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post #41 of 69
I'm actually really grateful to read from others who have BTDT with tandem nursing a toddler with a newborn.... that it felt like it was too much, and there are regrets... this is good to know.

I have been thinking about how I feel nursing dd2 now while being pregnant. And I'm tired. I may wean fully by July. Thanks for sharing your experiences.
post #42 of 69
DD turned 2 today

And I had a long talk with DH last night and came to the decision that I would like her to wean during my pregnancy. She's had no limits her whole life and I'm so happy for all the time she's had, but I don't want to tandem nurse for a variety of reasons. I am sad to say goodbye to nursing her, but this is the right decision for us.

The first step is that we're going to nightwean her when DH has a week when he's not working. He's a freelancer with a physically demanding job so he's never helped with nighttime stuff. We're going to use Jay Gordon's plan, though we will probably accelerate it since she's 2. I'll sleep in another room until it's over. She still wakes up 3-6 times a night and I definitely can't handle that with a newborn.

After nightweaning, I'll go to "don't offer, don't refuse" and see what happens. I am pretty sure this will be the end of naps, but she's never been a reliable napper anyway so I will just deal with it.

Interestingly, before I got pregnant, she had already started transitioning to falling asleep without nursing. She'll nurse a little, then thrash around, look at her fingers, hug her baby doll, stare into the digital clock, etc. I lay there with her and if she tries talking I tell her to be quiet. Sometimes she lets me rub her back or her head but usually not. We do about 45 minutes of this before she latches on to pass out. But last night she fell asleep without the last bit of nursing. It was pretty amazing to see her naturally make that transition. This is a sign to me that she's ready for nightweaning.

Lawschoolmama--I've heard some really lovely stories about tandem nursing. It can be a wonderful choice. I highly recommend Adventures in Tandem Nursing which has great stories from tandem families.
post #43 of 69
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Originally Posted by superfastreader View Post
DD turned 2 today

We're going to use Jay Gordon's plan, though we will probably accelerate it since she's 2. I'll sleep in another room until it's over. She still wakes up 3-6 times a night and I definitely can't handle that with a newborn.
That's the method we used when DS was 18 months. DH works one week on, one week off, so we took advantage of his week off. It worked well for us, although I couldn't have done it being in another room, since it still involves nursing the first few days. Was curious what your plan for that is? I know you said you'll be accelerating it...
post #44 of 69
My 13-month-old DS is nursing strong. He nurses about 6-8 times during the day and once or twice at night. I would like to tandem and am hoping I can keep my supply up. I'm worried about this because even if it's been a year since I've nursed I can still get a few drops from my breasts. However, pregnancy seems to be the only time I dry up completely. So I may have to work really hard to keep my supply up but he's so young and I'd really like to nurse until at least 2. We'll see what happens though. I look forward to learning from everyone's experience.
post #45 of 69
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Originally Posted by mamakaryn08 View Post
That's the method we used when DS was 18 months. DH works one week on, one week off, so we took advantage of his week off. It worked well for us, although I couldn't have done it being in another room, since it still involves nursing the first few days. Was curious what your plan for that is? I know you said you'll be accelerating it...
Since she's older & already aware of what it means to fall asleep without nursing, I'll do a lot of talking with her in advance & won't use nursing from the start unless it's a total disaster.
post #46 of 69
I am pregnant with #3. I tandemed DD and DS. I weaned DD after 4months of tandeming. She was just a few months over 3 yo. We talked a lot about being done before the date. We picked a random day on a calendar and looked at it often, saying "We're this close to no more na-nas". We had a little celebration dinner after a few days of "no more na-nas". Called it a party. She still got lots of snuggles at the usual nursing time, and I don't recall it being very hard on her at all. DS will be 3 also when this baby comes, so I hope for a similar situation.

If you can handle tandem, I really think it helped DD transition. She had something special in common with this strange little person that took over 'her' family. lol We had limits though. No switching sides, and only 2 min sessions.

Good luck mamas!
post #47 of 69
I read this thread, and I'm tempted to just see how things go and consider tandeming.

on the flip side, selfishly, I want to be able to take unisom for nausea. Which is not ok while bf. DD's morning sessions are getting shorter...when I stop her in the a.m., she's pretty agreeable and ready to get up.

We'll see how it goes!
post #48 of 69
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Originally Posted by slgt View Post
I read this thread, and I'm tempted to just see how things go and consider tandeming.

on the flip side, selfishly, I want to be able to take unisom for nausea. Which is not ok while bf. DD's morning sessions are getting shorter...when I stop her in the a.m., she's pretty agreeable and ready to get up.

