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post #21 of 156
Dang, I wish you were in Iowa I'm 31 weeks preggo but I had CP 12 years ago so I'm immune, I'll move in with my mom if it means getting my kids CP (DH is immuno comprimised)

Any-hoo, I don't know if I'd do ToT...sucks that she has to miss it though...

I know how she feels though, I got CP the day after Christmas. The worst part was I didn't get to miss school. My brother got them after me...New Years day I think and he got to miss 3 or 4 days of school. So not fair.
post #22 of 156
If she dose have CP she would have already exposed anyone she has come in contact with in the last 5 days as a person with chickenpox is infectious from one to five days before the rash appears. Because the contagious period continues until all blisters have formed scabs I wouldn't take her Trick or Treating so she isn't exposing other children or adults which could include someone who has compromised immune system which could be serious as other posters have pointed out.
post #23 of 156
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I don't see how she could pass it on during ToT? She wouldn't be touching people and I could even hold her bag for her........
Chickenpox is a highly infectious disease that spreads from person to person by direct contact or by air from an infected person's coughing or sneezing.
post #24 of 156
Um, just to clarify something, the fever can come at any point with CP until they are mostly disappearing (dont always scab over ime). I and 2 of DC never had any fever at all, but the other 2 DC who did have fever, it arrived 1-2 days after I was sure it was CP.

tbh, if it was just 2 spots and no other signs of illness then I would assume it was NOT cp; it could be anything, ime.
post #25 of 156
Please don't send her to school or go ToT'ing. If you have friends who want exposure maybe you could do a Halloween party at your home instead? Frankly, this seems like a lot more fun to me anyway.

Please respect that there are kids and adults for whom CP is not a mild or benign disease.
post #26 of 156
I would not send/take her to either. And I am a big supporter of chicken pox. But when my kids had them this summer, we stayed in when they were contagious. I felt it was rude to do otherwise. OTOH, in the school situation, if her school is full of them and most of the kids have prob already been exposed, I would possibly consider sending her, except she might not be feeling quite herself, so in the end I would prob keep her home anyway.
post #27 of 156
As much as I support not vaccinating and exposing your kids to chicken pox, you really don't have the right to decide to expose other people to the disease. That's not ok. That is the sort of thing that gives non-vaxxers a bad name.
post #28 of 156
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I am keeping her home today...we had a late night and it is pouring rain too. She still has no fever and only two spots. Not itchy.

So....as it is right now I will still bring her trick or treating....I can hold her bag, and we aren't going into peoples houses so the risk for other people is very low. Especially since chicken pox is going around in general. If she gets more spots I wouldn't bring her around other people where there is more direct contact. But ToT where she is standing at the bottom of the stairs (all my neighbours have at least 4 stairs to their front door) will mean she is at least 8 feet away from them......I don't see why I would keep her home?

Also she has a sister, that has no spots (but might) and she isn't going to stay home......
post #29 of 156
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It's the pox. That's how it starts. She's going to have a lot more tomorrow. I'd keep her home.
Yep, I agree.

And you should not expose others to pox without their consent. Please keep her home!
post #30 of 156
Chickenpox is very contagious and can be spread through the air - no direct contact is needed. It can be very serious in the elderly and people who are immunocompromised. Please be considerate to your neighbors, and don't take your DD trick or treating.
post #31 of 156
I can't believe I'm reading this! It's the height of selfishness to knowingly take a child door-to-door with a highly contagious disease. I have an immune deficient child who could get seriously ill and die from it (and can't be vaccinated against it). It blows my mind that anyone thinks one night of collecting candy is worth risking my son's life. And yes, your daughter could expose others even if she doesn't touch anything.

Unreal.

Oh, I had CP on halloween when I was five. My parents kept me home, and guess what? It didn't ruin my life.
post #32 of 156
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I can't believe I'm reading this! It's the height of selfishness to knowingly take a child door-to-door with a highly contagious disease. I have an immune deficient child who could get seriously ill and die from it (and can't be vaccinated against it). It blows my mind that anyone thinks one night of collecting candy is worth risking my son's life. And yes, your daughter could expose others even if she doesn't touch anything.

