*~*'~* November Dating Thread *~*'~* How proactive are you when it comes to finding prospects? - Page 8

[DanishMom]

Hi mamas,

I found some great dresses at Nordstrom. Any other places like that that I haven't heard of??? There are just endless possibilites when it comes to buying dresses and rings online!

I would love a vintage dress butterflymom but they all seem to be a size 2 or 4. Didn't woman eat back then

[sugarmoon]

Originally Posted by Holland73

Well, Mr. Paralegal pretty much texted me throughout his entire guys' motorcycle tour weekend!!! It was really nice!

He called last night just to see what my plans were for the week and to see if we could get together. We booked a Friday date night and also talked about him coming over to my place one evening after ds goes to bed. I just wanted to be able to spend some time with him, getting to know him a bit better, on my own turf... in a place where I feel most comfortable and open.

Sounds great Holland! I like those home, after bed time dates as well. Keep us posted....

Originally Posted by Holland73

Sugarmoon: Your coffee date sounded like it went VERY well!! So, what did you end up wearing????

Ha! You're cute. I wore: My nicest jeans, a low cut dark rinse pair that make my butt look great, heeled boots, and my black cowl neck sweater. In the end, I did run to the drug store before the date, and then to my bff's house, and put on tinted moisturizer, some subtle blush, lipstick (my new fave, I finally found one that is natural enough to wear every day, but shows up enough to make me want to bother wearing it!), and mascara. A little perfume...

I was glad I had the heels -- he is 6'4". He told me later that his only criteria when looking at women online (besides seeming totally crazy in their profile, of course) was that they be at least 5'5". I laughed -- my ad had said 5'5", but really I'm somewhere between 5'4" and 5'5" and put both numbers down, kind of indiscriminately, whenever I'm filling in my height. Glad I erred on the tall side the day I did that profile...

Although, in all seriousness, it was a good little reminder to me about how silly it is to be a stickler about those details of criteria we have

Originally Posted by DanishMom

Seie: I'm really sorry you are in this position. BTDT despite the happy outcome. I would love to talk to you on the phone if you feel like it. I've got too much to say on the subject to write it all down here.

Oh, I hope you two can talk. Hugs, Seie, that is a tough position to be in.

Originally Posted by Butterflymom

Ok riddle me this: CH says and acts like he's totally falling in love with me. But when it was time for him to leave from my place and go to the airport for a 5 day business trip to Germany, he whispered "I love you" and then left ...and I didn't say it back but I tried to give him meaningful, positive eye contact as he left but it was kinda dark so I ended up feeling irritated that he threw that out there and then put me in a weird position of not being willing to say it after 6 days but not wanting to discourage the thing that's developing between us either. argh. :

Yeah, that is just not fair, to put that out there, on you, so soon. And then not to text you back??? Crummy. I hope you are back here, SOON, with an update that his phone was off, he was in a very long very important meeting...SOMETHING..and that he has now called you back!

[MsChatsAlot]

Originally Posted by sugarmoon

He told me later that his only criteria when looking at women online (besides seeming totally crazy in their profile, of course) was that they be at least 5'5". I laughed -- my ad had said 5'5", but really I'm somewhere between 5'4" and 5'5" and put both numbers down, kind of indiscriminately, whenever I'm filling in my height. Glad I erred on the tall side the day I did that profile...

Isn't it crazy to think he may have missed out on an incredible woman because of half an inch!?!?!

It sounds like you had fun!!! I'm glad you bounced your height up and had a great time with him!

Holland...Hooray!

DanishMom...Happy dress hunting!

Seie...I'm hoping you find your way through this obstacle.

Butterfly...!??!! Men are hard to figure sometimes!

[JohnnysGirl]

So,

He texted. He says he's been enjoying my messages but way way too busy to answer. And he has been missing me like crazy.

During today I've realized that I'm really really into him.