We'll see how it goes!
Unisom is the exact same ingredients as Benadryl, diphenhydramine. It should be fine occasionally, even while nursing
post #49 of 69
My DD is a little over 2. She nurses mostly at night since I work during the day. I will just see what happens. I'm slightly sore when she nurses but no biggie. I'm cautious since I just found out I'm pregnant and not having symptoms. I need to try to relax and stop comparing to my other pregnancies! Does anyone know if breastfeeding can cause a decrease of traditional pregnancy symptoms?
post #50 of 69
hi nursing mamas! i'm so glad there are so many of us in this ddc!

my dd is 21 months. she nurses 5-6 times throughout the day and is mostly nightweaned. she nurses to sleep at bedtime and usually wakes at 5am on the dot to nurse, then she sleeps for another 2 hours.

i haven't noticed any change in my supply yet (5w tomorrow). i would very much like to be able to nurse dd till her 2nd birthday (february) and i'm not COMPLETELY against tandem nursing, if that's what we need to do. however, even if my supply keeps up through pregnancy, i think dd will likely wean herself before july.

right now i'm just doing my best to completely enjoy dd while she is my only nursling and work with her to find other foods that interest her.
post #51 of 69
I am still nursing my almost 38 mo old son. I can't imagine him weaning because he loves his boobies & always has. He doesn't nurse much most days, but sometimes he hardly eats & just wants to nurse. I really can't figure him out. I have no problem tandem nursing. It wouldn't bother me if he weaned, but it would be easier if he didn't. He still nurses to sleep / nap, to calmdown when he's out of control & for comfort or if he's not feeling well or sick. I've been pretty sore the last week or so so if he doesn't nurse it's OK with me. I think he's the type that could wean and then go back to nursing after the baby comes. I am concered about loosing my milk though.
post #52 of 69
My youngest is 12 mos old. I'm intending to nurse through the pg and tandem, because of his age. However, Some things definitely have to change before this baby is born. Ds2 is nursing A LOT at night. I can't nurse a toddler and a newbon at night. We're still co-sleeping and I really want ds2 to be in his own bed before the baby's born. No clue how we'll do it, though because ds1 night-weaned at 3 and slept with us till he was 4.5. I'm nervous, sad, and worried about all of the transitions for ds2, being so young and nursing so much, still.
post #53 of 69
we're going to nightwean over thanksgiving, for a number of reasons. today, i brought the subject up with DD.

me: how old are you?
dd: i two.
me: are you a big girl?
dd: i a big girl.
me: did you know that big girls can sleep all night long without having meemee?
dd: yeah.
me: when daddy gets back, he'll give you hugs when you wake up and then you'll have meemee in the morning. what do you think about that?
dd: okay.

i think that went well
post #54 of 69
Greenflower, a few suggestions (that may or may not work for you depending on your set-up):

We have our king size bed on the floor, with a toddler bed pushed right up against it. Our 2 yo sleeps in it and it keeps him close enough so he's not scared, but the little barrier keeps us all happy. A lot will change between now and when our babies come, so just slowly and patiently start encouraging a little more independence. And you never know, despite your hopes for tandeming he may just decide when there's no more milk that he's done.

When nightweaning both kids (they were 2yo) I brought a banana and sippy of water to bed with us. This helped get them through the night without being hungry, and it was less disruptive to me than nursing them.

Hopefully it will be a smooth transition for you guys!
post #55 of 69
Superfastreader that was almost too easy. Time will tell when it's actually happening, how it goes down.
post #56 of 69
I am nursing ds who is 20 months. Last time i was pg my supply really dropped and i am afraid it is already happening. Ds is getting angry at the breast and squeezing it in a rhythmic milking fashion. He loves nursing and will be displeased with any drop in supply or any limit on nursing. He eats a ton of healthy food but i am nursing for the immune benefits and the comfort. I hope it stops hurting quite so bad.
post #57 of 69
I am nursing my 28 month old practically around the clock. I'm a bit nervous about drying up as he is very attached to nursing. Hopefully all goes smooth for me and all of you mamas too!
post #58 of 69
I am still nusing my 11 month old son, but we've been supplementing with formula since I went back to work in August and couldn't pump enough. I plan to continue to nurse him at LEAST through cold/flu season (I'm a middle school teacher and exposed to lots of yuckies). However, I'm going to let DS & my body figure it out after that...I think I'd prefer to wean DS before new baby arrives, but I was talking to my mom, and she said when my little brother was nursing she couldn't get me to leave her alone, and if tandem nursing had ever occured to her she would have done it. Interesting thought....
post #59 of 69
My DS is 23, almost 24 months old in a couple of weeks. In the last month or so, he's significantly cut down on his nursing sessions. I really, really want to make it to two years, and we should be able to, but I'm not sure we're going to make it much further.

I'm not sure why he's lost interest all of a sudden either. He's a total boob man, so it's weird. He has just started STTN over the last month or two, so that might be it too, but even during the day, he's just not interested like he used to be.

I would love to Tandem nurse. I've heard lots of stories of children weaning themselves through pregnancy and then picking it up again when Mama is nursing the baby. So maybe that'll happen here?

Odd question though- is anyone only having pain in one nipple? It's not thrush or anything. It's just one nipple seems to be more sensitive then the other when he latches on. It's bizarre.
post #60 of 69
I'm ssslllloooowwwlllyy cutting back on nursing with dd2 because I need to nightwean her by the time the newborn comes. She doesn't like that. Who can blame her?

I've noticed for several nights now she wakes up at 5 a.m. asking for a bottle of milk or juice. I can hear her gulping my milk at times but my supply must have gone down if she's asking for a drink. I keep a sippy cup of water and a cracker on the headboard.

Sigh, she's just not happy about nightweaning. We have months to go............
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