Unreal.

Oh, I had CP on halloween when I was five. My parents kept me home, and guess what? It didn't ruin my life.
Yes to all of the above. I'm shocked at this mentality that your child's experience if worth causing other people to become ill. Does that Not sound incredibly selfish to you?

Have the sister bring the bag around and explain the sitch, stay home and do something special with the sick one, but please be responsible and do the right thing.
post #33 of 156
Another hand up here for keeping the kid home. I can't believe this is even a question for you. I would be horrified to know that a woman brought a kid to my home with chicken pox while I am pregnant. If you want to make the decision to expose your kid to chicken pox more power to you it is your choice. But it is not your choice to expose me or my unborn baby. Keep her home and show some respect for others.
post #34 of 156
I cannot believe this is even a question. Exposing dozens of people without their consent for the sake of a sack of candy is incredibly selfish and entitled behavior.
post #35 of 156
Is she dressing as Typhoid Mary??

I'm scratching my head over this one. Mama, are you serious? You're bringing your sick DD out door to door and risking passing this on to with a compromised immune system, someone pregnant, giving another very unlucky person a chance at shingles.... WHY??? For trick or treating? It's a fun time, but sometimes life doesn't cooperate. Promise a special make up day - maybe go out to a movie or for ice cream, stop at a toy store and let her pick out something small - anything where you're not marching an ill child to people's doorsteps.
post #36 of 156
How about this: you buy her a bunch of special treats and make up a sort of a Halloween treats bag to enjoy at home along with an evening of kid-friendly Halloween movies, games, or whatever she likes. You could even dress up in costumes if you like, and/or go visiting any family and friends to whom you've explained the situation and who are ok with being around her right now. That way she's not missing out entirely, and you're not roaming the countryside with a potentially pox infested child.
post #37 of 156
I am definitely in the no school, no trick or treating camp. FWIW I had chicken pox as a kid and it was only ever 3 little spots and no fever. I felt fine but still missed school and a birthday party for a friend. In the end my mom and I had do much fun those few days I couldn't go out that it is now a very happy childhood memory. Please don't take her out.
post #38 of 156
So you're going to take her out and expose immunocompromised people like my friend who is being treated for breast cancer???

Your dd's experience trumps someone else's right to be alive and stay healthy? Really?
post #39 of 156
Please, please keep her home. I had chicken pox as an adult, and I wouldn't wish that experience on anyone. I couldn't live with myself if I knowingly hurt or killed someone just so my daughter could go trick or treating.

My son had chicken pox over Halloween when he was 4. I bought him some of his favorite treats and we stayed home together (didn't turn on the porch light, either). My husband took my 5 year old daughter out (she had already had and recovered from the pox) and as a surprise, they took along an extra pumpkin for my son. She made out like a bandit asking everyone if she could "please have a piece of candy for my poor little brother who has the chicken pops".
post #40 of 156
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Originally Posted by momtoS View Post
I am keeping her home today...we had a late night and it is pouring rain too. She still has no fever and only two spots. Not itchy.

So....as it is right now I will still bring her trick or treating....I can hold her bag, and we aren't going into peoples houses so the risk for other people is very low. Especially since chicken pox is going around in general. If she gets more spots I wouldn't bring her around other people where there is more direct contact. But ToT where she is standing at the bottom of the stairs (all my neighbours have at least 4 stairs to their front door) will mean she is at least 8 feet away from them......I don't see why I would keep her home?

Also she has a sister, that has no spots (but might) and she isn't going to stay home......
OP, are you thinking that she doesn't have the pox at all? I don't know enough about the onset/progression but maybe you could have her checked by a doc today to confirm that she doesn't have it, so you know it's safe for her to go ToTing. If it is the pox, then you won't feel so bad keeping her home (knowing that she does have CP and not just guessing, yk?).
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