"Oh, that? It's for my back." - Page 3

[MariaMadly]

DH and I don't discuss private sexual history (either ours or theirs) with our DCs. They'd think it was so much more than they wanted to know! They would also feel it was intrusive if we got them condoms, toys, etc. All the way down the line, though, we've been open about issues, situations, humor, and make it a point to touch on the implications of something we see or hear. We've been responsive to anything they raised and the way they wanted to address things. We have been forthright about physical and emotional safety and exploitation and have tried to show reverence for the subject. Not a wait-til-you're-married reverence, but this is serious shit so use it to make your world as kind and fun as possible.

"Sick and perverted" would be if you violated her boundaries. If you're following HER cues, then it's healthy and respectful. If you're overriding her discomfort about discussing it with YOU, then that's out of line. But your OP is clear that your family has a really cheerful and honest handle on communicating, and your gift sounds like a meaningful way to express that.

Hope everyone's back is better soon.

[HappilyEvrAfter]

*I* think your a cool big sister, but it's obvious that not everyone is going to agree with you....and that's ok.
If it works between the two of you then ROCK ON!

I was an "only" and wish I'd had somebody to help out with these things since I was raised by a single father from a youngish age.

If you got the same type of "coming of age" kit when you were around her age then I'll assume that your a very open and humorous type of family.
Seems pretty appropirate in your case.

For others that would not fly in a million years!

Live and let live...if it works for ya'll, keep going.

[KaylaBeanie]

I don't have a big sister, but I'd like to think if I did, I'd have a big sister like you! I think it's awesome. I had the honor of buying my best friend her first vibrator, but I've never had one of my own.

I would like to think I'd have no problems buying my (future) teenage daughter a vibrator if she expressed an interest. I'd rather make sure she had something safe, and knew how to clean it, instead of those nasty painted cheap ones you can buy at Spencers and the like.

[LVale]

I say yea, what a open minded big sister. I see nothing wrong with a little toy. I am so tired of the puritanical thinking of sex in this country. I say with young teens better masturbation, then an unwanted pregnancy. By the way I am 48. And we still have fun, oh and we are grandparents. Oh the horror of self- gratification! (LOL).!!!!!!