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post #101 of 156
I'd say taking her sibling is okay, since she wouldn't be contagious yet.

While I don't think it's a good idea to take a contagious child out in public out of respect for others, I wouldn't want my kid trick or treating while ill because of how hard it would be on their immune system to eat all that sugar.
post #102 of 156
For anyone who thinks it inconvenient to keep your kid home after intentionally infecting them with a highly contagious vpd, imagine the inconvenience those of us with medically fragile kids go through when our kids get extremely sick and end up in the hospital from exposure.

And ftr, my kid looks perfectly healthy, not too frail to answer the door. But because I can't trust people to keep their kids home when infectious, I have to keep *my* kids at home.
post #103 of 156
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For anyone who thinks it inconvenient to keep your kid home after intentionally infecting them with a highly contagious vpd, imagine the inconvenience those of us with medically fragile kids go through when our kids get extremely sick and end up in the hospital from exposure.

And ftr, my kid looks perfectly healthy, not too frail to answer the door. But because I can't trust people to keep their kids home when infectious, I have to keep *my* kids at home.
That really sucks. I'm sorry that you and your child have to deal with that.

I kept my son home when he had chicken pox. It was lame, a total PITA and we all hated it, but it was the right thing to do. I am not one to get hysterical about illnesses, but I do understand that people DIE from the chicken pox all the time. And I always think about parents not being able to work/financial hardship caused by me recklessly exposing other people to diseases/viruses.
post #104 of 156
I would not go trick or treating.

DD has had chicken pox twice. Both times were very mild cases. She developed very few spots. I might not have though it was chicken pox, if I didn't know she'd been exposed. She was still contagious at the time, and I was careful to limit her exposure to others. Since she didn't look ill, and didn't have lots of obvious spots, there were no typical warning signs for other people to see.

It's tough for kiddies to miss out on trick or treating, but there are lots of fun things to do for Hallowe'en. You can start some new traditions. Hope everyone is well soon.
post #105 of 156
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We have been invited to trick or treat a few people houses that are okay with it. Or have chicken pox themselves.
YAY! I think that's the best possible solution!
post #106 of 156
I'd just ask the neighbors ahead of time if they'd be ok with it.
post #107 of 156
You can come TOT at my house! Ds hasnt had it yet and I want him too!


I would go, but I would let her know before hand that is she is going to cough/sneeze or whatever to not do it on anyone.

Here people put the candy in your bag for you, so no one is dipping into the big bowl, but maybe for houses where they have you do that, mom could grab the candy instead.
post #108 of 156
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This thread has given me alot to think about. One thing I have noticed is people talking about my children reaching into a bowl/bag to pick their candy. This has never happened. I don't ever remember reaching in as a kid either. Every halloween the candy is put into the bag by the person giving it out.

Anyways...I have talked to alot of people, neighbours, and her classmates parents. NO ONE has a problem with me bringing her out. Actually.....they were surprised that I was keeping her home from gymnastics today. Which...I am keeping her home from!
post #109 of 156
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You can come TOT at my house! Ds hasnt had it yet and I want him too!


I would go, but I would let her know before hand that is she is going to cough/sneeze or whatever to not do it on anyone.

Here people put the candy in your bag for you, so no one is dipping into the big bowl, but maybe for houses where they have you do that, mom could grab the candy instead.

Heck I would love to be in Florida ToT'ing. It is cold and raining here....
post #110 of 156
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This thread has given me alot to think about. One thing I have noticed is people talking about my children reaching into a bowl/bag to pick their candy. This has never happened. I don't ever remember reaching in as a kid either. Every halloween the candy is put into the bag by the person giving it out.

Anyways...I have talked to alot of people, neighbours, and her classmates parents. NO ONE has a problem with me bringing her out. Actually.....they were surprised that I was keeping her home from gymnastics today. Which...I am keeping her home from!