[MsChatsAlot]

Originally Posted by Butterflymom

He texted. He says he's been enjoying my messages but way way too busy to answer. And he has been missing me like crazy.

During today I've realized that I'm really really into him.

[DanishMom]

Originally Posted by Butterflymom

He texted. He says he's been enjoying my messages but way way too busy to answer. And he has been missing me like crazy.

During today I've realized that I'm really really into him.

I'm so happy for you. He sounds great. And isn't much more fun to date someone who is crazy about you compared to dating another commitmentscared player type of guy. He does sound as if he was the guy who to invent the ice scraper :-).

He is a lucky guy!!!

[Labbemama]

I met a nice, hot, intelligent 5th year med student at the dog park.
Too bad it is so nasty out. I met him there last monday and he seemed like a discliplined, kind, smart, guy who my dog liked. I think he was checking me out while my friend was talking about her lab mice. And he works out 2 hours a day, studies a couple more hours, then walks his and his mom's dog.
Does that mean he lives with mom?

He was super hot. I'm not ready to date, but when I am I might meet someone at the dog park. I don't want another couch potato.

[sugarmoon]

Hooooooooooooooooooooooooooooray! Butterfly!

I'm so excited for you! More pictures! As soon as he gets back!

I need nickname for my guy, I think he's going to be around for a while :.

He's such a mellow person, so different from other men I've been involved with -- my xh, complications, the hot surgeon I was crushing on this summer, the business developer/investor I was writing to over the winter...they're all these men whose egos are all tied up in their accomplishments.

This guy isn't like that at all. In fact, he's so not like that, it is the only thing that give me pause about him. But, it's not like he's done nothing with his life either -- he has done a lot of cooking, managing restarants, worked as a bicycle messenger, worked with people with developmental disabilities, traveled. And now he's getting a Masters degree to become a teacher.

In any case, it is very enjoyable to spend time with him. And you know, at this point, I'm very clear that I want to continue working on my life being financially/emotionally/socially sustainable on my own. A guy is icing. So as long as his life is sustainable and stable, I don't really care.

He has free time. He does cool things. He makes art, he has odd ball collections of things to make stuff with, even though he hasn't figured out what to make yet. He mentors a kid who doesn't want to play basketball with him, so he let the kid bring his friend and took them ice skating, where he fell on his ass a bunch of times./

I'm just so "awwwwwww"

I feel like a big dork. What was that I was saying, just the other week, Butterfly, about not wanting to even deal with a relationship??

I want to see him, again, now. We had spent about 20 minutes together, in between his jobs this afternoon (working with a dd guy and the restaurant job), and he has since sent me 2 sweet text messages.

He told me he was talking to his sister last night, after I left, and told her that he had a coffee date that lasted for 7 hours. She was all excited and wanted details and he was all...nope.

Cute cute cute. eeeeeeeeeeek.

[Holland73]

OMG, Mr. Paralegal is coming over tonight after ds goes to bed!!!

We have been texting all day and when I asked what he was doing tonight, he told me he was going to watch Monday Night Football and go to bed early because work will be crazy busy since he has been out of the office for 2 days.

Then, I asked him if he told his buddies about me and he said "Yes." When I asked what he told them, he replied, "It was too long to text about." So, I told him to call and tell me. Then, he texted, "OK, send me your address and tell me what time you want me to be there." He then proceeded to tell me that engaging conversation with me won out Monday night football!!!

Also, take in mind, it is also about a 20-25 minute drive for him to get here!

[*MamaJen*]

I haven't posted about it much, but things are going great with the jazz composer. He's wrapping up a project and hopefully headed back to town in the next couple weeks -- possibly staying for good.
I don't want to jinx it, but I like him so much and he's given me all the indications he feels the same about me. I'm pretty much just holding my breath until I can see him again.
In the meantime, there have been many smutty emails to pass the time.

