Originally Posted by Rosehip
So, those of you who do online dating - how do you approach contacting or responding? Do you have criteria for who you'll open a conversation with? A guy contacted me last night who says he's a part-time CIA operative?? Is he for real? In his photo he's wearing a Navy t-shirt...
:Puke Yeah I'm sure actual CIA operatives tell people they don't know about it on the internet.
: Run far far away from that loser.
Yeah I have criteria. If someone has a cool profile, I'll be receptive to their emails and even email them a one line greeting/salutation (but never automated winks/messages, always a few words of my own and I always ignore winks/automatically-generated-phrases), and if they don't peak my interest at all I ignore. This means men under 6' get ignored, men without degrees get ignored, men not in my city, etc... it ain't fair and it ain't pretty but it isn't my charity work in life, it's finding someone I want to sleep next to and it's not
fair and totally subjective and my call.
Originally Posted by sugarmoon
I think he's got promise. I'm liking the older men thing
And I'm a pretty casual, mimimal make up kind of girl (and the pics I've sent him certainly reflect that) so it seems like it would be odd to do more.
BUT...it is still a first date, and I want to look GOOD. What do you think?
I'm liking the older guy thing too.
Then I realize I'd be a 37 year old girlfriend/wife helping to throw his 50th birthday party and that sounds odd. Eh, not that odd.
: It's not like he's losing his hair, short, or small. (yes I'm cruelly superficial and only like very tall, broad shouldered men that make me feel delicate and feminine in comparison, who don't suffer from receeding hairlines and have lush, thick hair. I'm a gene-hunting nazi when it comes to who I want to blend my DNA with for potential future offspring, perhaps but it's all subconscious and only discovered after tons of anecdotal evidence produced a convincing trend, in retrospect so forgive me for finally just addmitting/embracing it rather than living in denial about it).
You do wanna look good. I second the advice about carefully applied makeup, but makeup that is hard to detect. Eye makeup that makes your lashes and eyes stand out and perhaps even line/fill your lips as well in a color that isn't too far away from your own but just makes them stand out more noticably, and look a hair fuller, and a good job with moisturizer and follow dab of fresh and non-cakey-looking foundation to give your skin a smooth, even, healthy glowing sort of look. I have this Shisedo foundation stick in an oversized-lipstick-tube sort of thing that i stumbled upon while kililng time in an airport cosmetics section on a layover that when I swipe it across my T-zone simply looks like I'm using an eraser to erase any discoloration whatsoever without the makeup itself being detectable, it blends in so perfectly to my pale, golden skin color. It's awesome for just under the eyes near the nose, the lids themselves as a base for eyeshadow to stick, and any past or present blemish whatsoever and to give me a flawless, even complexion elsewhere. But you really can't see it and it doesn't settle into lines around my eyes and mouth adding extra years to my face like some foundation does (making nearly imperceptible fine lines look quite perceptible, making me hate that foundation and prefer to go naked-faced and young looking than made-up and older!!). Do your eyebrows, find the right skin/lip and even eyeshadow colors (neutral, lighter tones of course, and contoured on your lid following the way that your lid naturally IS darker in certain areas--just play that up with a very light touch and fluffy eye shadow applicator brush and you can make it look natural and not obvious) ......and you can do the made-up-without-looking-like-you're-wearing-makeup look so when you look in the mirror you get a jolt of confidence and are ready to show that man your face and flash your most relaxed smile because of how 'on' you feel.
Outfit wise, go with the top and bottoms (and shoes) that are the most figure flattering you have, so you walk as tall (with as straight posture) as possible, from confidence. Standing up tall with shoulders back (without looking like an arrogant catwalk-wannabe of course) does more for your look than any other quick fix I can possibly recommend.
Try to wear something that makes you feel yourself, but feminine, and you'll move like a lady and feel like one, head held high.