultrasound.
I am very comfortable birthing at home as I am a ER RN and my husband is a paramedic so we both are trained to handle emergencies and to be honest I trust him with my life.
I guess I am just curious on how you as an individual really came to the decsion to UC and what questions you had to ask yourself to ensure that you were making the best possible choice for not only yourself, but your family.
I am sorry if this is a rant, or confusing....I just am in the beginning stages of trying to really process this and find out if I can make it work. I am so scared of feeling defeted again at the end and planning again for something that just might not happen, but I am trying to not let my fears of failure effect my decision making.
Alicia
