How do you bring up the subject?

[mama2landon]

A friend of mine is now pregnant with her first, a boy. We were really good friends a few years ago, but have kind of lost touch unfortunately, and I haven't seen her in over a year. We do keep in touch via email and phone calls, but we've grown a little bit more distant than we were.

Anyway, I want to ask her which way she is going on the circ issue, but I have no idea how to bring it up. I know for me, I never even thought about not doing it until I discovered that my son's father was adamantly anti-circ, and then I did some research on my own. I was so relieved that it was brought to my attention before I did anything that couldn't be undone. Now I kind of would like to bring the subject up with her, in case she hasn't really done any thinking on it yet.

I feel awkward- I know its none of my business really, but I also feel like I should at least make an attempt to raise her awareness if she hasn't thought about it. Can anyone recommend a casaul, gentle, non-confrontational way to bring it up, by email or by phone?

TIA

[Heavenly]

I would go at it very lighthearted. Something like, "Hey, I hope the pregnancy is going well. I can't wait to meet your little one! I just thought I would forward you an article someone sent me when I was pregnant. It really opened my eyes and taught me a lot. Here it is: http://www.oknocirc.blogspot.com/ . After I read that I did some more research as well so if you want any more info on it let me know. I also have scads of info on breastfeeding and cloth diapering and all that jazz so if you need a walking baby encyclopedia let me know! lol Talk to you soon!"

This method is good because it doesn't put you as the expert, it's just something you learned from someone else. Also by mentioning some other parenting stuff you aren't just making it a circ e-mail, it's just about baby care. Of course re-write it in your own talking style but I would definitely go with something lightehearted.

[mama2landon]

Thank you, this was very helpful! It has just the right sort of casual tone I was looking for, I just couldn't seem to get it on my own. And the link is great, so thank you for that, too.

Originally Posted by Heavenly

I would go at it very lighthearted. Something like, "Hey, I hope the pregnancy is going well. I can't wait to meet your little one! I just thought I would forward you an article someone sent me when I was pregnant. It really opened my eyes and taught me a lot. Here it is: http://www.oknocirc.blogspot.com/ . After I read that I did some more research as well so if you want any more info on it let me know. I also have scads of info on breastfeeding and cloth diapering and all that jazz so if you need a walking baby encyclopedia let me know! lol Talk to you soon!"

This method is good because it doesn't put you as the expert, it's just something you learned from someone else. Also by mentioning some other parenting stuff you aren't just making it a circ e-mail, it's just about baby care. Of course re-write it in your own talking style but I would definitely go with something lightehearted.