[monkey'smom]

I ended up meeting up with the guy I posted about in the last thread. We went out for drinks at a really nice place in town that I enjoy, we had a few drinks, it was fun. He's really nice...and that's about it. I enjoy his company. We met up a few nights later to watch movies, and again, it was fun, but there are no sparks there. We still chat though, and it's all good, I've definitely made a new friend, and with not knowing many people here, I'm all for that.

Speaking of friends, I have a friend who made it quite clear in the spring that he was into me. We have been friends for about three years now. Up until recently, we would talk almost daily and meet up about once a week for coffee, drinks, a show, whatever. We always had fun together. He told me in the spring that he had feelings for me, I let him know that it was only friendship on my end. He can't seem to accept that. I got weirded out during the summer because he was sending upwards of three messages a day, and seemed to be analyzing every move I made, I let him know that I wasn't comfortable with it. We discussed it some more, and after not seeing each other or talking to each other for about a month, he asked me to meet him for a drink on friday night, and said that he missed my friendship. When we met up, he said he was going to see a band that night ( which is my friends band, and I was going to go as well, after we were done) so we took a cab together. Once we got there, he would NOT leave my side. And got upset when I talked to anyone else. So, I decided to leave. And he tried to get me to go to his place to talk. And when I suggested he stay to hear the music, he said " I only came to spend time with you" argh. this situation needs to end. I cannot be friends with someone who wants more and gets upset with me when I am not offering else. I'm thinking that I need to cut ties completely, but that will be tricky since we have gotten close, and even my son knows him now and enjoys him, and he has gotten to be friends with some of my friends.

Now, the guy that I have had an insane crush on for quite awhile is back in town. I was interested in him last year, and we hooked up and spent time together in the spring. He moved two provinces away, and I of course spent all summer thinking about him, and not being receptive to any one else, because I was SO into him. Now, according to a facebook message he is home for awhile, and we are going to be at the same place on saturday night. You would think I would be SO stoked ( which is what I thought) but already, I'm thinking , meh. HUH? obviously, my feelings were so intense because I knew he was moving, and being 2000 km's away was pretty safe.
Hello, obviously I have some issues I need to work out.

[JohnnysGirl]

Originally Posted by monkey'smom

I You would think I would be SO stoked ( which is what I thought) but already, I'm thinking , meh. HUH? obviously, my feelings were so intense because I knew he was moving, and being 2000 km's away was pretty safe.
Hello, obviously I have some issues I need to work out.

That is odd! And that friend of yours is kind of an ass. Majorly manipulative. You should be even MORE clear with him one final time that he will have to do a complete overhaul about his acceptance of friends-only-zone he's in, and even be the kind of friend that would be excited about you meeting someone (well he'd have to fake it for awhile until it felt genuine) or then you can't be friends.

Originally Posted by Labbemama

I met a nice, hot, intelligent 5th year med student at the dog park. .

You haven't asked him if he lives with his mom yet? : Just keep talking to him and keep us posted.

Originally Posted by Holland73

OMG, Mr. Paralegal is coming over tonight after ds goes to bed!!!!

I want details!! : We all want details, I'm sure! and Hooray for men who prioritize women over monday night football!!!! Absolutely!

Originally Posted by *MamaJen*

I don't want to jinx it, but I like him so much and he's given me all the indications he feels the same about me.

Totally awesome

Originally Posted by sugarmoon

Hooooooooooooooooooooooooooooray! Butterfly!

I'm so excited for you! More pictures! As soon as he gets back!

Thanks. But he's super un-photogenic if I judge off of the photos he has on facebook, so it might be hard to find a flattering shot of him.

Originally Posted by sugarmoon

I need nickname for my guy, I think he's going to be around for a while :.

Want help brainstorming nicknames?

Originally Posted by sugarmoon

I feel like a big dork. What was that I was saying, just the other week, Butterfly, about not wanting to even deal with a relationship??

