Anxiety relaxation/natural remedies ?

[MommytoB]

I have one big major stressor my usual the Mom whose who usual critical snappy stuff even though its because of her whirlpool relationship with her hubby & it gets her into big bad mood swings that makes her unhappy with every single thing that many people do which I get the brute of it .

So she's really good with my boy and hasn't been bad to him & he loves his grandma so I keep her in my life for my son's sake .

her habbits and my stepfathers habbits are stressing me out so bad that I'm getting dizzy, backaches, hot flashes, feeling as if the walls are spinning . I feel at times I'm walking on air and my whole body tenses ! Usually when I was around her likt that I would end up drinking sugary pop that relaxed me so now I'm prohibiting me of drinking that for tummy & health sake .

So if I'm forced to be with her for my son's sake so how would be an easier way to cope naturally because breathing in & out during snappy /annoying behavior is not an easy thing to do ! Then trying to relax after a near 30 minutes of snappy behavior is not easy to do either .

Because I do take anxiety medicine only once in awhile not always but nearly mostly whenever i'm around my mom & stepfather .

So i'm wanting to find a natural way to be able to reduce my stress around her because its affecting my mind & phsycial sense that isn't good for my immune system but will end up being forced to be around her for my son's sake at certain times .

Any ideas ?

[CrunchyChristianMama]

It sounds to me like you need to sit down and have a good talk with them. Nothing you can take (pill or remedy or such) is going to make the behavior go away.

Also, try looking at her the way your son looks at her. See her for the good parts of her. If you need to leave to get away from comments for a while, then do so. But feel free to speak to her about why you needed to do so. Explain that you really want to be a part of their lives and want them to have a relationship with their grandson, but that some boundaries need to be set up.

[MommytoB]

Sit down and talk with them as in confronting their behavior my stepfather hears nothing and mom goes blocks her ears and goes la la la (not kidding) . I have tried to be so nice to them and she's like acting as if I'm so fake at being nice to her as if I treat her to be the brat hence after confrontation of her behavior which she thinks I hate her guts which I don't because at every nice gesture I do she is like oh you will be nice to me now but later on your going to be mean to me which is me confronting her on her true behavior of how she is treating me . I have Never ever done anything mean to her and I do more for her than much of the family so I don't know what to do because I'm forced to be around her for my son's sake . Even my brother thinks I'm picking on her even though he is more of what she 'sees as a "normal mainstream parent' .

She used to be so darn well scared of me being a parent because she couldn't believe I would be a good parent which sadly my closest family relationship I will ever have now is between my son & I . Along with our cat and Brendan does have times he stresses me out but i take my tension tamer tea & relax like really well .

[kjbrown92]

1. How do you think this is good for your son?
2. Magnesium Glycinate helped my anxiety. Also taking food intolerances out of my diet did a major reduction on my anxiety.

[FrannieP]

I second the magnesium suggestion.
And I really love Native Remedies' Pure Calm.
Homeopathic Calms Forte?
Rescue Remedy?

[MommytoB]

As I said My mom treats my son exceptionally well and they love being around each other so I believe that is good for my son because why take away his privelege of being around a grandma who is loving to him just because I get picked on it's like me punishing him for him not doing anything wrong .

I have tried rescue remedy didn't help but haven't tried any others . What food intolerances would create anxiety - because I stopped drinking soda beverages , I do have bloating/gas issues so I been removing milk products & end up drinking rice milk .

Would rice milk be a food intolerant ? Should I drink other dairy free products?

I used to eat alot of sugar and now i proably only have sugar like once a month .

I been drinking Green Tea (all natural) caffeine free

I also been drinking alot of real fruit/veggie juices instead of regular juices.

Filtered Water now that gets drinking .

i stay away from artifical sweetners .

[CrunchyChristianMama]

Originally Posted by MommytoB

I used to eat alot of sugar and now i proably only have sugar like once a month .

I also been drinking alot of real fruit/veggie juices instead of regular juices.

Sugar can have an effect on anxiety, and even real fruit juice is the fructose (sugar) part of the fruit. I would never recommend drinking much (if any) if you are trying to avoid sugar.

[Sharoncute]

Be sure you're up on your vitamins. The Bs help with things like this. Try a B vitamin supplement if you can. (I used to jump a mile at any sudden noise, but now don't have that reaction anymore -- unless I forget my vitamins!)

I'd also endorse chamomile tea or drops, valerian, and kava kava root. These are great. Do one at a time, of course.

Lavender fragrance can also be relaxing.

[SandyMom]

There are some good ideas here:
Natural Remedies For Anxiety

GABA works well also.

[kjbrown92]

Originally Posted by MommytoB

I have tried rescue remedy didn't help but haven't tried any others . What food intolerances would create anxiety - because I stopped drinking soda beverages , I do have bloating/gas issues so I been removing milk products & end up drinking rice milk .

Would rice milk be a food intolerant ? Should I drink other dairy free products?

I used to eat alot of sugar and now i proably only have sugar like once a month .

For me it was gluten (it also caused bloating for me).

[mummytoH]

I was recommended L-Theanine for PMS & stress

http://www.theanine.co.uk/

It's the active 'ingredient' in green tea & I find it really calms me. It is expensive (here in the UK anyway) compared to other supplements, but you only take it when you need it, rather than every day.

[Panserbjorne]

It is my experience that rescue remedy rarely (if ever) works for anxiety. It's more for acute trauma and shock. People with anxiety do better on different flowers.

I would suggest looking into B vitamins as has already been posted. Magnesium is another biggie. Avoid sugar at all costs, and eat properly (for you) to feel balanced. When I would get anxious I'd be more prone to reach for carbs which would feel okay in the moment but then I'd crash and it would make it worse.

I'm with Kathy that gluten, not dairy was more responsible for my bloating and anxiety. I never get as bad as I once was, but if I have slip ups now I feel a wee bit more fried. I don't hit anxiety, but I can clearly see that if I persisted I'd be there in short order.

I love drinking an infusion of nettles, oatsraw and lemonbalm which is excellent for B vitamin, trace minerals and oatstraw and lemonbalm are both nervines and great for anxiety.

Beyond that it does seem that you should address the issue...but hopefully these measure will get you to a place where you *can.*

[SandyMom]

I love drinking an infusion of nettles, oatsraw and lemonbalm which is excellent for B vitamin, trace minerals and oatstraw and lemonbalm are both nervines and great for anxiety.

Do you feel lemon balm would be okay for someone with low thyroid? I love lemon balm - but haven't used it since hypo dx.

[nichole]

Originally Posted by Sharoncute

Be sure you're up on your vitamins. The Bs help with things like this. Try a B vitamin supplement if you can. (I used to jump a mile at any sudden noise, but now don't have that reaction anymore -- unless I forget my vitamins!)

I'd also endorse chamomile tea or drops, valerian, and kava kava root. These are great. Do one at a time, of course.

Lavender fragrance can also be relaxing.

This is an old thread, but I was doing a search on kava. Has anyone tried kava kava root or valerian? Does it make you sleepy? I don't want to fall asleep in the afternoons, but I often feel stressed about that time when I have to get my son off the bus, start dinner, help with homework, etc.

Right now I like tension tamer tea and Nighty Night tea (neither really put me to sleep, just help with relaxing).

Also I was reading about shitake mushrooms (for energy). Sounds great!

Sorry to hijack. How are things going OP? I think the mag suggestion and b vitamins are helpful as mentioned.