It is kind of scary that people now days don't understand how dangerous some of these diseases can be, and they have no problem taking sick children out into public. I am so glad that you are doing the right thing and keeping her at home.
post #111 of 156
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Well....I am not keeping her at home we are going some friends/relatives houses (it is pouring rain so we will drive) to trick or treat. They have said they have NO problem with us coming. So it is the best of both.....not spreading illness and still having fun!
post #112 of 156
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Well....I am not keeping her at home we are going some friends/relatives houses (it is pouring rain so we will drive) to trick or treat. They have said they have NO problem with us coming. So it is the best of both.....not spreading illness and still having fun!
I meant keeping her at home from gymnastics.
post #113 of 156
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Well....I am not keeping her at home we are going some friends/relatives houses (it is pouring rain so we will drive) to trick or treat. They have said they have NO problem with us coming. So it is the best of both.....not spreading illness and still having fun!
I'm glad you have found a solution. I know how disappointed she would be if she could not participate.
post #114 of 156
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This thread has given me alot to think about. One thing I have noticed is people talking about my children reaching into a bowl/bag to pick their candy. This has never happened. I don't ever remember reaching in as a kid either. Every halloween the candy is put into the bag by the person giving it out.

Anyways...I have talked to alot of people, neighbours, and her classmates parents. NO ONE has a problem with me bringing her out. Actually.....they were surprised that I was keeping her home from gymnastics today. Which...I am keeping her home from!
AIR SPACE. AIR SPACE. She is still breathing, coughing, sneezing, hacking in their air space.
post #115 of 156
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Originally Posted by momtoS View Post
This thread has given me alot to think about. One thing I have noticed is people talking about my children reaching into a bowl/bag to pick their candy. This has never happened. I don't ever remember reaching in as a kid either. Every halloween the candy is put into the bag by the person giving it out.

Anyways...I have talked to alot of people, neighbours, and her classmates parents. NO ONE has a problem with me bringing her out. Actually.....they were surprised that I was keeping her home from gymnastics today. Which...I am keeping her home from!
Seriously? People are surprised you are keeping a contagious child home????
post #116 of 156
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Anyways...I have talked to alot of people, neighbours, and her classmates parents. NO ONE has a problem with me bringing her out. Actually.....they were surprised that I was keeping her home from gymnastics today. Which...I am keeping her home from!
Do you think they feel that way because she only has two spots and they think you are overreacting by assuming it's CP, or do they seem to think it's no big deal to take a child with CP to classes and out in public in general? If it's the latter, I find that pretty disturbing.
post #117 of 156
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Do you think they feel that way because she only has two spots and they think you are overreacting by assuming it's CP, or do they seem to think it's no big deal to take a child with CP to classes and out in public in general? If it's the latter, I find that pretty disturbing.
Me too. Like I've said above, I think this attitude of taking all these things so lightly is something that has grown up since widespread vaccination and antibiotics. We all think diseases must be no big deal for everyone, MOSTLY because most of us have not had most of them, and assume that if we get them, complications are all easy to deal with using modern drugs.

I'm a big fan of modern medicine, but I'm not going to assume that the killers and maimers of the past are now "No biggie."
post #118 of 156
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Originally Posted by momtoS View Post
This thread has given me alot to think about. One thing I have noticed is people talking about my children reaching into a bowl/bag to pick their candy. This has never happened. I don't ever remember reaching in as a kid either. Every halloween the candy is put into the bag by the person giving it out.
No comment on the CP thing, but I think the bowl thing is a house-to-house preference. I like to buy a variety pack of candy b/c I like to give the kids a choice on what candy they get. It is usually just 2 different kinds. So, yes, I offer the bowl and tell them to take one

Have fun tot, Im glad you found a workable solution!
post #119 of 156
I'm a non vaxing parent. cp does not scare me. However, I would never knowingly expose other people to a sickness just because I wasn't threatened by it. I would not take her trick or treating. Maybe ask a friend to carry and extra bag and tell people they are collecting candy for their friend with cp?
post #120 of 156
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We have been invited to trick or treat a few people houses that are okay with it. Or have chicken pox themselves.
sorry didn't read all the way through the thread. that perfect!
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