: And I knew if you met someone you got butterflies about it would change! It all sounds so so sweet, especially the sweet text messages so soon after squeezing in those 20 minutes together.

Originally Posted by DanishMom

I'm so happy for you. He sounds great. And isn't much more fun to date someone who is crazy about you compared to dating another commitmentscared player type of guy. He does sound as if he was the guy who to invent the ice scraper :-).

He is a lucky guy!!!

yes, I'm lucky, too. To clue the rest of ya'll in, I told DM on the phone last weekend that this guy is is such an ice scraper type dude that it's like he would have been the one to invent the device.

but ya'll........ I'm feeling something brand new here. it's remarkably much like nausea. This tight, queasy feeling in the pit of my stomach that is, I think, fear regarding getting really into someone and all the vulnerability inherent in doing such a thing. I know that he's more than mutually into me, to the point of making it clear he's falling for me, fast and hard (I mean he also told me he loved me before he left after our marathon, 10 hour first date) but still..... he's had girlfriends, and dumped them after some months, in the past 3 years since his divorce, so it's not like there's no risk with this.

I'm practically on pins and needles to get another sweet text from him.

Oh I forgot to even update you guys. I called him last night but he was sleeping. He woke up and answered me anyway, and we talked for a long time. I described where my head was at and he said the most sweet and encouraging things that I've maybe ever heard a man say to me. He is very much looking forward to getting back from Germany and being with me next weekend, and is making plans about what he feels will be the best possible way to spend our time so that I can really get to know all sides of him better, flaws and all. You see, I've made a big hoo-haa to him last night about how loving someone's flaws is when you know you are truly in love, and so far he's so darned perfect in every way that that's kind of what's giving me pause at all.... you can't fall in love or be in love with some saint you put up on a pedestal in your mind. I need him to be human with defects so that I can really fall in love with him, and his response was that he has some idea he's hatching for taking me somewhere and explaining sides of himself he feels I haven't seen yet, so that I can get a truly whole picture. I'm on board. I'm not sure what he means but I am hardly nervous that it's any big issue. We'll see. He's nervous that seeing his less-than-perfect sides will make me not like him, but he said he's willing to be totally open with me anyway and take that chance, and he'll just have treasure the thoughts he has of him and me together, right here and now during this week while he's away, and enjoy "this feeling he has no words for" until we are back together this weekend and exploring the nuances of one another more thoroughly.

[DanishMom]

Seie: I just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking about you and I'm here if you need me.

[sugarmoon]

Originally Posted by *MamaJen*

I haven't posted about it much, but things are going great with the jazz composer. He's wrapping up a project and hopefully headed back to town in the next couple weeks -- possibly staying for good.
I don't want to jinx it, but I like him so much and he's given me all the indications he feels the same about me. I'm pretty much just holding my breath until I can see him again.
In the meantime, there have been many smutty emails to pass the time.

Sounds great, Jen! I am big fan of smutty emails

Originally Posted by Holland73

OMG, Mr. Paralegal is coming over tonight after ds goes to bed!!!

We have been texting all day and when I asked what he was doing tonight, he told me he was going to watch Monday Night Football and go to bed early because work will be crazy busy since he has been out of the office for 2 days.

Then, I asked him if he told his buddies about me and he said "Yes." When I asked what he told them, he replied, "It was too long to text about." So, I told him to call and tell me. Then, he texted, "OK, send me your address and tell me what time you want me to be there." He then proceeded to tell me that engaging conversation with me won out Monday night football!!!

Also, take in mind, it is also about a 20-25 minute drive for him to get here!

That is great, Holland. Update??

Butterfly has nicknamed my guy Artsy Teacher Guy, which seems to work. I put another pic of him up privately, for those of you who want to see...

