Beastie - I think picking a new topic to chat about is a god idea
Are going to/Did you find out the sex of your baby? What was your reasoning for finding out vs. waiting?
AFM: We are waiting until the birth. I never really had strong feelings about it, but DP kind of wanted to wait, and now I'm glad we are. My main reasons are:
- Hoping to cut down on some of the hyper-gendered gifts pre-birth.
- It would be so nice if DP could be the one to announce the sex at the birth
- I have a part of me that is hoping for a girl, and I think that at an ultra sound I might be disappointed with learning it's a boy, but how can you be disappointed when someone is handing you your baby? All those hormones, sense of accomplishment, recognition of your little one - there can't be any room for it to be any other way in that moment
I've been surprised at the reactions we've gotten. There are plenty in the normal range from "Oh, good for you - so much will power" to "Oh no! I can't wait that long to find out!". But some people have been downright aggressive about it. We've been asked how we are going to prepare. We couldn't possibly buy gender neutral things or - GOD FORBID - something blue or pink that we would use with the "wrong" sex. One neighbor has actually told us that we need to find out because we are going to be too tired and overwhelmed in those first few days to go out shopping. In his mind, it was totally impossible to buy anything without knowing the sex. So crazy!
I'm not against finding out - in fact part of me still wants to sometimes, but I certainly didn't expect to come across so much resistance to waiting!