For sometime now I've seen posts pop up with some making statements they they would defriend someone who even knowing that it was wrong to circ, chose our would choose to do so.
My story -
With my firstborn ds we were asked in the hospital when we wanted the circ to be done. Not if. Dh was circed, so was my brothers, and his brother, and our fathers. Honestly we didn't know we had a choice and our 1ds suffered the consequence.
Durring my pregnancy with my 2ds I met a very kind lady who was an intactivist. she gently educated me but I felt attacked for my decision for my 1st ds - even when she realy didn't. And unfortunatly we signed the consent for our 2ds to be circed. But this wonderful lady never defriended me. She kept being my friend, and encouraged me to do whatever I could for the better of my children.
Along came my pregnancy with our 3rd ds. And it all started to sink in. Dh and I had many discusions. And this kind lady pointed me here, and her blog.
And through her friendship we made the right choice this time. To keep our son intact.
There isn't a day that goes by that I don't wish I could step back in time knowing what I know today, and undo what I've done. But I can't. All I can do is be an encouragement and an education to other moms around me that may not know they have a choice - or are resistant to change what they have always 'know to be'.
So please, please. Do what you can, do what you have to, to encourage other moms, even if you want to go outside and throw up, or have a hard time looking them in the eyes. Please do it for that next baby that just might have the wonderful chance of staying intact.
My story -
With my firstborn ds we were asked in the hospital when we wanted the circ to be done. Not if. Dh was circed, so was my brothers, and his brother, and our fathers. Honestly we didn't know we had a choice and our 1ds suffered the consequence.
Durring my pregnancy with my 2ds I met a very kind lady who was an intactivist. she gently educated me but I felt attacked for my decision for my 1st ds - even when she realy didn't. And unfortunatly we signed the consent for our 2ds to be circed. But this wonderful lady never defriended me. She kept being my friend, and encouraged me to do whatever I could for the better of my children.Along came my pregnancy with our 3rd ds. And it all started to sink in. Dh and I had many discusions. And this kind lady pointed me here, and her blog.
And through her friendship we made the right choice this time. To keep our son intact.
There isn't a day that goes by that I don't wish I could step back in time knowing what I know today, and undo what I've done. But I can't. All I can do is be an encouragement and an education to other moms around me that may not know they have a choice - or are resistant to change what they have always 'know to be'.
So please, please. Do what you can, do what you have to, to encourage other moms, even if you want to go outside and throw up, or have a hard time looking them in the eyes. Please do it for that next baby that just might have the wonderful chance of staying intact.
