how old for mama to move?

[July09Mama]

I'm bed sharing with my dd who is 3 months old. So far, I nurse her to sleep with us both on our sides facing each other and sometimes we just stay in that position or sometimes I roll onto my back. While I'm sleeping I don't move at all. When I stay on my side (sometimes necessary because she will wake up if I move), my hips and pelvic bone get really sore, so I'd like to be able to move around more. I know she's not old enough yet, but when do you think she would be? How old were your babies when you stopped laying perfectly still all night?

[simcon]

That sounds excruciating! I have never stayed in the same position all night long, but have inched a bit away from the baby to sleep (stomach, side, turned away, or whichever) after making sure no fluffy things were nearby. The only time I haven't moved was in one hotel with a pillow-top mattress, where I held the baby in a safe position in my arms all night long because the bed wasn't safe.

[rubidoux]

Aww I did that for a long time with ds1, maybe about 4 months and then after that I still didn't move freely for a long time. With ds2 I'm a lot more willing to disrupt him and move around if I need or want to, pretty much since birth. I think you can move a lot more than you think. Baby will likely fall right back to sleep. I am almost always in a position where I can nurse, though.

What kills me is when I have to pee after dawn but still before I want everyone waking. If I get out of bed that's really asking for it. lol

[kdescalzi]

My dd is 5 mos and I am in the same boat. I usually end up passing out in the side-lying position and then when she wakes again to nurse that is when I feel the need to move. After being prg. I long for tummy sleep which comes very rarely. Because my dd is a nurseaholic I really try not to move so that my nipples can get a break. If your lo can fall back to sleep without nursing everytime, I would move slowly to get comfortable. I feel I will be sleeping with my nipple in her mouth until kindergarten but I always at least try to move away to get comfy...I suggest you try as well.

[LadyCatherine185]

my 14 mo is the same way.. i can move a LITTLE bit, but can't roll over. just to my back. it sucks.. but i've gotten used to it. We also got a memory foam mattress topper, and that has helped tremendously with comfort, as well as a pillow between my legs. We also have a fan for white noise, so the little bit I do move isn't so loud.

[SeekingJoy]

With DS I couldn't move around much, but with DD, I move all around and have since she was tiny.

[July09Mama]

Yay! For some reason I thought it might not be safe, but I'm taking this as the go-ahead to start trying to move more tonight!

[seafox]

I luckily prefer to sleep on my back, which I think is somewhat easier to get into after sidelying nursing than tummy sleeping. It also seems to take up less space? I sometimes fall asleep sidelying (only when I am on lower boob though, more comfy ) otherwise I shift into sleeping on my back. I usually move DS to his belly after nursing as well which keeps him more still as well (on his side he can shift to his back and end up rolling into DH)

it sounds complicated but its actually been really easy w/ no uncomfy sleep for me!

[Maluhia]

oh good luck Mama, I always had to roll the other way. If you have to stay on your side a pillow between the knees can help your back.

[noobmom]

DS woke up so easily--I stayed in the same position a lot. I found the thin pillow between the knees helped. Also, I stuck a pillow behind me, sort of under me so that I could roll back a bit. It was months and months until I could really move away, but maybe that's because I was so accommodating when he was young. I say try it--worse that happens is that you have to pop her back on!

[Ldavis24]

Poor mama, I had the same problem, I actually went back to my midwife because I thought there was something wrong with my pelvic area. It was more painful than when I had been 9 months pregnant and laying on my side!!
Basically I would very sneakily try to move around and do it very slowly. I used to be a stomach sleeper but find now that my back is the best position and DD can snuggle up to my side that way.
I would say start experimenting before you fall asleep and try to find your "comfy" sleep position and settle into that if you are still not moving at all in your sleep. I move very little still myself.

[kriket]

we have the crib sidecarred and if he feels like sleeping on that, I can nurse him on the crib then scoot away.

He has the boogers right now, and has been a boob-a-holic, so no such luck there.