[DanishMom]

Originally Posted by Butterflymom

yes, I'm lucky, too. To clue the rest of ya'll in, I told DM on the phone last weekend that this guy is is such an ice scraper type dude that it's like he would have been the one to invent the device.

but ya'll........ I'm feeling something brand new here. it's remarkably much like nausea. This tight, queasy feeling in the pit of my stomach that is, I think, fear regarding getting really into someone and all the vulnerability inherent in doing such a thing. I know that he's more than mutually into me, to the point of making it clear he's falling for me, fast and hard (I mean he also told me he loved me before he left after our marathon, 10 hour first date) but still..... he's had girlfriends, and dumped them after some months, in the past 3 years since his divorce, so it's not like there's no risk with this.

I'm practically on pins and needles to get another sweet text from him.

Oh I forgot to even update you guys. I called him last night but he was sleeping. He woke up and answered me anyway, and we talked for a long time. I described where my head was at and he said the most sweet and encouraging things that I've maybe ever heard a man say to me. He is very much looking forward to getting back from Germany and being with me next weekend, and is making plans about what he feels will be the best possible way to spend our time so that I can really get to know all sides of him better, flaws and all. You see, I've made a big hoo-haa to him last night about how loving someone's flaws is when you know you are truly in love, and so far he's so darned perfect in every way that that's kind of what's giving me pause at all.... you can't fall in love or be in love with some saint you put up on a pedestal in your mind. I need him to be human with defects so that I can really fall in love with him, and his response was that he has some idea he's hatching for taking me somewhere and explaining sides of himself he feels I haven't seen yet, so that I can get a truly whole picture. I'm on board. I'm not sure what he means but I am hardly nervous that it's any big issue. We'll see. He's nervous that seeing his less-than-perfect sides will make me not like him, but he said he's willing to be totally open with me anyway and take that chance, and he'll just have treasure the thoughts he has of him and me together, right here and now during this week while he's away, and enjoy "this feeling he has no words for" until we are back together this weekend and exploring the nuances of one another more thoroughly.

I'm so happy for you. I did get the feeling that there was something different with this guy. I sensed it when we last talked. I'm so glad you took the advice

[DanishMom]

opinions please mamas - I love these wedding bands:

http://www.gordonsjewelers.com/produ...ltsPerPage=215

http://www.gordonsjewelers.com/produ...ltsPerPage=215

http://www.gordonsjewelers.com/produ...ltsPerPage=215

http://www.dinguldsmedonline.dk/shop...uld-1506p.html

The last one was my favorite at first but now I'm thinking boring!

Thank you ladies!

[JohnnysGirl]

I like the one with the diamond. However, I'm into more flashy rings so I'm the last person to ask.

[DanishMom]

Originally Posted by Butterflymom

I like the one with the diamond. However, I'm into more flashy rings so I'm the last person to ask.

I know, I'm not really into the flashy stuff (and that's another reason why we make such great friends - we never fight over the same things). I love the multi coloured one.

BTW: Can you send me an email to my cybercity account. I can't get your address for some reason. I want to send you links to the dresses.

[Rosehip]

DM: I like the diamond! The others are men's, I think. Do they have women's versions?

Ok, ladies. I'm in a fashion panic! Squash partner has asked me to go out dancing - to a dance party - that a bunch of his friends are going to. I have no idea what to wear. Help me! I've got a VERY limited wardrobe, and a particularly miserable shoe selection (2 nice pairs of pumps - one blue, one kind of a subtle/small houndstooth black/grey, and then black leather boots with a heel). Any ideas?

[DanishMom]

Originally Posted by Rosehip

DM: I like the diamond! The others are men's, I think. Do they have women's versions?

Ok, ladies. I'm in a fashion panic! Squash partner has asked me to go out dancing - to a dance party - that a bunch of his friends are going to. I have no idea what to wear. Help me! I've got a VERY limited wardrobe, and a particularly miserable shoe selection (2 nice pairs of pumps - one blue, one kind of a subtle/small houndstooth black/grey, and then black leather boots with a heel). Any ideas?

Yes, they have women's versions.

What kind of dance party?