Originally Posted by ExuberantDaffodil
Well, as an update to the MIL stuff -- hubby had a long talk with her on the phone last night. And her feelings are still
hurt and she still feels like it isn't right that my family gets shown "preference" -- and evidently the wedding was mentioned, as well. We had planned a very tiny, low-budget, intimate, outside wedding (for which I wore a home-made dress and was barefoot...), and when my MIL tried to offer very glitzy suggestions, we had to keep reminding her of our vision for the wedding. Evidently this is still a sore spot. And now I'm being the mean (and weird) DIL by requesting that I have 2-3 hours after the birth to rest a bit, bond with the baby, and get cleaned up.
I think my husband's family thinks I was one weird hippy.
Don't give in to her, she is having an adult-sized tantrum.
She's having to learn the hard way that other ppl have their healthy boundaries and her desires won't always be fulfilled;
I can guess most ppl she has met or who she is related to have eventually caved to her and her demands and now she has learned that this is a way to get what she wants.
Only now, she has come up against you!
Good for you for staying true to what is best for you at this time!
Sorry you are the one she has to "re-learn on"
It's her turn to learn to be an adult and respect someone else's needs.
(Maybe there is something else she could do to be involved, though? Something that might make her feel really important that still maintains the space you need? Work up something and make sure DH says something about it being something that no one else has done--hehe, or something your own mother wanted to do but that you two saved JUST FOR HER, bwah, haha, but is SUPER important and this is her chance to really shine and then butter her up about it afterwards. I would have fun with her ,
I dunno, kind of a hard one to judge from here, you know best...)